how my wife and I communicate when we miss each other
"why r u smiling at ur phone" bc my friebds 🌈🌈🥰🌞 and i love friend 😊😊😊🫂💞 Friends 👍👍🌈 And im Happy 😊😊🫂💞👍🌈
i like that zionist arguments are not actually working on anyone anymore and it's all just mostly theatre but every now and then you'll come across someone trying to convince you that zionist arguments hold water, like "actually you're misinformed, israel needed to annex this land and keep people under military occupation and kill 2% of gaza's population and starve everyone and destroy every single hospital and every single university for security reasons" and you're supposed to be like oh right of course for security reasons my bad
Shoutout to my dad who accidentally moved into an up and coming black lgbt neighborhood and was very disappointed to learn that all of his “new friends” weren’t actually interested in how to use iNaturalist or where he saw coyotes on his walks 😔🙏🏻
"cozy game" maybe for YOU. I have spreadsheets
who up hating pop psychology
the asexual double edged sword is that a lot of people, particularly queer discoursers(tm) online, are really really rancid about ace people who have sex, I mean like stunningly awful, so naturally sex favorable/indifferent asexuals will be very keen on making sure that they aren't erased within their own community and that people at large know they exist. at the same time, people are also Very Bad about ace people who don't have sex, and sex averse/repulsed asexuals face a lot of pressure both on societal and interpersonal scales to submit to sex that they don't want, and so naturally it'll really rub them the wrong way to constantly have "but don't worry, ace people can still conform to the societal expectation!" appended to their PSAs about their experiences of asexuality. and so everyone's just kinda upset and annoyed all the time when instead it should be peace and love on planet ace.
Can’t get your partner off on the first try? Cool. You can still be thoughtful and make them feel good.
Can get your partner off within 30 seconds? Awesome, good for you both, don’t let it get to your head.
Can make someone cum in less than 5, but for others, it’s a process that takes an hour? That’s alright, everyone’s different.
Does it take you 30 minutes to cum? That’s okay, you’re not broken, you’re not a failure.
Does it take you 10 seconds to cum? That’s great, you’re not a slut, you’re not overly sensitive or dirty.
Can’t cum without toys/vibrators? That’s awesome, that’s a valid part of sexual play!
Can only cum with loving, vanilla sex? That’s perfectly normal, and you will find lots of great partners to experience that with!
Can’t orgasm at all? THAT’S ALSO COOL. It’s not a bad thing, you can still enjoy sex TONNES just like others.
Orgasms are NOT the defining characteristic of your sexual prowess. They are great, they’re lovely when they happen, but for the love of science, stop bringing them up higher than they need to be.
laughed at this image for five minutes straight today
"There was an exchange on Twitter a while back where someone said, ‘What is artificial intelligence?' And someone else said, 'A poor choice of words in 1954'," he says. "And, you know, they’re right. I think that if we had chosen a different phrase for it, back in the '50s, we might have avoided a lot of the confusion that we're having now." So if he had to invent a term, what would it be? His answer is instant: applied statistics. "It's genuinely amazing that...these sorts of things can be extracted from a statistical analysis of a large body of text," he says. But, in his view, that doesn't make the tools intelligent. Applied statistics is a far more precise descriptor, "but no one wants to use that term, because it's not as sexy".
'The machines we have now are not conscious', Lunch with the FT, Ted Chiang, by Madhumita Murgia, 3 June/4 June 2023
A couple weeks ago I was practicing my owl calls on a night hike and I successfully called in a barred owl. My owl call is pretty good, but I've never called an owl to me from afar because I rarely do night hikes and so I don't get much chance to. I had expected to be really excited about this, especially since two of my coworkers are really skilled at owl calls and they don't usually get a response, much less a full conversation, but instead I felt so guilty. I eventually had to start ignoring this poor deceived owl that was following my call through the park. I felt like I catfished him.
Why I used to think handmade leather stuff was expensive: Cost of leather
Why I am now realizing it's expensive: Measure mark cut SHIT FUCKED THAT UP mark cut skive groove poke poke poke poke UGH WHY SO MANY SEAMS poke poke bevel dye dye WHY IS IT STILL STREAKY more dye topcoat burnish glue stitch stitch stitch stitch stitch RIP MY WRISTS hammer sand bevel edgepaint burnish burnish burnish
Completed hood, based off a 16th century ‘shame’ mask.
i admire your combination of patience and firmness when fielding questions from the peanut gallery, but i do still also find it hilarious when randoms will pop into your askbox at 11am on a tuesday asking you shit like “is existence ontologically prior to essence?” as if you’re about to clear the whole mess up.
I was talking with a colleague the other day, who is an educator, and they were like "wow you've really refined your pedagogy" and I said "imagine trying to explain 14th century religious hermeneutics to a theater of 80,000 Philomena Cunks who hate you and are racist. Talking to actual experts feels like taking off the Rock Lee leg weights."
I must sleep. Sleep is the mind-healer. Sleep is the big-life that brings total ability to fucking do anything. I will face my bed. I will permit the blankie to pass over me and snores to pass through me. And when sleep has gone past I will turn the outer eye to greet the new morning. When the sleep has gone there will be everything. Energy and will to live will remain.
