the one problem i have with people my age and younger is that a lot of us do not have hands on hobbies. like i have spoken to so many people my age who go to work, go to school and then fuck around on their phone/computer for hours and then ???????? like no wonder ur depressed and have low confidence in urself. u need to get ur hands on something, feed those dopamine receptors! learn how to play guitar, garden, scrapbook, fucking make model trains. i don’t give a shit, MAKE SOMETHING!!
it feels better than drugs when i finish making a thing—and then show it off or gift it.
and then so people my age say to me ‘well—i can’t draw/paint/knit/etc. like you can. my stuff would be terrible.’ yeah, well duh—a part of developing skill is sucking at something and then practicing it over and over and over again until you suck less. u’ll have a hard time feeling lonely or bored when you can’t stop thinking abt a technique you want to try or something you want to make for someone else. making things has SAVED MY LIFE. it gave me a reason to keep living day after day when i wanted to die.
making things improved my generational relationships (when i worked for the newspaper i would talk to customers abt jamming recipes or cross-stitch, one of my grandmas always gives me pattern books and tell me abt when she knitted things for mom, my other grandma is giving me a wedding quilt that HER grandma gave her 50 years ago because she knows i will appreciate it). it also got me likeminded friends who also make things.
take a ceramics class! pick up water colors, bake cakes! learn to work on cars! make soap. DO SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T INVOLVE STARING AT A SCREEN.
Accurate
Every writer on Tumblr: “I would combust out of love if someone ever drew fanart of my fic!!” Me: “oh man I wanna draw this scene BUT THEY WOULD PROBABLY HATE IT AND HATE ME FOR THE NERVE”
“Slytherins are evil.”
*Aggressively shoves Horace Slughorn towards you*
“Hufflepuffs are just weak-willed pansies.”
*Points at Cedric Diggory with a large pointing stick*
“Ravenclaws are just a bunch of snobbish nerds.”
*Majestically reminds you of Luna Lovegood*
“Gryffindors are just cocky arrogant bigheads.”
*Launches Remus Lupin in your general direction with a catapult*
*Oops I did it again* playing softly (¬‿¬)
lotta people I know, especially neurodivergent ppl with special interests, express fear that they're a "know it all" or a "snob."
If that sounds like you, allow me to clear things up for ya:
A know-it-all loves making others feel inferior with their knowledge. They worked hard to learn something, and now they find great joy in holding it over others' heads.
To a know-it-all, there is no greater pleasure than realizing someone else doesn't know something, and subsequently humiliating that person for their ignorance on a topic.
Snobs and know-it-alls live for that "gotcha" moment, when they get to embarrass a person and lord their knowledge over someone, making them feel worthless for even daring to speak about something they don't know much about.
Whereas someone who just knows a lot revels in getting to share their knowledge with others. The infodump is not to brag, taunt, or embarrass. In fact, just the opposite, we info dump with the goal to engage others in something we love.
When we correct someone, it's because the information we have is important to us, and we want the facts known by everyone possible. Our goal is never to humiliate.
Above all, a know-it-all and a snob will never admit when they are wrong. They will double down and rage against the notion that someone else might know more than they do about a topic.
Someone who admits they are mistaken, that they don't have all the facts, even if it takes them a day to come back embarrassed and say "you know what, yesterday you were right, and I wasn't,"
Can never be a know-it-all or a snob.
Keep learning, keep teaching, keep sharing.
If you spread what you know with honest joy, passion, and the understanding that other people have something valuable to add, you cannot be and are not a snob, and the world is better for your passion!
Argh!
Tumblr!
Stop pestering me!
Living a social life is hard enough! Geez~
Stop sending me pics of Tom Hiddelston or fan stories with him! ><
I won't ever leave this computer! T_T
Reblog if yours does too.