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NUMERSTROLOGY DEGREE THEORY ♥︎

the numerical degree theory

ᯓ ❥ i don’t want to take fulllll credits for this because i’m sure someone has thought of it before, but i feel like i am the first to post about it a lot. the theory is that numerology is actually connected to our astrology degrees

ᯓ ❥ if you’re not familiar with numerology you can view my numerology key for help

notes about this theory

· you must check the degree and correspond the planets energy to the numerical energy. for example venus is the planet of beauty so when in a beauty numerical degree it can indicate someone’s considered very beautiful to a lot of people/that they have societal beauty

· the non reduced and reduced energy both matter. for example 28 reduced is 1 (2+8=10->1+0=1) so having 28 degrees in your chart indicates having 1 numerical energy (leadership, masculinity, confidence, aggression, etc). however, 28 unreduced in numerology is a wealth number, so 28 degrees in your chart can also indicate wealth

some examples of this theory

· 1°/10°/19°/28° in your chart (especially placed in the sun or mars) can make someone a great leader because in numerology 1 is the number of leadership

· 5°/14°/23° in your chart can indicate being considered beautiful to a lot of people/a beauty symbol since 5 in numerology is the number of beauty/attractiveness. especially when placed in the big 6 though. 9°/18°/27° can also because this is another beauty number representing extreme beauty. you’ll see many models and beauty symbols like marilyn monroe and madison beer with these degrees in their chart

· 6°/15°/24° in a chart can make someone a homebody. especially when placed in the moon since the moon is associated with comfortability and 6 in numerology is the number of home

· 7°/16°/25° in a chart can indicate someone’s very intelligent. especially when placed in mercury, jupiter, or uranus since those are the planets associated with intelligence/genius and 7 in numerology is the number of intelligence. it’s also the number of the spiritual teacher, so these people can be very smart spiritually as well

· 11°/20°/29° in someone’s chart can indicate someone being an old soul and being very spiritual or spiritually connected. they often have great intuition and psychic abilities. especially when placed in the moon or neptune

Do you ever wonder if the Idol you like is actually a misogynist because the sexism in Korea is so bad they now even have an anti-feminist president and every 1,8 days a woman dies through a sexual crime and korean women have literally formed a movement in which they boycott any kind of relationship with men regarding sex, dating, marriage and if southkorean men don't change the whole population is gonna be down by HALF by 2100 because women also refuse do procreate and have children and it's absolutely not possible that every member of every boygroup you like is unproblematic in this regard or are you ignorant?

This....🤌🤌

"One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we've been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We're no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It's simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we've been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back."

- Carl Sagan

DHANISHTA NAKSHATRA

23º 20’ Capricorn – 6º 40’ Aquarius “Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives.” The Dolphin: Alpha Delphini, Beta Delphini, Delta Delphini, Gamma Delphini Ruled by Mars Star of Symphony. Power to give abundance and fame. Symbols: empty drum, an hourglass, bells and bulbs.

Dhanishta is like a death of the inner child. Its essentially inert like sand, of coal or oil. Even the system is a dead thing unless the people actual show up to support it. The death of the spirit begins in Dhanishta and is completed in Purvabhadrapada. The machine  is just a dead thing. There is a suffering here as one is constantly striving to stay ahead of the curve.

Struggles of being controlled by other people, feelings of emptiness and superficiality. They devote themselves to a purpose or a person to deal with emptiness.

As it is within Dhanishta's power to give fame, they enjoy popularity and are often local celebrities. If well placed, they have a good reputation and are loved by people. They tend to mask their inner struggles with a bubbly persona, become an entertainer for other people, play the jester (performative) and seek out external stimuli as a way to fill the emptiness.

Major karma with marriage. Ashlesha is direct across so they often get into manipulative relationships do things they don’t want to do. They display big devotion towards their spouse and are service orianted, however they can get manipulative and use marriage as a means to an end. Often as a result, they are prone to getting controlled by their spouse. They enjoy material comforts.

