Never Let Your Sysmates Forget How Much You Love Them.

As awareness of plurality continues to spread online, that also means more and more people will realize they are plural. And unfortunately, there will be a response from certain gatekeepy exclusionist types, who will push back against these newfound systems and insist on invalidating them. They’ll insist they’re just hopping on a trend, or just fooling themselves, or whatever other justification they can make up to maintain the idea that being plural is extremely rare and being plural means suffering for it.

Don’t fall for it. Being plural presents challenges and difficulties without question, but being plural also can bring joys and clarity that weren’t possible otherwise. Being plural can be hard, and it can be beautiful.

No two systems present and function exactly the same ways. No two systems are plural for the exact same reasons. So we can’t expect there to be an absolute common trait present in every system. So any attempt to weed out the “fakers” is pointless and malicious.

If someone believes themself to be plural, they have good reason to. No further “proof” needed. If someone comes to us believing themself to be plural, we will help them along without critique or question. And above all we will be happy for them. Even if someday they realize they aren’t plural, that process of being allowed to question and experiment is so important, and they should be allowed to do so regardless of where they end up.

Plurality is a spectrum that encompasses a vast swathe of experiences and outlooks. It can be difficult to reckon with, which is why community is so vital. And as that community online grows and becomes more and more visible, we should all do our part, systems and singlets, to make sure these newfound systems feel safe, seen, and welcome.

My superpower is there’s a bunch of people in my head

My weakness is they all have ADHD

about a month ago when i started to question if i was a part of a system i was really panicing about it and i remember thinking to myself "i could still repress this"

i know it probably wouldnt have worked, but even so im glad i didnt. im so very glad i didnt.

as weird and as difficult as plurality can be i like the others in here with me, i like the conversations we have and how we work together as team. i like being a part of a system.

the future is plural and so are we!

being plural means a headmate pulling you into headspace to cuddle with you and help you go to sleep because of your& insomnia

being plural means smiling and laughing at a joke one of your headmates made, or having witty banter with them as you make a meal that you'll both be able to enjoy

being plural means a headmate going "its okay, you don't have to do this, i can do it" and you thanking them because yeah, you cant do that, and thats okay

being plural means thinking about your headmates when buying new clothes, or seeing a shirt or pair of pants for sale and going "they'd love that !!"

being plural means making one of your headmate's simplyplural profile, and spending lots of time perfecting it so that it fits them to a T

being plural means knowing you aren't alone

being plural means knowing that your headmates, your friends, your family, are always there for you

being plural means love.

THIS POST IS INCLUSIVE OF SYSTEMS OF ALL ORIGINS !!! DO NOT BRING SYSCOURSE ONTO THIS POST.

really sucks how i cant be honest with my doctor for fear of losing access to transition healthcare.

like i could use a therapist to help work through the realisation that im probably plural but then they would add it to my medical records and i just cant take the risk of that.

ive heard of people being denied trans heathcare because of depression (which is like denying an appendectomy cos of stomach pain), a DID or OSDD diagnosis would almost certainly be used as an excuse.

GOD I LOVE PLURALITY!

sometimes being plural is comforting each other during our hardest moments,

and other times its a passionate argument over question of "what is the biggest rock in the solar system?" that ends with the conclusion that the earth is a cream egg.

what i feel like is lacking from conversations about plurality is how genuinely, fundamentally cool it is to be plural. doesnt it fascinate you how our brains can create entirely new selves, inner worlds, inner structures to keep itself afloat? doesnt it make you so curious? especially with regards to atypical plural experiences. i dont hate people for having entire systems full of fragments or fictives or subsystems. in fact, i find it wonderful, a miracle of the mind. you have a complicated inner world with unique lore? incredible, how did that develop? your entire system is full of fictives from the same source? thats amazing, hows that going? your system has entire layers on itself, with several systems running in tandem? wow, thats fascinating, how did you know? you believe you came from different worlds? tell me about them. please, tell me more about yourselves. id love to hear it. i do not fear the potential of the human brain.

Honestly I love super niche origin terms. The why and how you exist is something that can be super duper important to someone – just look at how many religions try to answer that question about the human species or individual people, as well as all the philosophical debate about the meaning of life, or even just the personal family stories of why someone's parents decided to have/keep them – and it's no surprise that we (plurals and headmates in general) like to answer this question for ourselves when we have such unique paths and causes for existence. I just finally figured out how to put into words my own reason for existence and I'm really happy about that! I hope all headmates out there who are struggling with "why do I exist" are able to find a satisfactory answer too, whether that means you find a specific origin term that fits you, you coin your own term, or you decide to forgo origin terms and describe yourself in a freestyle way. You're not alone in searching for answers – not in this community, and not in general, either. A lot of folks out there are asking the same questions you are.

In Stars and Time fictive culture is realising that you suddenly have all the information you could ever want about stars and constellations and excitedly going outside to stargaze,

only to also discover light pollution exists now.

(its not as bad as it could be were we live but its still so blinding annoying)

-Siffrin

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