Edging. It’s Been 359 Days Since I’ve Cum And I’m Not Going To Cum This Year. I Don’t Deserve

Permission to dream

It is important to consider something that the vast majority of humans never realize.   What we perceive as “reality” is quite subjective.   Human minds can’t actually perceive “reality” as it might exist. For example we can mathematically show spacial demensions can exist higher than the three we perceive but humans lack the senses and capacity to perceive and imagine anything beyond 3D. Those sensual/mental abilities were not necessary for humans to flourish and so those abilities never developed.   What’s more reality not even created by our limited senses.   Our senses merely provide some inputs to our brain.  The key is that every input to your mind is filtered through your individual mental processes to create your understanding or your perception of (your) reality.   Your mind creates the reality you perceive.  Your individual perception of reality is literally created by your mental processes.   

Once you realize that your reality is rooted in mental processes, then you know intuitively that we have the power to change processes. That is almost within your grasp.   It’s not like  I have power to change you

you just need to  reach for what you desire.  You feel safe  reaching for your desire knowing that you always have the ability to change the processes that create your reality.  

This is true even though perhaps  you crave giving control   Since control is always an illusion you feel safe when you  give control over  to someone   Now   you should feel free to  explore your most closely held fantasies and desires.

Don’t tell anyone.. This post may lead you to  be submissive.

You probably shouldn’t read this if you  give in  easily or don’t wish to  be submissive.

There, you’ve been warned. Reading this  may cause you to end up as my good little sub.

But lets be honest here, that is what you want now don’t you? If that is what  you truly want  you may keep reading..  Good girl. You like it don’t you. Did it feel good? or did it almost feel like a soothing voice whispering it in your ear while an idle finger deftly touches you in just that way you know delights. You don’t   want more  of it do you, but you are already looking for it, here let me give it to you..

Good girl.  You see love, it’s as if I know exactly what makes you tick, as if I know exactly what brings you here. This voice   inside you is unmistakable.

Perhaps you’re here to look for someone who will use you, make   you submit,   maybe you’re here to  read all these posts  and let your fantasies run wild or maybe you just find yourself lurking down this rabbit hole regularly as you   touch yourself   in bed, let me be that fantasy now. Let me guide your hand.  Good girl. That feels so good doesn’t it? Let go, give in to your fantasy as you lose yourself in the power of my words, enjoy it when you  feel helpless.  Feel how good it is inside to just  do as you’re told, chase those wonderful two words which have kept you going. You want it don’t you, you can see it coming up, careful now, don’t you rush. I want you to feel each word that leads up to it and the ecstasy that you know those words will bring you.

finnnally gettinn to tha part of edging where keeping being ambiently turned on is more desirable than cumming

hihi!

my daddy isn’t all that into ddlg stuff and some of the bdsm things that i myself am into

however he’s interested in sex and mostly sex he’s not interested in the emotional side of bdsm purely the sex and pleasure for him

it upsets me that he doesn’t want to explore kinks with me but i can understand most of the time

i was wondering if you had any advice

The short answer here is “it depends”.   It depends on multiple factors.  Perhaps your partner is just selfish and does not care all that much.   More likely, your partner may just not be super comfortable with taking the dynamic further and doesn’t want to feel embarrassed… like they don’t know what to do. Rather than risk looking/feeling stupid, they avoid taking things further and may even claim they are not that “into it”.    Fear generally and fear of something so personal as sexual embarrassment are quite potent motivators to overcome.   If he doesn’t care enough, that is another story altogether.  

However, if they care about you, you may be able to convince them to explore more, but it will take some work to make them comfortable with it.  

 In anon... I can only offer some general advice on how to get an intimate partner to explore more things with you.  Every relationship is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Therefore, I encourage you to communicate openly, honestly and respectfully with your partner about your desires and expectations and listen to their feelings and preferences.  The biggest key to deepening your relationship this way and reaching your goals is empathy.   It is the most powerful thing humans do.   There are ways to help this, but that is a bit deeper and would likely require direct messaging rather than anon.  Or if you like I can point you to some resources on it.