Planets here are more likely to have feminine characteristics. It may also be seen that women with this placement have a somewhat easier time with the energies of this nakshatra.

Rakshasa: Belonging to the clan of the demons. Less practical, more hedonistic, often many ups and downs in life as the guru of the demons has the power to raise from the dead. Rebirth, transformation, redemption are all part of the system. Cyclical sense of time; mystical sense of reality. Marriage matching with another Rakshasa is best.

Dhanishta's stars form the diamond shaped Delphini constellation. Dolphin’s are unique creatures thought to be even more intelligent than human’s, and with that intelligence comes a childlike nature, playfulness, understanding, and selfless nature. They have a unique way using sonar & echolocation for communication, navigation and understanding the world around them. They are friendly, curious, peaceful, carefree creatures who live in harmony with humans as well as most other creatures of the sea. But they are also fearless in the face of predators and will sacrifice themselves to protect the pod rather than show any fear.

The Vasus such as Agni (fire), Vayu (wind), etc helps lord Indra in his fight with the demons and hence this nakshatra can also indicate some type of fight, competition, and competitiveness in a person’s life. Dhanishtha is also linked with land, real estate and may attain multiple properties. Suitable for real estate business.

Dhanishtas should keep musical insturments in their house as a remedial act and practice performance arts, music, communication and diplomacy.

"Most scientists and historians are born in Dhanishta. Since there is an inherent talent of keeping secrets, you are quite suitable for secret service, private secretaries to senior executives. Whatever may be your academic background, your intelligence is beyond question. In argument you are much ahead of others. Lawyers profession is excellent for you. From the 24th year onward will show progress in the earning field. Any improvement in the financial field will be only after marriage."

Shil-Ponde Female with Dhanishta Ascendant: “This is a talkative and interesting person, particularly successful in lecturing and debating. She is capable of writing mystic novels and is good at story telling. She will be happy in domestic life. She loves nice dresses, especially blue, pink, and purple, and likes curios and antiques.”

pada 2 (virgo): They can do very well in public service, administration, communications, or managing public affairs. They can be very good at the rhetorical, persuasive side or languages, marketing, and communications.

The Psychology behind Fast Fashion:

Fast fashion has revolutionized the retail scene, providing the masses with the hottest styles available within lightning-fast timeframes and at breakneck prices. But what makes the phenomenon tick? Behind the thrilling aspect of fast fashion lies a complex interplay between emotions, social pressures, and cognitive biases.

Instant Gratification

The biggest psychological factor is the demand for instant and immediate fulfilment of a person’s needs or desires . A world that applauds in immediacy ensures fast fashion delivers exactly what people want: fast rewards. The shopper rushes with new clothes, lifting their mood temporarily. And this impromptu satisfaction fosters an addiction; sooner than later, more purchases might lead to buyer's regret.

Social Identity and Peer Influence

Thus, as a means of self-expression and social identity, fashion can also present a crucial role in defining who people are. Associating with fast fashion can be a means of creating the perception that wearing the latest trends "heightens" the individual's social status. Social pressure is at a great level to avoid FOMO through keeping abreast with peers, influencers, and even celebrities. The cycle leads to the fact that one needs to change the goods in his or her wardrobe continuously "to keep up," causing overconsumption.

Cognitive Dissonance

Fast fashion consumers experience cognitive dissonance, which occurs when values clash with practices of purchase. The consumer on one hand may preach sustainability and ethical responsibility, but low prices and fashionable items can justify a one-stop shop at fast fashion. This can cause guilt, but social acceptance usually drowns out these thoughts.

Marketing Techniques

This fast-fashion company uses many psychological tactics in its advertisements that play tricks in the consumer's mind. Scarcity-based marketing, where limited stocks, sales, or low quantities are offered as time-sensitive forces the buyer to shop on impulse. Consumers keep coming back due to a new collection each month that convinces them to shop because it's new and is the 'thing' at that particular moment.

