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there's a discussion on Twitter about lesbian love being somehow different than the way that straight men love women but sooo many of these people are just parroting terf and radfem talking points and being quietly transphobic. either by implying that men or amab people are just biologically incapable of love on a deeper level either because of their minds or hormones (transphobic) or by saying it's just the way men are "socialized" in a patriarchal society and it's more about shared experiences (transphobic)

the following statements can be true at once:

there is no real difference between the way men and women love, because men and women are human beings and we are all capable of love and complexity. love as an emotion or experience is not ingrained or influenced by our sex or gender. love between women is beautiful and pure, and it can be abusive too. love between men and women is also beautiful and pure and it can also be abusive. it is sexist to say that women are less prone to committing abuse or violence, even if it seems like a positive stereotype.

the way that patriarchy puts men in a higher social position than women does lead to a higher rate of abuse from men towards women. many men are raised to believe they are innately better than women and this is a mindset that needs real work to unlearn. solving this requires building a society that raises sons to be compassionate and respectful, not to seek dominance over women.

when you insist that abusive or unloving behavior is ingrained within men or it is part of the male experience, what you do is reinforce the patriarchal expectation of men as inherently domineering and violent beings. gender roles are made up, and do not hold truth to what we really are in the genders we associate with. it is a self fulfilling prophecy. if you tell a boy that he's incapable of truly loving a woman without owning her, he will grow into a man that believes you, and become a man that believes control is how you show love

Mewwy Chrimas may the gay people brain rot be upon u even more so next year

did you know in season 5 of gotham ed spends so much time searching for oswald due to a false memory that lead him to believe oswald did something to damage his brain but when he finds him and confronts him oswald tells him that he would never do something like that and that if they are ever at odds again he will know he is his enemy which is so much more than oswald could say for anyone else as he is like so constantly backstabbing lying and betraying people but for ed he swears to be honest and he pushes the barrel of ed’s gun right to his heart and ed realizes that when he though oswald said “i’m going to fix you, ed” he was saying it with LOVE and ed looks at him and swears to him that if that day comes he will stare him in the eye as he stabs him in the heart and oswald SMILES which is so insane and also he named his DOG EDWARD and then they spend the rest of the technically-apocalypse planning to build a submarine and run away together but when oswald decides to stay back and fight for gotham ed begs him to stay and says “following your heart has never worked out for you” TALKING ABOUT HIS OWN FUCKING SELF and oswald looks at him and tells him he should spend more time listening to THIS (poking his heart) instead of THIS (pointing to his head) and then do you know what ed fucking does he SHOWS UP AT THE LAST MINUTE TO COME AND FIGHT WITH OSWALD and it is FOR OSWALD because oswald gives a big speech about gotham being his home and ed is like yeah me too what he said whatever and during the battle someone throws a grenade at them and oswald screams “eddie” and without a second thought covers ed to protect him and LOSES AN EYE and afterwards ed is apologizing profusely for not doing anything (“i saw the grenade and i froze”) which he has never done to oswald or anyone really oswald cuts him off and just says “it was the least i could do” which is insane and when he asks ed if its bad and shows it to him ed says no but he gags and it cant be because he was grossed out because he was literally a forensic guy and a serial killer its because he cant see oswald hurt like that and after everything after the battle theyre fuming in a little room about how “that BITCH stole our submarine” and all their treasures and ed says he felt NOTHING for the people of gotham as he was fighting WHICH FUCKING CONFIRMS that he came back for OSWALD and oswald alone he doesn’t care about gotham but he wouldn’t leave oswald and he has some big speech about never taking the knee to anyone in gotham again and oswald says theyd be stronger together and ed is like perhaps and oswalds like oh this bitch is playing games and ed’s like let’s shake on it and oswalds like are you fucking kidding me we’re HUGGING you idiot but he takes a knife out of his boot surreptitiously and ed takes a knife out of his pocket surreptitiously and they hug and they hold the knives to eachothers backs but oswald tears up and he doesn’t do it of course he doesn’t he couldn’t kill him and assumes ed will stab him but he doesnt either he SMILES and when oswald moves to pull away ED HOLDS HIM TIGHTER AND DOESNT LET HIM because theyre in fucking LOVE. hello

do you understand. do you understand.

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Gender is entirely made-up and I don't understand why some people are so fixated on it being "true" in the sense of like...are trans women women? Of course they are, insofar as "a woman" can be said to exist in the first place. But people have gotten obsessed with proving objectively that a trans woman is a woman, when the actual core of trans liberation is that anyone forcing their preferred gender on you is fascist. It's missing the forest for the trees. When all you do is play the "I am [x] really truly deep down just like everyone else" game you're meeting the transphobes on their level and accepting their premise that "man" and "woman" are distinct, tangible things.

To be clear, it's not that you CAN'T feel gender is a kinna spiritual force within you, or something to that effect. I think we all do on at least some level. But my point is that trying to rip that spiritual force out of our bodies to dissect it and prove all the haters wrong because look it was here all along is just a waste of time and effort.

The truth of the matter is that the goal is not to get people to see trans women as women, it's to get them to stop feeling like clothes and pronouns and names and locker rooms should be dictated by what some asshole wrote down on your birth certificate.

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