Feel free to reach out more if you like.  Either way, I wish you all the best.

i get sooo many asks and DMs asking for tips on how to get better at edging so i wanted to make an actual post about how i turned myself into a total edgeslut — and how you can, too! there's really only one main 'rule' to follow while you're learning how to edge, so i promise you can do it! this info should still be applicable regardless of your particular genitalia, but i mostly reference cunts because that's what i've got.

the one rule!

my ultimate suggestion for people who are new to edging and finding it almost impossible is to STOP TRYING TO EDGE. some of you are going like that's crazy edging is all i want to do! but listen to me. listen to me. we are going to get you there.

if horniness is a scale of one to ten, with one being 'not horny at all' and ten being 'orgasming' the ideal edging situation is that you get to a nine and then stop. that's really hard to do, though! but you could probably get to a four and stop, right? pretty easily, even.

that's what you want to do. figure out that highest number on that scale you can go and still stop, and go to that number. do this a lot. i love, love, LOVE touching like this, even now that i am a pro at edging, because there's zero risk of going over and it's still a great tool to keep you horny / submissive / feeling hot as hell / whatever it is you want to get out of edging.

start at bringing yourself to a four and then stop. once you've mastered that, once that feels almost too easy, move up to a five. then a six. seven. i encourage you not to cum at all while you're doing this, but also, i'm not your dom! do what you want! the point is you're touching-without-cumming a lot (which is great practice all on it's own) and you're acclimating your body to getting horny, sometimes even REALLY horny, without actually cumming every time it happens.

doing this regularly also has the pleasant side-effect keeping you aroused more often than not. if you're constantly bringing yourself to level seven horniness and then stopping, you are almost never going to drop below level three. you are going to be turned on a LOT, which feels sooooo good. which leads to...

getting addicted*!

the thing about being always horny, about touching yourself all the time, about never cumming, is that it feels really, really good. people wouldn't do denial if it didn't! and once you've had a month or so of touching-but-not-edging and your body's adjusted to the sense of being constantly turned on and how good it feels, it gets to a point where cumming is a lot less appealing. you know it's going to take away the good, horny, happy feeling that you're getting addicted to! once you've come to really, really enjoy being constantly horny, and come to associate the idea of cumming with losing that good feeling, that makes it a lot easier to keep from going over as you creep up to higher levels like eight and nine. and even when you do go over, the fact that you'll lose the sensation that you've come to enjoy so much will just reinforce for you that it's better not to cum!

*i'm using addicted as a fun little hyperbole word here, but i do want to add the disclaimer that if your edging / horniness / etc. starts to interfere with your life like a real addiction then you gotta stop that before you hurt yourself. do not actually jeopardize your job/relationships/etc. for kink.

edging!

by this point, you'll have lots of practice at masturbating without going over and you'll be addicted to the feeling of being constantly turned on — and you'll dread the thought of losing that feeling. those things combined are the peak edging scenario. this is the point when you can start trying to edge seriously; bringing yourself to a nine on our horny scale and stopping.

you will probably still go over occasionally as you figure out your actual limits — don't be angry at yourself for this, but do refrain from trying to edge again on days you go over. the last thing you want is to reacclimate your body to coming regularly. if you try to edge in the morning but go over by mistake, just bring yourself to a level eight for the rest of the times you masturbate and try again tomorrow. eventually, you'll know your limits, be addicted to the feeling of being edged, and be really practiced at doing it!

if you're still having trouble or just want to play in new ways, then find out what turns you on but you can't orgasm from. your nipples are sensitive enough to break your brain but you can't orgasm just from that? well then get to playing with them, dummy! love penetration but can't come from it without clit stimulation? tape off your clit and get fucking! i can never cum just from humping a pillow or grinding on something, so grinding is a great way for me to edge! try to find stuff that makes you really, really horny but that you can't orgasm from and really lean into those things!

what doesn’t kill u makes it ridiculously fucking stupid hard to find a compatible partner

It is OK.

You are OK. If you’re unsure about how far you let your kinks go.. If you surprise yourself how far your kinks go.. If you are still discovering new levels to your kinks.. You have no need to worry when you just take a moment to realize.. You’re trapped. You’ll always want this. It will probably only get worse. The more you fight it, the more your need for it gets stronger. The more you feel it getting stronger the more you feel you need it. Your body isn’t lying to you. This is who you really are.   Have an amazing day.

“Do you want to cum?” He asked the girl writhing on the floor as another edge washed over her.

All she managed in response was a sound that can only be described as half moan, half whimper.

“How long have you been edging?”

“I don’t know.” She huffed. Her eyes floated and rolled as her fingers continued to rub her swollen red clit.

Amused, he asked, “Well, when did you start?”

“2:00”

He flicked his wrist to check the time. “You’ve been edging for three hours? Straight?” Another gasp as yet another edge rocked her body. “Yeah you do want to cum. Don’t you?”

“Yes Master, please!” The hope of an orgasm brought her from the fog of edging and desperation flooded her eyes. “Please Master! Please can I cum?”

“Yeah, you want to cum.” He crooned. Of course you want cummies. Look at what a mess you are. Three hours of edging! You’ve soaked the bed beneath you. But cunts don’t cum. Do they?”

“No Master.” She pouted. Cunts don’t cum.” Her fingers fell from her dripping cunt.

“Don’t stop” he warned and gave her that look, the one that always earned immediate obedience. When her sticky fingers again returned to pleasure, he continued. “Cunts don’t cum.”