Conclusion To put it in a nutshell, the psychology which defines fast fashion reveals how emotional wants, social influence, and marketing manipulation blend together into a notable shopping experience. Understanding these aspects will empower the consumers to make mindful decisions that will lead to a far more sustainable approach towards fashion.

The cost of betraying one's self

For the last three years, I've felt like I had to relearn who I was, relearn lessons that were imbued upon me from childhood (through self-reflection as an adult), I've had to relearn societal rules (through awkwardly fubbling through social interactions), and whether I even want to abide by these social rules or not. More and more, I start understanding my past self and accepting her after years of rejecting and being embarrassed of her, as I come back into myself. But I feel like I began navigating this rebirth in the wrong manner.

I approached it in a manner in which I believed there were objectively a right and wrong way of doing "life", in part due to having befriended certain people that thought that who I was, how I thought and how I sought to navigate the world were wrong because it did not make sense to them, but also by accepting and internalising their critiques instead of recognising them as very strong subjective opinions. While I could be very stubborn, I also had a porous mind. I feel like it is in my nature to be attracted to anyone who wants to bestow me with any new knowledge or different perspectives that I can mull over, being a mrigashira native. The only issue was that instead of giving me new perspectives, they belittled and ridiculed my thought processes. And I knew that they were opinions to begin with, but the more I recognised that the world around me agreed with them, the more I started to question whether how I perceived the world around me was "correct".

I watched a video by Claire Nakti that spoke about people copying you/stealing your destiny, and she gave an analogy that went along the lines of, "when you decide to take in information that someone else has discovered, instead of eating the fruits of knowledge that they consumed, you end up eating the excrement of the people who ate the fruit" (I said it in a far my crass manner but you get the gist of what I'm saying). Not only do you not take in the full knowledge or wisdom, but you will also often misinterpret what you are hearing and seeing, and subsequently impose these incorrectly understood lessons and ideas onto your life, and potentially others, because you have not made sense of these lessons from your own point of view, nor attained the wisdom, through experience, attached to these lessons. But not only that, you end up not living out your own destiny by attempting to steal another's. This is probably why incredibly wise people are usually portrayed as very old in media. Someone that has lived that long has had many many experiences but also the time to learn and wisen due to them.

I'm not going to speak on this too much because ultimately, you could always just go watch Claire's video for more information on Ketu and Rahu, and it's relation to making sense of the world with the knowledge you came into the world with, and also your own acquired wisdom that one gains as you navigate the world. Going back to my own personal story, I will not say whether my friends interpretations of the world were "correct" or "incorrect", or whether now that I'm in a different state of mind, I agree with them. What I will speak on is the danger of betraying oneself in the pursuit of really anything. For me, it was the pursuit of social acceptance and assimilation into spaces that may not have been for me and in spaces, that I myself may not have wanted to be in, if I were being honest with myself.

We all likely have friendships in which we have much in common with our friends, and also differ in many ways from. I've always wonder why I had friendship groups in which we differed in many ways, and this always fascinated me, and I could never make sense as to why our friendships worked. Maybe I enjoyed these friendships because they always had people with differing ideas to that of my own that made me really "think" and question my own view points, that's these friendships were stimulating, as I am a person that loves to question. My friendship with these two particular friends hinged on a shared love of similar music and interests as most friendships do but differed in how we perceived the world greatly. Instead of agreeing to disagree, my friends sought to change my perspective through belittling, triangulation, and bullying. I recognised that I wasn't happy in the friendship, but I stayed in that relationship, longer than I should have, due to fear of being alone. COVID came around, and I thought I would spend the year 2020 "fixing" myself, as many other people sought to do. I threw myself into a ton of psychology content so I could psycho-analyse myself and effectively learn where I needed to improve in myself and my approach to my interpersonal relationships. What made the whole process near impossible, is that I was dealing with a severe case of moral perfectionism, in which I thought that the times in my past in which I had caused harm to people, were like blemishes on my being that I could never get rid of, like they would haunt me for my entire life, and would never be able to separate myself from having been that person. You can't move on from past versions of yourself if you think you'll always be tethered to them. Also, trying to take in all this knowledge, that didn't resonate with me at the time, was also incredibly overwhelming, but also useless, and I could never incorporate what I learnt effectively into my life, because it did not come naturally to me. I honestly blame myself for having bought into the ideas surrounding cancel culture, because if you're not willing to forgive and allow someone to move on with their lives after having made past mistakes, how can you do that for yourself?

