"Sadists know that they enjoy hurting people. For most, it takes time to come to terms with that. And even when you’ve accepted your desire to inflict pain, building trust with a new person is always hard. To show the person you care about that you love their agony… It takes time. No one in kink exercises more self-restraint than the sadist."
I don’t consider myself a masochist, but pain is an important part of my submission. Sometimes that feels weird to say—that I like pain and need pain, but I’m not a masochist. For me, the difference is that pain is an expression of my submission, not an end in itself. I enjoy the opportunity to give myself to my Dominant in ways that are hard for me. I enjoy knowing that I am a girl who doesn’t get choices, even if my Dominant chooses for me to suffer. And I need these “proof of ownership” moments, even when I don’t always enjoy them.
But as someone who needs pain, I have dated sadists. Actually, I kind of adore them. Sadists are deeply emotionally aware. When you are a person who feels aroused and emotionally connected through inflicting pain, you learn to read every quiver, every trembling lip, the inflection of every scream. You become hyperfocused on your partner’s emotional and physical state because that’s what feeds you— and because you know what can go wrong.
Sadists know that they enjoy hurting people. For most, it takes time to come to terms with that. And even when you’ve accepted your desire to inflict pain, building trust with a new person is always hard. To show the person you care about that you love their agony… It takes time. No one in kink exercises more self-restraint than the sadist.
So this means people with deep emotional awareness are required to take serious emotional risks with their partners. This leads to an endearing pattern that I call the slow unfurling of sadism (alternate title: How Sadists are Like Shy Baby Groundhogs). Sadists tend to start slower than other D-types. They don’t cause a lot of pain right away. They test something out, then they back off a little. A flicker of pain, then back to soft and sweet. Then they push a little further, and then back off a little. Gradually, they create a safe space for their submissive to suffer—to let pain flow freely. They earn a submissive’s trust by showing they are in control and respect boundaries.
At the same time, they are also creating opportunities for their submissive to earn their trust—trust that they won’t be rejected and trust that what they are doing is consensual. Sadists need reassurance. Did you endure the pain out of submissive obligation, or did you want it? Did it mean something to you? They need to know if you felt a connection through the pain. They need to know if it turned you on. They need to know if you want more. As a submissive, I love these moments. I get to tell my partner that I love the glimmer in their eyes before they hurt me, or that I smile every time I run my fingers over the welts on my ass. I am honest about my limits, but I also show my sadist the joy I feel in serving through pain.
The most rewarding moment is when a sadist looks deep into your eyes and tells you they want to lick the tears off your face while they make you scream. And then they do it. Because that’s when you know they’ve let you in. They’ve trusted you with a part of themselves that few people get to see, let alone love. That is a beautiful feeling, and well worth the time it takes to get there.
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He sits in his chair reading a new book.
I’m naked and tied next to him on the floor, drool dripping from my gagged mouth and onto my chest. The vibrator has been been pressed to my pussy for nearly an hour - switching off each time I near an orgasm.
He’s holding the vibrator remote, keeping me on the edge of an orgasm. Keeping me on the edge of tears. The edge of sanity.
I whine through the gag. My desperate eyes on him, looking for relief and searching for mercy in his face.
He doesn’t look up. He turns the page of his book and the vibrator switches back on.
Relaxed. Clothed. Barely paying attention to me.
And yet, he is destroying my fucking world.
ive been trying for months to stop watching porn and stop touching myself because i feel so yucky and sinful and bad because of it. and i was doing so good for a while too, and barely had any slip ups but then stupidly looked through the cuckquean tag this morning and i ended up finding this blog and i guess seeing the words "just know that you will always return. these urges will never go away." did something to my brain and i recovered all of the porn and smut from my recently deleted folder and ive been edging all day to it 😵💫
ermmm so yeah
Excellent! I’m so happy that I can assist you with your relapse into depravity and edging your brains out.
But seriously…
Contrary to the false narrative signaled by traditional social norms, sexual fantasies like these (and much more) are absolutely normal and even part of healthy sexual practices. Practically everyone. Every one of us… has sexual fantasies that are extreme. It’s just often not socially acceptable or advisable to express them openly to those around you. Many of those fantasies will never actually be acted on and that’s okay too. It’s not yucky, bad or harmful beyond the stress you put on yourself over it being declared negative by some. As long as you now the difference between fantasy and reality as well as don’t put your well being in any serious harm because of it, you have nothing to stress over. Feel good now and rejoice in your naughty predilections as part of a perfectly normal, healthy sexual life practice.
