Self-doubt Simply Doesn't Exist Within Me. No Matter How Impossible Something Seems Or How Hard It Will

things to start and stop doing to be the best you

things to start doing:

put yourself first - live for yourself and up to your own standards and stop pushing aside your needs for other people.

set healthy boundaries for yourself and others

always find new skills and hobbies to learn and pick up

have a routine that works for you

never settle for less. if it's not what you want, keep looking forward.

be bold - not letting fear stop you from being great

improve your self talk. compliment yourself more. tell yourself things will be okay.

enjoy the silence more

more self reflection!

learn how to enjoy your own company

socialize more

take yourself out on solo dates

walk with your head high, shoulders back

listening to your intuition when you first brush it off. you can find out the reason later.

start being active. move your body. go on walks, go to the gym, sign up for yoga, dance classes, pilates, etc.

continue talking when someone cuts you off.

put people in their place. if your boundaries have been crossed or you see something that isn't right, don't be afraid to speak your mind whenever you see necessary.

read more books. set a goal for each month.

seek for all sides of the story. never come to a set conclusion at first glance or none at all.

take your own advice.

be assertive. don’t allow yourself to be pushed around. do what's good for you no matter what anyone says, be clear about what you want in life and go for it.

ask questions. don't be afraid to. this applies to everything.

explore different styles that pique your interest. clothes, majors, hobbies, jobs, literally everything.

journaling your thoughts and ideas.

things to stop doing:

seek validation from others

living for others when you should be living for yourself.

passively consume content on social media

having FOMO. who cares if you missed out on the latest celebrity gossip, what person cheated on who, the food pictures people are posting on their stories. does it benefit you for a lifetime? no? okay then.

saying "i'm going to do this" and not do it.

isolating yourself for a long period of time

spending more time on your phone than you are living your life. there's life outside a glowing screen. stop wasting what you have and make the best of it even if it seems "impossible". you can always make something out of nothing.

comparing yourself to others

idolizing everyone. celebrities, public figures, influencers....

letting people's limiting beliefs have a hold over you

choosing to keep the victim mentality.

putting your responsibilities and happiness aside to laze around or for other people.

sticking with your circle when you've outgrown them. i don't care how long you've known them for and how good the bond was. if they're not good for you anymore, leave.

letting people step all over you - say no and don't give in to pleases.

pushing your trauma/problems aside. your problems are no less than others. you are important too. tend to yourself.

guilt trip yourself for resting when you want/need to.

abandon your needs.

insulting yourself for failures and mistakes. it's normal, you're okay.

believing everything you see and hear whether it be online or in real life.

don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from. or anyone for that matter unless it's out of the goodness of their heart (constructive)

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         morning routine ideas 🥞🫖

how you spend your morning dictates your whole day. create a relaxing structure to truly get yourself ready before heading out into the world ♡

wake up early; before 8am.

don’t go on your phone. right when you wake, bask in the silence and background noise.

meditate by focusing on your breathing.

say affirmations to yourself: “i have woken up in my desired reality. today will be a good day. i am okay. i’m healthy, beautiful, and inspiring. something amazing will happen to me today. i am kind and gentle towards myself.”

stretch!

open up any blinds to let the light in

make your bed. tidy up your space.

say hello and cuddle with your pet(s)

wash your face & brush your teeth

walk your pet(s)

make a simple breakfast and drink water and/or tea and eat it outside or looking out the window.

journal. self reflect, how you feel, what you’d like to accomplish, etc. make it a goal to be more kind to yourself and keep your thoughts in check.

read a few chapters of your current read. 

what are some things you need to get done today? make a plan and set out to get it checked off.

exercise, try a new routine.

choose an outfit, do your hair, try some new looks for the season. have fun. try new things, who knows? maybe you’ll end up loving it.

go on a walk in your neighborhood. 

get in 10,000 steps

buy yourself flowers.

light a candle

put on your favorite feel good songs. let yourself go and freely sing and dance to it.

begin your studies.

rest if needed!

try a new recipe

spend time in nature

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            night routine ideas 🧸🛋

it’s essential to properly wind down and mend to your mind & body after a long day of strenuous activities & interactions. always make it a priority to go to sleep with a calm mind.

congratulate yourself for the day you had. yes, this still goes even if it was calm. tell yourself that you did well.

stay off your phone

stretch

make yourself a nice meal and watch a show

do any laundry & preparations for the next day

take a shower. don’t rush. take this time to relax and say affirmations. pretend you’re in a rain forest with sounds if you will.