I also really got into astrology, so I could learn how to read my birth chart with the sole purpose of understanding what my flaws and shortcomings were in this lifetime so I could correct them. I had spent a great deal of my adolescence being bullied by age-mates and even past friends and I think these experiences also informed this idea that there had to be something fundamentally wrong with me to have experienced all of it, and that if I could dig into myself and expel it from my being, I could subsequently be treated better by the world.

Slight sedgeway from the video, but I want to say that once, I was speaking to my mom, and I asked her if I should change my approach on a specific situation I was experiencing, and she told me not to allow people to change who I am, meaning don't allow other people's behaviour towards you change who you are, and how you would react to a situation. By allowing someone to influence your behaviour, or "matching their energy", you're giving someone else power over yourself, and how you would actually react to a situation if you were being your authentic self, which could be a big price to pay for simply wanting to stroke your ego. Also, when you have to answer for your behaviour or words, you'd feel a lot more confident in your past actions by actually believing in what you've done and said, instead of it coming from a place of fear, in some cases, or ego.

So, getting back to trying "to fix" myself; in trying to do so, I think I experienced the actual death of my mind and soul. I should mention that I have always had a habit of ridding myself of the past to make way for who I want to be in the present (I'm not sure if this is due in part to my heavy pluto influence in my chart), example, I always liked getting rid of old art because I had discovered a different art style. And so my nature of always wanting to start completely anew or on a clean slate had ultimately bit me in the ass, because in my bid to "fix myself", I found that I had rid myself of everything about my being; my personality, my opinions, my temperaments, the things I cared about, the things that drive me.

I really didn't know who I was or what I believed in. I had no idea what kind of person I was even trying to work towards being because I sought to destroy the foundations, that I had taken years, leaving me with no real basis to start with but also leaving me an empty shell or husk.

I spent a year and a half in a state of derealisation and depersonalisation. I existed in a state of limbo. When you experience depersonalisation and derealisation, it's like being underwater. You can't process information as well. I honestly don't know how I got through my third year in that state. You're never really present, and even when you perceive things going on around you, you sense these things, but sometimes you don't really process them in your mind. It's like the saying, "going through one ear and out the other." I think it's relevant to mention that I had no hobbies and I found that I struggled listening to new music, in fact I found myself wanting to listen to music that my dad would play when we were children, almost as a form of comfort, but also (and this ties back to the whole premise of this post) as if I had regressed to being a child again. When I came out of that state, I found that I had to relearn a lot of things, that I most likely knew before but just couldn't remember, almost like I was starting over again, from the beginning.

And by the way, this is not a sob story. I knowingly betrayed myself by being in a relationship with people who I knew did not truly like or accept me for who I was but I unknowingly betrayed my soul by completely destroying the growth that I had made up until I would said my 19th year. And why I mentioned Claire Nakti's video earlier is because ultimately, what I would like you take away from this message, is that on the one side, there is a lot to learn from others, but in your pursuit of knowledge, make sure that even when you seek to learn from others, that their messages resonate with you, so as not to be led astray. Also, become comfortable with walking the path less travelled, especially when it resonates with you. I was so set on being accepted that I completely neglected the voice that told me that the ideas being imposed onto me didn't resonate with me, that I didn't actually like the people I desperately wanted to approve of me, that who they were was not who I wanted to be, nor wanted to be associated with anyway. Essentially, if you've ever been through what I've been through, my advice to all of us, actually really for anyone, is to worry less about whether you're getting it "right", and to worry more about whether it feels right to you.

