Let-me-be-ace - The Ace Me

I was kicked out of my best friend’s wedding party and then the next week I was told I wasn’t allowed at the wedding. It’s been a year and haven’t spoken with her. Still not over it.

why does no one talk about how friends can break your heart so devastatingly intimately sometimes a million times worse than romantic partners why does no one talk about friend break ups

what is a sex drive where is the sex going does it even have a license

Beautiful

i wanted to try something new today, so here, a screen cap made to look like a painting. inspired by Rembrandt. 

well put

It’s often really hard to imagine or empathize with experiences outside of your own, which is why most often the people who head up movements or charities for particular issues have had some personal experience with it, and why it’s really hard for privileged people to understand systematic oppression etc.

I feel like that’s also why so many ace/aro spectrum people don’t realise that they’re ace/aro for a long time, because they honestly don’t know they’re any different to everyone else. Usually, I’ve found, this manifests in one of two ways - we assume that everyone else is like us (ie nobody actually experiences sexual attraction, nobody actually falls in love like they do in movies and it’s all some collective delusion or joke), or we assume that we’re like everyone else (ie thinking what we’re feeling must be sexual/romantic attraction because that’s how we’ve been taught to quantify our feelings and experiences).

With asexuality, I spent most of my life mistaking aesthetic (and the occasional sensual) attraction for sexual, which is why I didn’t realise I was asexual until I was 19. With aromanticism, for me, it was a combination of both; assuming all feelings I had towards any boy ever must be romantic, but finding some forms of ‘love’ completely implausible and genuinely totally unfathomable.

And that’s totally fine. Having a new word in your vocabulary may completely change the way you view yourself and may even shift your entire worldview because you have a new way to quantify your and other people’s experiences.

I think I'd hate to live in a world where everyone has I same opinion as me.

When it suddenly becomes your business

Some people just never get how imprudent l important this is.

i really wish platonic relationships were more important. i’m tired of losing friendships because i’m less important than their significant other. i hate that i’m automatically not as close to my friends because i’m not the person they’re dating/sleeping with. and i hate how whenever i complain about it the response is “you’ll find someone too someday!” like no I shouldn’t have to “find someone” to feel loved and important, maybe we should stop promoting investing all your time and effort and physical and emotional intimacy into one romantic/sexual partner idk

Looking back, it is really embarrassing the amount of sexual innuendo and flirting I didn’t catch. I don’t mean as a child. I mean as a teenager in high school AND as a twenty-something in college. Yikes. I thought I was just being nice and people thought I was flirting.

In the years before I found asexuality, the thought that repeatedly ran through my head was “I don’t like boys… but I don’t like girls either. Can’t I just be nothing? Just nothing?” And for a year and a half now I’ve had a name for it. I love knowing that there are so many of you out there that feel the same, and that it’s not just me. Thank you tumblr and thank you ace awareness week!