play classical or calm music while you do your daily skincare routine (face + body)

put on a face mask

lie down and enjoy the stillness.

take out your diary and journal. self reflect on your day. what did you accomplish? what are some things you’ll need to do tomorrow? what were your overall emotions and what contributed to them?

read a book while you drink tea. i love lavender & chamomile ♡

meditate. focus on your breathing. let your thoughts pass. meditate on affirmations.

then, sleep. have sweet dreams <3

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download free books! the world’s largest ebook library - read as much as you can! and read with an open mind ♡

daily living

manifest using the law of assumption

quick fix meals - 30 minutes or less!

easy meals for when there’s “nothing” to eat

how to use a charcoal grill

what to do when you can’t afford therapy

things to keep in your car incase of emergencies + tips for driving in the winter

where the fuck should i go for drinks? an app to find places near you.

birth control info

book recommendations for

100 organization tips (slideshow style! dont worry about endless scrolling.)

the ultimate laundry fabric care cheat sheet

step by step guide to laundry + laundry symbols

ideas for closet organization

know your rights and what to do when the cops pull you over

how to send a letter

a sweet message from dad how do i?

book recommendations (free)

master your emotions: a practical guide to overcome negativity and better manage your feelings

big panda and tiny dragon -  amazon link, i couldn’t find a pdf for this one :(

atomic habits: tiny changes, remarkable results

the 7 habits of highly effective people: powerful lessons in personal change

how to win friends and influence people

the 4-hour workweek: escape 9-5, live anywhere, and join the new rich 

the 48 laws of power

power of now

recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)

affirmations

30 self concept affirmations

+ more will come soon!

finances

financial managment app - free

money management 101 + how to manage your money

how to open up a bank account

what’s a mortgage? loan basics for beginners

how to write a check

things to know when you have trouble paying your bills

how to do your taxes

resume workshop

car

how to jumpstart your car

how to change a flat tire

how to check your car’s fluids

how to check the air pressure in your tires

how to check and change you car oil - a complete guide video

health

things to know before you pick a health insurance plan

your first gynecologist appointment

taking care of yourself when you’re sick

note: please don’t overwhelm yourself with this post. you’re doing amazing. these things are just good to know, us humans are not built for remembering ALL of these things!!! when you’re having trouble or need some tips, this post is to be your go to reference!!

**if any links no longer work, send me an ask and i’ll fix it right away.

reminder to always cross reference if you don’t understand the linked posts. these are just things to piggy back on to get you started.

+ i’ll add more things such as daily tips and advice as time goes on and when i make tumblr posts. 

this post was inspired by this user! so shout out to them. most of it was missing so i decided why not make one myself while adding things of my touch. i hope this helps!

september is here! school is back in session and fall is right around the corner, so of course this calls for a guide. i’ll be talking about everything from mindset to fashion to get you ready for the cozy season! 🍂☕

before we get into it, i highly recommend you read my dream girl guide and my study like bambi post if you haven’t already. it covers everything related to habits, self discipline, and studying tips from a straight A student that i won’t be too specific about in this post. if you did, you’ll notice that this is basically a reworked general version for school. nonetheless, enjoy this guide ♡

we will be focusing on:

new mindset. school work, reflection, friend groups, habits, how to cope with anxiety attacks…

framework. how to be at the top of your game. scheduling, organization tips…

physical: vibes, outfit, hair, nails, perfumes, and vibes inspo!

declutter. room, phone, friends, old habits…

important things to know aka a send off letter from me!

affirmations

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what are your priorities? #1 should be you. prioritize your happiness, health, and safety. always! this part is important because if you know what’s right for you then you will naturally always lean towards goals and actions that are best for you! i talk more about this here.

once school is back in session it is SO EASY to fall back into bad habits and negative mindsets because of the people around you and the stress and pressure that surrounds having good grades all the while maintaining your physical & mental health. 

now it’s time to let go of all and any limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, toxic habits and people and be the top student you are! anyone can level up.

habits to cultivate:

finding and setting up a system that works for you.

putting your needs first

getting your work done on time

paying attention in class.

don’t study until you get it right, study until you can’t get it wrong.

lessen phone usage.

self discipline. keeping up the momentum.

STEPPING UP FOR YOURSELF.

habits to let go of:

being rude to yourself. not knowing you’re always trying your best.

procrastinating

wanting to give up just because you “failed”

being on your phone more than doing what you enjoy. (hanging out with friends, staying to yourself, studying, getting coffee…)

letting others undermine your potential.

limiting beliefs and negative thoughts, knowing that they are not yours.

staying up all night for unnecessary reasons.

the rest is under the cut!

