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sigh. ok. so. here is something that people who are Very Online and do a lot of tumblr discourse do not seem to get: many marginalized groups experience huge issues with their sex lives being stigmatized and/or with being consistently desexualized.
queer people’s sex is stigmatized because it’s viewed as dirty and sinful and wrong, to the point that even within the queer community, a lot of positivity that people create for queer people is contingent on us being ~uwu pure soft sweet beans~ who are always ~sweet and tender~, never sexual, never rough or hard, and absolutely never kinky.
mentally disabled people are viewed as eternal children who could never possibly enjoy sex or experience sexual attraction/desire, to the point that people will literally say that it’s bad to be sexually attracted to mentally disabled people and that it’s comparable to pedophilia. (stares at entrapta discourse).
physically disabled people and fat people are viewed as looking so ugly and horrific and disgusting that nobody could ever possibly be attracted to us—even if we can experience sexual attraction, we could never possibly have sex, because nobody could ever be sexually attracted to us in return.
so, in light of this, it is incredibly important to keep in mind that headcanoning (or canonizing, if you’re a creator) people within those groups as asexual is not inherently better and more progressive than portraying them as experiencing sexual desire and having healthy sex lives. i’m not saying “you can never view characters in those groups as ace”, i’m just saying that you cannot get mad at people just for viewing them as sexual. we are also trying desperately to reclaim our sexuality and to see ourselves represented for once.
somebody viewing (or, again, even canonizing) a character as having and enjoying sex is not like, a terrible horrible aphobic crime against all ace people, particularly when that character is in one or more of those groups. like, i’m bi, but i don’t say that viewing a character with no canon sexuality as a lesbian or gay man is inherently biphobic. viewing a character as sexual is not inherently aphobic.
i remember a few years ago, there was a WTNV episode that vaguely implied that cecil and carlos had sex, and people lost their shit and accused the creators of being aphobic. but cecil and carlos are gay men, and sex between men is incredibly stigmatized, and portraying them as having a healthy sex life is wonderful and progressive and important.
and now, in current tumblr discourse, if a gay/fat/disabled person tries to say “hey it’s pretty weird to consistently headcanon all gay/fat/disabled people as asexual, because when you do it to those groups consistently, it starts to feel like you’re desexualizing them”, people absolutely rip them to shreds and call them aphobic.
like someone i follow is Right Now Currently being attacked and called aphobic just for saying “martin (tma) is canonically fat and gay and people in those groups are often desexualized so it’s weird to see people consistently insist that he can’t possibly enjoy sex; it’s also weird to see people consistently insist that he must have never had sex in his entire life ever because fat people are consistently viewed as people who nobody could ever be attracted to, so it can carry the unfortunate implication that nobody could be attracted to martin because he’s fat”
tl;dr: stop saying that viewing gay/fat/disabled characters as having and enjoying sex is inherently aphobic, people in those groups are very consistently desexualized and/or have our sex stigmatized, so representation for people in those groups who have and enjoy sex is just as important as ace representation
recreated the @pukicho tax evasion sweater if anyone is interested
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Hello there awesome animal fact person! Lately I've come to love maned wolves. Their appearance is weird as it is but I'm wondering if you have some even weirder or cursed facts about them!
at nearly four fucking feet tall, maned wolves are the tallest canid in the world by a HUGE margin!
and there’s a good reason for that- maned wolves live in grassland areas and mostly hunt small animals, so the long stilt-legs give them a literal leg up and let them see over the tall grass.
(probably still HELLA ticks in there, though.)
this elevated height also grants them a distinguished and imposing air...
...but only from the sides.
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STRAIGHT FACTS!
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this is really just my favorite tiktok
Of course the trumpies would go and make a big ass deal over the blm protests and then the very next year they go fucking riot at the capitol. Of course you’d go suck yourself own dick like this, republicans don’t even really have beliefs they just say “he keeps ME in power so I’m gonna vote for him! Fuck everyone else white person supreme!!!”
My parents won’t give me the password to download apps so I’m just here going fml tbh
oh hey, stealth and closeted trans people! i keep forgetting to mention this and idk if everyone already knows but there’s this free app called transtracks (android + iOS) that acts as your standard transition tracking app (medical transition, social transition, surgical transition, whatever you’re tracking) except it has a stealth mode!
just change your passwords settings to “train tracks”…
… and voila! the app has become for train schedules.
this is what the new decoy password screen pulls up:
it isn’t exactly safe for me to be out IRL so i’ve been using this app for a while now! it’s mostly helpful for my peace of mind and in case somebody needs to use my phone because i’m out to my family- but anybody living at home who isnt out or who has nosey/transphobic parents- maybe give it a shot!
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Yes yes yes yes!!!
I really wish I could go see a phsychiatrist about this but my parents will think it’s just a money dump even though I answered yes to almost every SINGLE question on this only excluding the ones that go directly against the ones I’d answered yes to.
I’ve been told I’m dramatic for my entire life, I can’t believe that this whole time it’s probably just been adhd making it impossible for me to monitor and take control over my own emotions. I can cry over the drop of a hat and I always thought there was something WRONG with me.
Here’s the ADHD Checklist! I finally made it, it’s originally from this post. But I’ve put it in a more easy to read manner.
Requested by: @partykeet I hope this helps!
If you don’t know if you have ADHD or not but have an inkling you might, these are important questions to consider when self diagnosing and researching into the disorder!