Subsequently, making this discovery also made me wonder how I would raise my children, like would I act as a guide or assistant. Growing up, my parents furiously imposed their beliefs onto us as children, which I subsequently rejected, not only because it didn't make sense to me at the time, but also because I needed to gain my own understanding to really develop these beliefs for myself. And so the way I think I'll go about parenting my children, is to gently advice them, so they would be more accepting of the advice but also try to ensure that I'm giving them these lessons in a manner that they can understand and make sense of for themselves, and not be frustrated when they decide to make decisions that go against my advice because ultimately, people learn better from experience than being told what to do, especially children. Life isn't a test, it's an experience, you're allowed to fuck up, you're allowed to become a different person overnight, don't rush the process, because ultimately, the destination will be there when you finally get there.

It almost feels like I am having a similar experience to Bella Baxter from 'Poor Things', in the sense of discovering the world, one' s self, how the world reacts to me and how I subsequently react to the world, anew. The only difference being that I had a detailed understanding of my past self, that made my relearning of myself and the world staggered, as I desperately attempted to cling onto who I once was, once I realised that I had completely destroyed the version of myself that I loved and respected. In pursuit of social acceptance and really, self-acceptance, I had completely forgotten how much had gone into me being who I was and how hard I had worked to become that person. Bella Baxter had the advantage of not having any reference for who she was "meant" to be. The friends she met on the boat and in France liked her for her uniqueness. It makes me very cognisant of the saying, "When you attempt to be like someone else, you're robbing the world of yourself." It's very true. So, while I would never advocate for complete isolation, I would say, try to process things on your own, without outside opinions or potential influences.

Greetings! @makingspiritualityreal

I always gain a lot of knowledge from the posts you write. Despite reading a lot about atmakaraka, I haven't come across any data regarding debilitated atmakaraka. I'm hoping you can help me with this.

Debilitated Atmakaraka

I will now say something that may be potentially controversial, but I think atmakaraka and amatyakaraka are overrated.

Technically, according to classic theory, having a debilitated planet as your atmakaraka means you're working with difficult karmas relative to your most automatic daily expression. But even a debilitated planet can function well, it will just be unusual. That is because there are many factors that decide the planet's strength, like Shad Bala. The planet can be in a good house even if it's in a debilitated sign. It can form a neech bhang and get its debilitation cancelled.

To give you an example, my Mercury technically shouldn't be doing well in Sagittarius, because it's in a debilitated/detrimented/fallen sign however you call it, but it's my highest scoring shadbala planet. It's in a good house, Vic di Cara even formed a theory that Mercury does best in the 2nd house, supported by a decent Venus. My astrology software ranks it as my highest scoring planet. A sign of debilitation is not all there is to it.

All you can tell for sure is that the expression of that debilitated planet will be less traditional and straightforward. But focusing on the concept of atmakaraka itself for too long is not the best way to get chart accuracy, when planetary scoring yields much more accurate results.

𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐏𝐔𝐓 𝐀𝐍 𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐓𝐎 𝐉𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐔𝐒𝐘 𝐎𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐀𝐋𝐋.

"How nice is it to know that you are never ever in competition with anyone but yourself? No one could ever occupy the same space as you, emit the same energy as you, shine your exact life experience. I love knowing that the more truly me I become, the better everything becomes." - Dove Cameron

Introduction

This may be the first of a few posts related to rearranging your mindset specifically pertaining to confidence, so I won’t be covering everything in this one post about how to acquire absolute self love and whatnot. For now, we’ll just focus on jealousy and more specifically the feeling of inadequacy. Before we start, I’d like to quickly provide the definition of jealousy: Jealousy is the feeling of discontent due to the possessions, characteristics or merits of another. It comes from a place of lack because it is the understanding that you are missing something, which consequently harbors insecurity and self-doubt. I understand, it’s hard to be confident in oneself when you’re bombarded with milestone culture and beauty standards that constantly dictate what you should look like and what your life should be like; And when you’re constantly surrounded by people who embody those standards, it’s easy to believe that there’s something inherently wrong with you for not living up to them. I was once in that position, but I’ll touch on that later on. The first half will discuss changing the way you see others and the second will discuss changing how you see yourself (and my experience doing that). Without further ado, these are the mindset adjustments that I implemented into my life that helped me stop feeling inferior to anyone else.