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do you have any posts abt decentering your life from men? i think i rely on male validation wayyyyyy too much lol. love your content btw ✨

✧˖° how to stop centering your life around men (because you have way better things to do)

(a guide to decentering men, breaking free from male validation & making yourself the main character for real this time)

so you’ve noticed it... the way your mood shifts depending on whether or not he texts you back, the way your confidence is high when you’re getting attention and low when you’re not. maybe you catch yourself subtly performing when guys are around, or maybe you find yourself molding into the kind of girl you think they’d want.

and honestly? same. we’ve all been there. society trains us to believe that being wanted is the ultimate achievement, that our worth is measured by how desirable we are to men. but that’s a lie. your life was never meant to revolve around them. you were always meant to be the sun, the main event, the entire storyline.

i really hope this post can help you understand you were never meant to revolve around them. love you - mindy

✧˖° step one: start seeing them for what they actually are

listen, it’s time to be so for real with yourself. ask: do I even like this man, or do I just like the attention? do I actually think he’s interesting, or do I just want him to think I’m interesting? do I want him, or do I just want to be chosen?

because half the time? the men we obsess over are painfully mediocre. and yet we assign them so much power. letting them dictate how we feel about ourselves, letting their validation (or lack of it) determine our worth.

take a step back. stop romanticizing them. start seeing them as human beings. flawed, regular, not the prize. the real prize? is you.

✧˖° step two: detox from male validation (yes, a real detox)

you don’t realize how much male validation fuels your self-worth until you cut it off. so let’s go cut. it. off.

for the next month, no:

dressing for male attention (dress for you instead).

posting just to see if he will like it.

checking who watched your stories.

replaying conversations to see if you sounded cool enough.

instead, every time you feel the urge to seek male validation, replace it with self-validation.

take pictures just for yourself.

romanticize your own opinion of you.

remind yourself that your value doesn’t shift based on their perception of you.

✧˖° step three: become the most interesting person you know

a lot of us center men in our lives because we have nothing else filling that space. so fill it. with things that actually excite you.

start a niche hobby that makes you feel alive (pottery, screenwriting, blogging (girlblogging to be exact), literally anything).

go to cafes alone, sit in the prettiest spot, and enjoy your own company.

build your dream life piece by piece, your wardrobe, your routines, your vibe.

when you’re truly obsessed with your own life, the need for male validation just… disappears. because suddenly, you’re so content, so full, that their attention feels like an afterthought.

✧˖° step four: unfollow the pick-me content (yes, even the guilty pleasure stuff)

what you consume matters. if your feed is filled with “how to make him obsessed with you” content, if you’re constantly absorbing media that glorifies male attention, you’re subconsciously reinforcing the idea that men = purpose.

so let’s cleanse. unfollow the pick-me content. mute the male gaze influencers. instead:

fill your feed with confident, self-sufficient women.

read books by powerful women who own their narrative.

watch movies where the female lead’s story isn’t about a man.

you are not the supporting character in a man’s story. start consuming content that reminds you of that. you are a goddess, an angel, the main character of YOUR story! please remember that <3

✧˖° step five: enforce the highest standards (with zero guilt)

decentering men doesn’t mean avoiding relationships, it just means refusing to settle. it means knowing that you don’t need male validation to be worthy. and that means setting real standards:

if he’s inconsistent? he’s gone.

if he makes you question your worth? he’s out.

if he needs you to shrink yourself to fit into his life? bye.

your love life should enhance your life, not become your life. you don’t need to be chosen. you need to be cherished. there’s a difference.

✧˖° mindy’s personal tips ✧˖°

some little things that helped me fully break free from male validation: ➝ talk to yourself like you’re the love of your life - hype yourself up in the mirror, take yourself on cute dates, write love letters to you.➝ wear perfume, do your hair, and put effort into your looks even when you’re alone. let your beauty be for you, not for male approval. ➝ when a guy doesn’t text back, shift your energy immediately. instead of spiraling, get up, put on music, do something fun. do not make him your focus.

✧˖° homework: shift your energy back to you

for the next week, every time you catch yourself seeking male validation, pause. redirect that energy inward. do something for yourself instead. and watch how your entire aura changes.

because when you stop chasing their approval? you start living for real.

love you <333 so sorry this reply was sooo late

xoxo mindy

How do you use your pretty privilege to your advantage?

Honestly? The biggest advantage is just how life plays out on a day to day basis. The benefits I get by just existing that others aren’t awarded no matter how nice or hardworking they are. It sounds bad, but...we live in a society.