"i can't benefit from oppressive power structures, i'm literally nice :)" is a disturbingly common sentiment on here and if u express it then i can never trust u again
DONT use glasses, youll become dependent on them to see!!!! #WARONDRUGS #OVERPRESCRIPTION #CORRECTIVELENSADDICTION
its so bizzare that increased awareness about anxiety has led to “that makes me uncomfy/scared” being an injunction to stop someone else just going abt their life and not a realisation that these things are just feelings and sometimes our feelings are completely discordant with the level of danger were in. like “sometimes i feel threatened when im actually not” should be grounds to interrogate disgust etc not the other way arnd
how life feels after a salad and 64 oz of water
STOP. YOU AREN'T SUPPOSED TO BE NORMAL. GIRL GET OUT OF THE PANOPTICON IT'S DEVOURING YOUR SOUL, SUCKING AND SLURPING YOUR VERY BEING RIGHT OUT OF YOUR HUSK FOR FUCKKKS SAKE. ACCEPT YOURSELF AND THOSE WHO LOVE YOU WILL AGREE
the solution to the systematic (and purposeful) destruction of the environment is not simply “no one ever touches nature again because humans are not a part of nature and should leave it alone” lmao. colonialism has destroyed the environment in ways which are targeted specifically toward indigenous people first, as well as impoverished communities who suffer the negative affects of environmental damage first. the response is not the self-deprecating and humanity-as-conglomerate attitude taken on by everyone from vegans to leftists to apolitical worriers… a solution is not to point and cry and say “think how much better animals would be without us!” because not only is human life as valuable and something you should be concerned over, not only should you think critically about the ways in which you define that “us” clause, you should also remember the human species is part of the ecosystem
people have invented so many different ways of rephrasing "don't transition" to sound plausibly progressive enough to bystanders that they'll think trans people are over-dramatic for reacting negatively to it.
medical transition is permanent so you should really consider it thoroughly and put off trying it unless you know for sure. yes, just keep second guessing yourself. 6 months, 3 years, 20 years...
you might not like how you look. other people might not like how you look. you might not look cis. don't you want to be desirable? do you want to risk feeling worse and more insecure? you look so good now! we think you're so hot right now, and you wouldn't want to change your body and make it not hot to us, right?
you are so valid if you don't transition. you don't need to transition. no one needs to transition. it's just cosmetic, it's just aesthetic, it's all optional and means nothing at all. (no, of course this is unrelated to arguments used for insurance not covering transition, or doctors denying care.)
why do you even want to transition? are you trying to look cis? are you trying to adhere to beauty standards? are you doing this to look hot? that's regressive and outdated and assimilationist. (if you want us to take your politics seriously, you shouldn't transition)
it's a waste of resources/privileged/bourgeois to transition. it's kind of morally suspect that you would transition and still ask for help ever in your life. why should we support someone who's transitioning if they're obviously not oppressed anyway.
DIY HRT is too dangerous. you could hurt your body. you could get arrested. your life will probably end if you take HRT. if you can't access HRT legally, you just shouldn't take it. not for transphobic reasons!! just for your own sake <3
like when will it end
Top icons posted to @oldinterneticons in February 2025
i feel like we as a digital society have forgotten the important rules of the internet
Don't feed the trolls
Never give out personal information
Anonymity is the best defense
Don't click suspicious links
Don't click popups and ads
Just because it's written doesn't mean it's true
You are responsible for your own experience
There is porn of everything, act accordingly
Straight women on TikTok are calling themselves ‘pillow princess’ and then getting mad when people assume they are lesbians lmao.
I’ll never understand the reasoning behind the whole “Darcy was never a jerk! He was just shy/anxious/overwhelmed” argument because… none of that justifies his actions towards those of Meryton. Even if he was shy, he would know better than to insult people he hardly knows!
And why would you even want to gloss over it?!? So much of Darcy’s appeal is that he realizes that he has been proud and rude and actively chooses to change and better himself.
There is such a difference between “wow, she’s right. My behavior has been terrible and I don’t want to be like that. I will learn from this and readjust how I move about the world” and “ohhh no but I’m so shyyy, I didn’t mean to be rude :( aw shucks”
You really enjoy romanticizing women’s suffering
Use your face if you want to insult me, you coward.
But I'll reply anyway, because it honestly is kind of annoying how many people don't understand what I'm saying in my arranged marriage post. I assume you haven't really read anything else I've written because a whole lot of it is pointing out how women are oppressed and harmed in Jane Austen's works and begging people to stop hating on abused 16-18 year-old fictional girls.
My point in that post is that women would have different reactions to arranged marriage because a lot of people buy into oppression. That is how oppression is perpetuated. Right now, in our world, people are convincing women that the only natural form of childbirth is epidural-free and they aren't "real mothers" if they don't go through that. Mothers will tell you, sincerely, with a straight face, that you should have a "real natural birth" and that's it's a beautiful experience. That is complete and utter bullshit, and I know that because I've birthed a freaking baby. So if I write from the perspective of one of these women, am I "romanticizing women's suffering?" No. I'm showing how people can buy into things that persecute them. I'm telling a story about how someone can embrace something that harms them.
It's actually a better indictment of the arranged marriage system to show someone excited about it whose entire worldview crumbles after facing the reality. But it would also be interesting, and good fiction, and acknowledgement that people in the past had different ideas about love and marriage, to show women who want to climb socially, or be richer, or gain power, happy with their arranged partner because he's rich, powerful, or socially savvy.
"Stop writing women as Modern Girlboss Monoliths who all have the exact same worldview" ≠ "romanticizing women’s suffering"
Just started a new book where the regency gentleman doesn't employ a valet, and it made a big deal of how he likes to dress himself. But all I could think about was who is looking after those clothes? It mentions sending to the village seamstress for mending, but is he ironing them himself? Brushing the coats and blacking the boots?
Baffling! I guess a footman would have to do it without having the prestige/ pay of a valet? I know the author is like “lol at this independent man he’s so progressive” but within the context of his society I feel like all his peers, servants, and neighbors would think him cheap and stingy.