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I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

in case it hasn’t been clear, this blog is firmly and unwaveringly pro-choice.

People who aren’t at fault for attacks against queer rights:

Trans women

Nonbinary people

Asexuals

Aromantics

Pansexuals

Catgender people

Stargender people

People with conflicting gender labels

People that use it/it’s pronouns

People that use noun/nounself pronouns

People that use no pronouns

Cis people using “different” pronouns

People who are at fault for attacks against queer rights:

The politicians attacking queer rights

The white supremacists attacking queer rights

The conservative crowds attacking queer rights

The transphobes attacking queer rights

The homophobes attacking queer rights

The only people at fault for attacks on queer rights are the people attacking queer rights. Don’t blame your community for having their rights taken away alongside you.

PSA: there is anti-Korean, historical revisionist dogwhistle in Ousama Ranking/Ranking of Kings that suggests that the author of the manga is a Japanese nationalist

I understand that this may fly over many people's heads, especially those who are not from Japan, but I'm from there and unfortunately I have spent enough time on the internet and around IRL nationalists to recognize their beliefs and talking points. I'll explain my reasoning below.

In episode 18 of Ousama Ranking/Ranking of Kings, we get introduced to the story of Houma and Gyakuza. Houma is depicted as a country full of good people - skilled wizards fighting against the tyrannical gods and helping the people of Gyakuza. Meanwhile, the people of Gyakuza are depicted as wholly negative - conniving, weak, and self-centered.

The show explains that the people of Gyakuza are like this because they have a long history of being ruled and exploited by others. They're depicted as "primitive" people who live in shacks, and they're poorer and dirtier than the people of Houma.

Houma comes to aid them and to teach them magic so that they may fight the gods together, but Gyakuza ends up betraying Houma in cold blood. History is then written in a way that depicts Houma as the aggressor and Gyakuza as the victim.

The part I want to talk about next is in the manga and hasn't been animated yet, but I'm sure you'll see it in the next episode.

When the gods come to Gyakuza, the Gyakuza people tell them of all the horrible things the Houma did to them - how exploited they were and how abused they were. One god takes a look at the state of Gyakuza and says "But if the Houma were so awful to you, and took everything from you like you claim, then why did they build hospitals and schools here? You guys look prosperous to me", to which the Gyakuza people can't find anything to say and they just stand there awkwardly.

So... does that remind you of anything? If your answer is no, well, that's okay. I called it a dogwhistle for a reason. But anyone familiar with the history of Japan and the arguments of Japanese right-wing nationalists will recognize that this is how they talk about Korean people and Japan's colonization of Korea.

According to the logic of Japanese right-wingers, the story of Houma and Gyakuza is an allegory about the history of Japan and Korea, in which

Gyakuza = a poor and primitive country full of deceitful people = Korea

The "outsiders" that kept Gyakuza under its rule for most of history = China

Houma = country full of good, upstanding people who only wanted to help the poor Gyakuza and fight a against gods = Japan

Gods = powerful western nations that were colonizing many parts of the world

They love to deny history by framing the colonization as a good thing - that we never exploited the Koreans, that we built schools and hospitals, that we "civilized" them. In the mind of a nationalist, Koreans are liars who are ungrateful to the Japanese, and Koreans play the victim when they in fact benefitted from the colonization. All of that is disgusting BS of course, but it's what they believe.

I hope I'm not coming across as someone who's reading too much into a story. I'm certainly not the only person who clocked the dogwhistle. Back when the manga chapters were being released, some Japanese readers immediately took notice. Just do a quick Twitter search and you'll encounter two types of people: people who recognize the anti-Korean message and condemn it, and people who recognize the anti-Korean message and agree with it. Either way, like I wrote, it's fairly obvious to anyone who's familiar with the beliefs of Japanese right-wingers.

