One Of The Most Challenging Things I’ve Had To Learn Is That Healing Must Be Intentional. There Is

valentine's day is coming up and it's great that couples and partners and lovers get together to love each other more on a very special day for them, but i just want the discounted candy guys i'm not here for the romance and sex

I hate feeling so numb

Today (March 31) is International Transgender Day of Visibility, and I’m sending love to all trans folks today, and always.

new and updated corner for me

“Are you suuuure you don’t want to have sex some day?”

Me: Hang on, let me check for any urges

i love the (proper) representation that LGBT characters get and it's super great and all but sometimes, I kinda want representation for nonbinary and aro/ace/demo/poly people too, because we exist too

I've decided to say fuck what everyone says about me getting a puppy

sure, it may be a hard process, but I feel like I'll have more fun and more memories of raising it than I would adopting an adult dog, and over time, I might get a ferret

I've always wanted a puppy (I've looked into German Shepard and Huskies, but due to the Virginia climate we're in, I'm undecided for a huskie even though three ppl in the neighborhood have Huskies) and name it Spade and the other puppy would be Zero(??)

It'll be a while before I get them tho, because I haven't gotten my job yet and work out my hours. I was told puppies aren't worth the time and energy and ?????

I mod for two different aro/ace blogs and I’ve seen so many asks from aspec people who are in some deeply unhealthy friendships at this point that I think it’s really time to make a post about it.

Your friends should not mock or belittle your sexual and/or romantic orientations. Your identity is an important part of who you are and an actual friend would know that. People who mock your identity aren’t your friends, they’re bullies. 

Your friends should recognize and respect your boundaries. You’re touch averse and your friends keep touching you even though you’ve asked them not to on multiple occasions? Sex jokes make you uncomfortable and you’ve asked your friends to not make them around you, but they refuse to? You’re romance repulsed and have explained to your friend that hearing about their relationships all the time is bad for your mental health but they still won’t stop? Then those people aren’t respecting your boundaries and you either need to have a serious talk with them until they figure it out or you need to stop being their friend.

This can be hard to hear but it needs to be said. Don’t let your friends mistreat you just because you’re aspec. You deserve so much better and I promise there are better people out there.  

Sex-repulsed aces are not to blame for other people misunderstanding asexuality, even if your asexuality is tied to your sex-repulsion. You all are great and deserve to have your boundaries respected. Society puts a lot of emphasis on certain actions to be considered “real” relationships, but these are not true. Your health, safety, and comfort should come first.