*displays Textbook Symptomatic Behavior Of My Own Disorder That I Am Well Educated On* What’s My Deal

Brideshead Revisited, Ep 3 "The Bleak Light of Day" (1981)

Dir. Michael Lindsay-Hogg and Charles Sturridge. Jeremy Irons as Charles Ryder, Anthony Andrews as Sebastian Flyte, Claire Bloom as Lady Marchmain, John Grillo as Mr. Samgrass, and Charles Keating as Rex Mottram.

PHOTOS FROM r/50501 PROTESTS: 50 PROTESTS - 50 STATES - 1 DAY (2/5/25)

no cishets at pride! *spin kicks a grandma with a “I love my gay son” tshirt*

When I was a kid I was “darn I just love when female characters pretend to be dudes for whatever reason” and the reason will not shock you in the slightest

“nobody is making you do this” i am driven by unnatural forces you will never even begin to comprehend

can someone recommend some beginner normal behaviors for someone looking to become normal

You guys hate nuance

A fundamental part of transandrophobia is the fact that its extremely difficult to fit trans men into the categories we have.

We have the categories of "man" and "woman", with men being dominant, in control, and powerful, and women not. These categories have historically been exclusive to cis people, but now we have transfeminism. Trans women are very clearly not a dominant, in control, powerful group in society, and they are women, so its very easy to fit them in to the existing framework. Men are still in power and women still aren't, its just that "women" now includes both women and the cooler women.

But trans men are harder to fit in. In trans-accepting feminism, trans men are accepted as men. But trans men are not a group that is dominant, in control, and powerful in society. We don't have trans men making laws, or being popular newscaster who can sway public opinion. Stories are not written with the "trans male gaze", as trans men are not expected to be the viewer. Trans men are not seen by society at large as especially trustworthy, likable, people that should be listened to.

So, to keep that framework intact, you either have to say that trans men are women and ignore their identity, or you have to say that trans men are men and therefore in power. Neither of these answers are good for trans men, and neither accurately describe trans men's place in society. Because while trans men are affected by misogyny, trans men have experiences of gender and sexual oppression that cis women don't. And nonbinary people, too, are shafted here; nonbinary people aren't a dominant group, but many are not women and many were not assigned female at birth. What do you do with that? (Well, just start lumping them with women, it seems).

This is why I feel the thing we need is a proper restructuring of how we view gendered oppression. We are trying to operate trans existence through cis technology. Right now, in trans-affirming feminism, it seems that if you experience some sort of gendered oppression, you are seen as a de facto woman until you can't be. Cissexism and binarism is still dominating our perspectives, even when we are "trans-affirming", because we are still unwilling to change our framework to adjust for trans experiences.

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