Executive Dysfunction
Do you struggle with getting things done?
Do you mean to do it and you don’t?
Do you feel overwhelmed by trying to do it?
Do you forget to do it?
Do you feel like you can’t for whatever reason?
Emotional Dysregulation
Are you often told you’re overemotional?
Are you told you overreact?
Do you feel like you can’t control your emotions?
Do you often go from one emotion to the next?
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
Do you react strongly without meaning to?
Do you get really depressed after wearing yourself out?
Do you feel awful after someone’s criticized you?
Do you often spiral when something goes wrong?
Do you feel like you can perk back up when that person asks you what’s wrong?
Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome
Do you have a hard time waking up?
Do you have a hard time going to bed?
Do you have very vivid dreams?
Are you aggressive and irritable when someone wakes you up (for like, school)?
Do you struggle keeping a consistent sleep schedule over vacation or summer break, even on the weekends?
Inattention(Dissociation) and Hyperfocus
Do you often zone out?
Do you daydream?
Do you get disinterested often?
Do you feel like you can multitask (listen to music and read at the same time)?
Do you get so absorbed in something that when you return to reality, hours have passed by?
Hyperfixation and Emotional Hyperarousal
Do you have “obsessions” or things that feel incredibly pleasurable/taste good when you interact with them?
Do you have a loud mind that runs a thousand miles a minute?
Do you feel overwhelmed or stressed out by your mind?
Do you overthink or overanalyze things?
Is your head really foggy or thoughts blurry?
Working Memory, Inattention and Object Permanence
Do you seem to have memory problems?
Like you cant remember something someone told you to do (homework, chores)?
Or you easily lose things, having it just been there?
Do you forget that things exist after having them put away?
Do you forget important things like birthdays, dates and numbers, but remember other “trivial” things?
Do you have a hard time remembering the past or your childhood?
Stimulation and Stimming
Does listening to music help you get things done?
Do you need to watch something while you’re eating and get distracted if you don’t?
Do you feel dissociated or distracted when you can’t listen to music or have your phone out?
Do you constantly fidget, shake your legs, play with parts of things?
Do you feel like if you try to stop fidgeting, you’ll feel an urge to do it more?
Do you have a million phone games?
Do you feel like some games aren’t enough to play on their own but some are too much that you can’t focus on anything else?
“Money Blindness” and Impulsivity
Do you have trouble with money when given control over it?
Do you spend money on things other people find pointless or useless?
Do you have trouble with microtransactions?
Do you feel like when you buy something that you’ll have enough money left for things you need?
Are you often broke? Especially if you claimed that you would save money?
Do you often feel like the consequences of buying something aren’t that serious?
Time Blindness
Do you have a hard time keeping track of time?
Do you feel like you’re often late to things?
If not, do you have anxiety, and often panic about the time?
Do you often have a hard time keeping a schedule?
Do people say you have poor time management skills, but no matter what you do, you can’t fix it?
Habits, Executive Dysfunction and Disorganization
Do you have poor hygiene?
Do you struggle to remember to brush your teeth?
Is it hard taking a bath/shower? If so, does it take a long time to get into the bath or shower?
If left to your own devices do you wear the same outfit for days?
Do you often look disheveled despite trying to be organized and clean?
Do you often rub off makeup or have messy hair?
Do you try to be organized but no matter what, you can’t?
Boundaries, RSD, and Volume Control
Do you struggle with boundaries?
Do you have a hard time controlling your volume (either too loud or too quiet)?
Do you feel like you’ve ruined everything when someone tells you that you did something wrong?
Do you think you’ve offended people when you haven’t?
Do you have a hard time judging reality correctly (like you think you’ve offended or hurt someone and you feel awful but it didn’t bother them that much)?
Disclaimer: Don’t say someone who self diagnoses is faking. If you relate to these questions and symptoms, you definitely are not faking. ADHD is a disability that is incredibly hard to manage. People who have it don’t like it as they have likely struggled all their life. Being undiagnosed and unmedicated is damaging and traumatizing. Be kind to people, especially if they don’t have access to medical help.
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My first ask ever!! Thank you!! I LOVE IT
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What’s so bad about periods
hi peeps. i need some help (deets in the tags)
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A friend of ours made some pride face masks
Get yours here
Boys are allowed to be feminine and that includes trans boys, pass it on. Girls are allowed to be masculine and that includes trans girls, pass it on. Nonbinaries are allowed to use feminine or masculine expression, pass it on.
There's a lot of accidental anti-semitism in the world , but sometimes I come across the deliberate and malicious anti-semitism im DND and I'm just reminded that no matter how much I love this game it does not love me back and the original creators never wanted me to play it.
Today's example is: Phylactery
In d&d:
In real life
That's right. they named the evil artifact that the evil undead spellcaster hides their soul in after a Jewish ceremonial object.
B A G E L T I M E B I T C H
help me out guys. reblog this, like this. for every note, everything is pushed back a day for him. I need your help. he doesn’t believe it’s possible to help him. but it’s entirely possible, especially with your help. I know these are so sporadic and cliché to an extent along with becoming so popular on here, but please. I appreciate every single note
Santa is on strike due to global warming. All presents this year will be delivered by Sasha the Christmas Tiger. Milk and cookies may not be sufficient.
so i’ve seen pictures of 3d printed piezoelectric violins & cellos
but, fool that i am, i never stopped to wonder what they sound like
it turns out they sound actually how you’d expect