No envy, just inspiration.

Instead of focusing on the fact that they are something you are not, start seeing people as motivation for what you aim to be. Other people are and should be seen as sources of inspiration because they are testaments to the reality of your aspirations. It doesn’t matter what the goal is, whether you want to be a top student or have your dream body, it is achievable and the decision to acquire it will always depend on you. Stop downplaying your capacity. If they can, why can’t you? What makes them more capable than you? The only difference between you and them is your mentality and the diligence to go after what you want. 

People are only what we know about them.

It’s easy to be jealous of someone - such as an influencer, for example - when all you see from them is the good parts of their life. You may think to yourself that you’d give anything to switch lives with another when the truth is everyone always has something going on behind closed doors. You see people for everything you want to have, do and be but it’s also important to remember that we only see people for what they choose to share with the world. 

Compare yourself to others… the right way 

If you’re going to compare yourself to another person, do it in a way that puts you on the pedestal. Instead of dwelling on what somebody else has that you don’t, switch the narrative into thinking about what you have that others don’t. It’s so easy to make list of everything you wish you had, but have you ever stopped to consider what you have that they don’t? Maybe they have your dream body, but they don’t have a contagiously endearing smile like yours. You may not have a captivating relationship like they do, but you have a best friend who loves and supports you unconditionally. They’re gifted at math, but they’re not as skilled at drawing as you are. Maybe you don’t have any of the previously mentioned qualities, but there will always always be something about yourself worth appreciating that they do not have. You’re so fixated on what’s missing in your life that you tend to forget about what isn’t. Picking up this habit will take away the feeling of lack because you’re remembering all that is in your possession right now and not only will it take your mind off of that but it’ll also feel reassuring to know that you aren’t below somebody else after all. Instead of letting them be the standard, you become the standard, which brings me to my next point:

Live by your own standards

I cannot emphasize how important it is to set your own standards and live by them. Socially, you will be told that matters such as beauty and success look a certain way and any deviation from it is undesirable. Why should you live your life according to somebody else’s rules or standards? Your perception of what it means to be beautiful or successful will never be exactly the same as somebody else’s, so it’s nonsensical to force yourself into a mold that wasn’t made for you in the first place. Humanity is not a monolith. Success, fulfillment, happiness and beauty are all relative. What one person regards as success is failure to another, what someone considers to be the epitome of beauty might be completely unappealing to another. Do not allow another person to impose what their ideal definition of any of these concepts is unto you. Your perception is the only one that matters and you are the one who gets to dictate what the standard for yourself should be. 

Your greatest competition and your worst enemy - yourself

This is the part where I talk about my experience with jealousy and feelings of inadequacy. I was once an incredibly anxious person who always felt like she was “behind” in comparison to everyone else. I would constantly compare my life to everyone else’s and feel guilty because I hadn’t accomplished as much as them. One day, I had the most enlightening epiphany: I realized that the only person who was imposing these expectations and pressure on myself was none other than my very self. Nobody in my life was telling me that I had to be doing this and that, it was always me who set that standard up because of what I heard elsewhere and as a result I was practically my own enemy. I never stopped to ask myself why that was a standard I chose to satisfy in the first place and because of that, I unintentionally created so much unnecessary stress for myself.