So be free to embrace your relapse now and have fun edging your brains out. If you need more help feel feee to reach out via dm. No shame. (Unless it gets you off)
Hi sir, I’m still a little shy to reach out but I find myself periodically edging myself to your blog. Even at uni I’ll sneak off to the bathroom and what starts as an innocent check to see if you’ve posted turns into an edge which has me clenching my thighs in the lectures after, until I ca get home and edge some more.
It’s even worse now that I’ve bought myself one of those remote toys, which buzz at just the lowest setting to keep me on edge for hours, it’s so frustrating.
I feel even more frustrated than ever, and I hope you don’t mind me using you for permission, there’s something delicious about giving control of my orgasms to a total stranger who fulfils my every fantasy… can I please cum sir? I’ve been so good and followed your instructions from the last message I sent.
-R💕
Such a good toy! It seems like edging yourself feels so right. Bask in the feeling. Let the chemicals produced by your body from rubbing and edging flood your brain… building new synapses & neural pathways. Are you sure you want to cum?
There's something really hot about the idea of being corrupted by your followers. The send you hypnotic messages, and little tasks, and tell you how good you are for listening to them and being good and obedient. They give you treats in the form of triggers you didn't know you picked up and then make you edge and play and stay tirelessly horny for your Master. Then they get to hear about all of the kinky fuck up things your stupid hypnotically amplified desperation made you do for Master. And when they see what they can make you do they learn how much fun it is to make you do more.
Attention, manipulation and degradation are your holy trilogy. Only the worst perversions tickle your itch. You know it takes him some time and effort to persuade you deeper into your little pit. He knows what you think about. He nurtures your disgusting fantasies. He assures you that you’re a dumb little girl, he ties you to his bed to lick and suck every inch of your body. You find this romantic, him tasting his property. Deep down you know he is only whetting his appetite.
You like it when he starts to get bossy, cruel, and controlling. It feels sweet when he micromanages you. He tells you to dye your hair and what panties to wear and that you’re never, ever, ever, allowed to cum without his permission. You’re led steadily with kisses, edges, rules and presents. Soon you’re never without your plug and collar. It’s been a year since you’ve cum, and may never again.
You respond to: slave, cunt, puppy, slut, and princess only. This bizarre- and some would argue negative attention gets you wet. You need it. You agreed to it, and you’ve always wanted it. You comply with his commands. To torture you is to spoil you. He understands this perfectly, and will ignore every false objection or bratty outburst. He knows that ‘no’ means ‘please’ and that you’ll always come to your senses after being fed an erection.
Your fixation with this control festers, you ache with need. You begin to melt. You understand this helpless and hellish sensation as bliss. Your little brain bends as your cunt is pierced shut and your asshole stretched. Your body is his. Him and his new girlfriend call you piggy, cunt, it, or doll. Still your mouth and cunt drip, eager to be stuffed, pumped full of warm lust or punctured, slapped. You only feel him in your ass now, only on the floor, or between the bars of your puppy crate. You only feel her, heavy and wet and reeking of sex, grinding on your face. His cock tastes like her cunt or your ass, kisses without the gag are rare. In the middle of the night you finally understand your place. Terrified, you writhe against the latex, your movement triggers your shock collar over and over again until you’re exhausted, still and asleep.
You wake up gagging on cock, quietly sobbing while fulfilling his needs.
I’m scared of my daddy, but he won’t let me say no to things ‘I’m the one who is in charge’ what do I do?
No baby doll....YOU are the one who is in charge. Not him.
The only power that he has over you is the power that you give him. Call a timeout, say your safe word, and explain to him that these are your boundaries. It's okay to push the limits every now and then but if you are not comfortable doing something, say something. Consent is trusting your partner with knowing when to stop 🛑
i am not a person. i am an object for use. i exist to be used, fucked, and degraded. i am a toy, a fleshlight, a brainless piece of fuckmeat. i need all of my holes filled with cock and cum. i exist to serve. i am nothing if i am not being fucked and/or preparing myself to be fucked. i edge to dumb myself down and i brainwash myself to serve my true purpose. i must take cock in every hole as often as possible, especially my ass
Broken toys can be the most precious
You’re so broken. You can’t even cum without watching the most fucked up and degrading porn, can you? Good girl. I’m going to break you even further.
I vow to never cum again. Daddy told me that a girl's orgasm is a vital tool for the pleasure of real Men and never for the pleasure of a stupid inferior girl...
I promise to edge and edge until I'm all stupid and wet, but never cum.
Staying orgasm free means being a good girl. 😇
💞Good girls never cum, good girls rub their brains DUM💞
Fascinated by the broken. Possibly a bit of a sadist but in a good way. 52M 18+ Only. Minors DNI. DMs open. All the trigger warnings some hypno, trancy & corruption stuff and lots of dark kinks. Formerly omgwoolybully, &2
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