Creaturebeeing - I-might-bite

"Toxic masculinity" doesn't mean that all masculinity is toxic it means that some traits we push onto men can seriously harm them and the people around them fellas is 2022 we should all know this by now.

“why does that character have to be queer?”

why not?

“why does that character have to be trans?”

why not?

“why does that character have to be a poc?”

why not?

“Johann Scheff, trans lady SW arrested in 1932 for nicking women’s clothes from a department store in Berlin.” We’ve always been here. Not even book burnings can truly erase it.

Here's to Quannah Chasing horse, who yet again has won this year's Met Gala theme. And to everyone who wore pink, showed off curves, and embraced styles antithetical to the racist fatphobic myoginist the event was themed to honor this year. Memes by ennan.

I think we desperately need more focus on exorsexism/nbphobia & analysis of nonbinary place in society that doesn't just generalize binary experiences. It's very very exhausting seeing nonbinary things barely every get discussed UNLESS they can be grouped under transfem/transmasc issues.

& this is kind of hypocritical of me to say because I know that "nonbinary" is such an expansive term on purpose! and I like that! maybe we need different terminology because like both as someone who is equally a man and a woman (androgyne) & as someone who is agender+neutrois there are experiences I have that are not addressed by such binary-focused thinking. Even when people are inclusive of nonbinary people... you still rarely see discussions ABOUT androgynes or neutral people that center us and explore the ways we are treated AS nonbinary people. Like the ways that misandrogyny has made me feel scared of being androgynous & the feeling that androgyny is inherently ugly. The internalized distress of wondering if it's even possible to be transneutral when woman/manhood is so defined by community and there just isn't any of that for us (literally smth that caused a huge depressive episode a few months ago). The lack of awareness about alternative HRT/SRS. The lack of androgynous and neutral and third-gendered language for us to describe ourselves & our relationships. The way that a LOT of binary trans people throughout the modern history of the trans community consider/ed nonbinary identity ad a stepping stone towards binary identity, something lesser that you only do when you can't commit (hello biphobia!), AND as something that somehow makes you safer, you don't suffer as much- as if it's safer being physically androgynous around transphobes when it's your desired presentation- you arent as REAL. Literally transmeds will argue that exorsexism doesn't exist because it's all "just transphobia" and "not unique" (god that sounds familiar). The forced binarization of all of us & also the forced degendering of androgynes who are never allowed to be considered "real" men and "real" women. The idea that two transneutral people who present the same SHOULD be forced into the transmasc/transfem binary based on their AGABs because "that's all cis people see so it's what matters the most," which only serves to disconnect us from each other & silence us calling out the exorsexism we experience from those communities.

This got longer than I meant but tl;dr we deserve better methinks

Tragedy and vet bills have suddenly drained us of rent money.

cw: animal death, animal sickness

Rory, my beautiful sweet baby boy of almost 13 years, died last night. He got out of the apartment somehow and I found him in the grass a street over from us. There were no signs of anything violent happening to him, so he must have gotten into something toxic. It had only been a few hours since everyone in the house had last seen him.

I am utterly devastated. Rory had been with me through five moves and several traumatic experiences. He meant the world to me.

This tragedy also struck the night I was literally waiting on bated breath for our paycheck to drop, because our dog, Hela, has been very sick for the past few days and we couldn't afford to take her to the vet until we got paid.

Hela appears to be in much better spirits today and after seeing the vet and getting medication for her, that anxiety is on the back burner for now.

Our main concern now is that fact that we are short on rent. The vet bill for Hela's needs and Rory's cremation just set us back by nearly $700 and we owe our landlord $1070. We're going to start getting $25 a day late fees tacked on if we aren't paid up by the 6th.

I'm running on about 2hrs of sleep right now and I haven't done much of anything today except cry or stare blankly at a wall. I'm pulling myself together long enough to put together this post, because no matter how badly I just want to curl up in a ball right now, I need to do something in order to keep the roof over our heads.

p@ypal. me/chaosqueer

v3nmo: @chaosqueer

c@shapp: @chaosqueer

Ableism and fatphobia spin around in circles. Can't say this enough.

Many people gain weight after becoming disabled/chronically ill due to being forced into a less active lifestyle, and losing weight becomes harder and harder when physical activities become more and more challenging. We get put on medications that have weight gain side effects. Some of us women go into premature menopause, which also leads to weight gain and slower metabolism.

The next fatphobic ableist who tells any of us to diet and exercise owes my dog a femur to gnaw on.

Can people please fucking stop making "haha, Floridians are all poor stupid crackheads" jokes?

If we're poor, it's because our state government cares more about the rich tourists in the coastal high-rises than the average citizen, and the cost of living won't stop rising no matter how hard the people scream for relief.

If we're uneducated, it's because our state government is gutting education left and right, and turning it into a battleground in the white supremacist culture war.

If we're addicts, it's because we have no social safety net and self-medication is all we can turn to.

Every Florida Man headline is about a real human being, usually one under extreme duress and with absolutely no social resources to fall back on.

I hope none of you ever have to see a loved one--or yourself--represented as little more than a "Florida Man" joke, when the truth of the situation is that you were scared, starving, and vulnerable to state violence and asshole reporters who would rather pursue a viral headline than respect the dignity of a human being in crisis.

terfs be like. i am going to tell you how to spot a trans woman. okay so if you think a woman is ugly you should harass them. this is beneficial to women