“Yes Master. Cunts don’t cum.” She repeated the mantra.

“Cunts don’t cum.” He said, his voice deep and soothing, hypnotic even.

“Cunts don’t cum.” She repeated, not yet falling into the trance, still too desperate for an orgasm.

“And what are you?”

“I’m a cunt. I’m your cunt, Master.” She whined as she let another orgasm literally slip through her fingers, dancing on the edge.

“Yes. That’s right. You’re a cunt. My cunt. Cunts don’t cum.”

“Cunts don’t cum.” She confirmed. “Cunts don’t cum. Cunts never cum. Edge only.”

“Say it again.” His voice soothing and deep.

She started to fall into his words. Soothing and deep. Deep like the fog. Falling deep into the fog. “Cunts don’t cum. Edge only.”

“Not yet. I want you desperate a little longer. Cunts don’t cum.” He pulled her back from the fog of trance, just a little. Lucid but foggy. Desperate but dropping. “My cunt, why don’t cunts cum?” He asked.

Puzzled, and wanting to fall into the bliss of trance, she didn’t know how to answer. Her fingers continued rubbing her aching clit, sliding gently into her slippery hole, spreading her arousal across her smooth lips and thighs. “Because Master said so.”

“Good cunt. Obedient cunt. But why? Why don’t cunts cum?”

He pinched and twisted her pierced nipple, and bent to flick his tongue across the other. Another edge. His lips vibrated against her nipple as he growled his pleasure while she shook in frustration as the edge consumed her. As she edged, his pleasured moans competing against hers caught her attention.

He stood straight but continued to pinch and twist her nipples. She saw his cock growing hard in his pants, pressed against his zipper, and she knew. “Cunt edges for Master. Cunt edges in devotion to Master.”

“Yesss!” He sighed and freed his cock, taking it in hand and stroking it before her. “Every edge is an offering to me, your Master. Edge for me, my cunt.”

“Cunts don’t cum.” She said again in desperation. Her fingers barely even grazing her sensitive, desperate clit to another edge.

“Cunts don’t cum.” He repeated, his voice soothing and hypnotic again. Taking her down into the fog. “Cunts don’t cum. Edge for Master.” He continued to stroke his cock, pumping his hand rhythmically to his words.

“Cunts don’t cum. Edge for Master. Edge forever.” She embraced the fog. Embraced each edge. Welcomed the waves of escaping pleasure as a sacrifice to her Owner, her Master, the love of her life. The fog of trance swirling with his words, as she fell deeper into her own arousal. Each edge taking her deeper.

He stroked himself to the orgasm she wouldn’t have. His own sticky cum spilled from his cock, landing on her sticky fingers at her cunt as they brought on yet another edge. She continued to repeat his words. “Cunts don’t cum. Edge for Master. Edge forever.”

Sated, he slowly brought her out of the fog. Lifting her gently from trance. Counting up to clear the smoke, breathing deeply to think clearly. As the mists of trance disappeared, the ache in her denied cunt intensified. With her mind clouded only by the intense need to orgasm, the trance fully behind her, his fingers joined hers, dancing across her clit, plunging deep inside her, mixing his cum with her sticky arousal. He asked again, “Do you want to cum, my cunt?”

“No Master. Cunts don’t cum. Edge only.”

Sometimes a girl just needs to be held… with one hand on her throat.. while she’s edged and made to admit her dark kinks while she cries.

It’s ok. Let it all out my good little toy.

Don’t tell anyone.. This post may lead you to  be submissive.

You probably shouldn’t read this if you  give in  easily or don’t wish to  be submissive.

There, you’ve been warned. Reading this  may cause you to end up as my good little sub.

But lets be honest here, that is what you want now don’t you? If that is what  you truly want  you may keep reading..  Good girl. You like it don’t you. Did it feel good? or did it almost feel like a soothing voice whispering it in your ear while an idle finger deftly touches you in just that way you know delights. You don’t   want more  of it do you, but you are already looking for it, here let me give it to you..

Good girl.  You see love, it’s as if I know exactly what makes you tick, as if I know exactly what brings you here. This voice   inside you is unmistakable.

Perhaps you’re here to look for someone who will use you, make   you submit,   maybe you’re here to  read all these posts  and let your fantasies run wild or maybe you just find yourself lurking down this rabbit hole regularly as you   touch yourself   in bed, let me be that fantasy now. Let me guide your hand.  Good girl. That feels so good doesn’t it? Let go, give in to your fantasy as you lose yourself in the power of my words, enjoy it when you  feel helpless.  Feel how good it is inside to just  do as you’re told, chase those wonderful two words which have kept you going. You want it don’t you, you can see it coming up, careful now, don’t you rush. I want you to feel each word that leads up to it and the ecstasy that you know those words will bring you.