We constantly worry about what the correct way to live, be or do something is and what abiding by otherwise suggests about us but as it turns out, in the end it’s only you who will hold yourself to that. Other people are busy living in their own worlds, pursuing their goals, or even struggling mentally comparing themselves to the next person and we don’t even know it because we are too clouded by our own judgment to realize that. I was my own obstacle and my own bully. The only person who cared about what I was and wasn’t doing was myself and I wish I had realized this earlier because the moment I did I finally let go of that pressure. I learned that there is no correct way to succeed and as long as I was moving forward, the rate at which I progressed would never matter.

Sometimes you are your own worst enemy and you need to be the one to call yourself out for it. Entertaining imaginary one-sided competitions and enforcing baseless expectations will only impose frustration on yourself. If I could give my old self some words of advice, this is what I would say to her: Be more kind to yourself and make your life a little easier by not getting in your own way. You’re the one person who will always be by your side at any point in your life. Have your own back, be your biggest supporter and your own best friend. Appreciate yourself more and give yourself more credit for how far you’ve come. Take it one day at a time and trust yourself because success does not have a fixed trajectory. 

Your new mentality

When I had my epiphany and chose to switch the comparison narrative around, I started to truly change how I saw myself and what my thoughts looked like in respects. In the present day, my mentality is that I live my life for myself only and I have zero interest in living up to anybody else’s standards and expectations but my own. I don’t care about what anyone else is doing because I am my biggest priority and my attention is exclusively directed towards my ambitions. Upon appropriating this mindset, I completely let go of that old version of me and never looked back. It’s been one of the best personal decisions I have ever made and I hope this encourages you to do the same out of love for yourself as well.

Take a deep breath and relax, this is your life. Only your goals and who you aspire to be matters. Stop living by others’ rules and start living by your own. Become so fixated on yourself that you can’t be bothered to care about what anybody else is doing or saying. Put yourself first and do whatever it takes to preserve your peace of mind. Stay away from people who actively make you feel inferior and delete social media if it’s distorting your expectations and standards. Whatever means are necessary but take yourself out of situations that make you feel less than others and start shifting your mindset into one that sees you as a winner.

Final words

Only you get to decide if you’ve had enough of feeling like you’re not enough. Implement and think about what I wrote in this post. Live by it until it feels so natural to you that the idea of being jealous of another feels unbelievably silly (because it is)! The longer you sustain this state of mind the sooner you’ll be at peace mentally. I leave you with a final reminder:

It is never too late to become the person you have always dreamt of being. Find inspiration in other people, establish your goals and do what it takes to achieve every single one of them. Do it for nobody else but you. Be so loyal to the dream version of you that it inevitably materializes before your eyes. You are infinitely greater than you think you are. The world is far too grand and your life is full of too much potential for you to allow yourself to be suppressed by the expectations of others and the fictional competition you have placed upon yourself with another. There is nothing in this world that you cannot have, do or be and the only person you should be competing with is yourself. Every day is a new opportunity to be better than who you were yesterday. You’re not running out of time because your path is your own. Nobody could ever come close to imitating the excellence that is you and nobody ever will, that will always be your greatest blessing and your greatest brag. 

One piece of media that totally changed my perspective is Viktor Frankl’s "Man's Search for Meaning." His story hit hard. Frankl talks about how he found purpose even in the darkest moments, saying, “When we can’t change a situation, we have to change ourselves". It made me realize that life can throw some serious curveballs, but how we respond is what matters.

He says,“life isn’t unbearable because of circumstances", and that idea flipped a switch for me. Nowadays, whenever I encounter difficulties, I work hard to understand what is the purpose behind it rather than just get stressed about it. I have been able to forgive and have compassion for myself and other people who might find it difficult to understand where I am coming from. To be frank, it is a game changer. 💯💯💯

What’s a piece of media (book, movie, song, etc.) that completely changed your perspective on life? How did it impact you?

Reminder to self_ Celebrate small wins. Every step counts. You deserve it.

One more day has passed and like all others, it just felt like a rehearsal of the past. It’s so easy to get used to this life and miss all the miracles right in front of our eyes. One more day has passed and like all others, it was the first, it was the last.