Translation - I wasn't interested in Ousama Ranking at all but I heard that it got flamed so I read the problematic chapters, and it's awful. A lazy manga that makes up a fictional group of people just to use them as an analogue of Korean people that exist in the mind of a internet right-winger. It's very clear to see the ignorance of the author.

Translation - First Tweet: Saw episode 18 of Ousama Ranking. Gyakuza is literally the peninsula.

Second Tweet: I can't be the only person who thinks Gyakuza in Ousama Ranking is the mirror image of North Korea and South Korea. #OusamaRanking #Gyakuza #Korea

I totally understand why people like Ousama Ranking. It has well-written characters, the animation looks great, Bojj is precious, and I was a fan of it too right up to the moment I read the manga chapters about Houma and Gyakuza. I just wanted people to be aware of its message and the author's beliefs. It's really shameful how much history-revisionist right-wing ideas have permeated in the minds of Japanese people, and by extension, popular culture.

English isn't my first language but I hope I made this article clear enough. Feel free to send me asks if you need clarifications, and also I encourage you to reblog this and even cross-post it to other social medias!

im so funny

alright since i just had to block a new mutual who slipped under my radar, i’m realizing i haven’t talked about this enough so let me make this clear:

trans women are women and trans men are men

all non-binary/genderqueer identities are legitimate identities

asexuality and aromanticism are legitimate orientations

gender essentialism is unscientific and moronic

having been hurt by cis men is not an excuse to take out that understandable anger on marginalized people who have done nothing to you, go to fucking therapy

terfs are dipshit losers and if you have trans-exclusionary beliefs then you are also a dipshit loser and an embarrassment to the feminist movement

my blog is not a safe space for terf rats, i don’t secretly side with you, and if i clock you for what are you are you’re immediately getting blocked

Baby Clifford & baby Snoopy

dam…….. that website “you feel like shit” (it’s like a questionnaire / troubleshooting guide for when you feel like shit) really works………………….. im not even all the way thru it and i even half-assed a lot of the suggestions and i already feel loads better

This is my euphoria

genuinely so fucking tired of people leveraging the "groomer" argument against people who support sex ed because scientific literature over decades shows that comprehensive sex education starting around kindergarten actually prevents children from being sexually abused and groomed because it teaches children the correct words for their body parts and also teaches them concepts of privacy, personal space, bodily autonomy, the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touching, and the fact that sex is something that only adults do. children with this knowledge are not only better equipped to identify abuse and predatory behavior and communicate that its happening to a trusted adult, but also prevent it from happening in the first place by recognizing when something is happening that shouldn't.

sex education does not sexualize children, it prevents children from being sexualized. anyone who is against early foundational sex education and claims they are doing it to protect children is a fucking liar.

THIS IS FOR ALL THE TRANS PEOPLE WAITING TO SEE SOMEONE WHO LOOKS LIKE THEM, PLAYED BY SOMEONE LIKE THEM! THANK YOU UMBRELLA ACADEMY

VIKTOR MOTHERFUCKING HARGREEVES!!! WE SUPPORT ELLIOT AND VIKTOR IN THIS HOUSE AND IF ANYONE TALKS SHIT THEYRE GONNA GET HIT AS LONG AS ELLIOT IS COMFORTABLE NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!!!

me rereading my own writing: this bitch fucking loves commas

Can’t believe i need to reiterate this but: if you are a terf you are not welcome here. This blog is a safe space for everyone under the trans umbrella and all lgbt+ people. I will always support and love my trans friends and queer friends.

new mother-daughter bonding activities just dropped: psychoanalyzing your father

I just got an offer for a university which I had applied to for fun because I thought it ranked too high for me to get in which is great but idk if I want to accept the offer opposed to another uni whose course I prefer but is ranked lower that was my first choice when applying. It feels like a waste to not go for the higher ranked uni but I'm scared that I wouldn't be as happy/interested with the course. I wish someone else could just make the choice for me honestly.

[ID: 3 gifs and a text banner.

The first gif is of driving by a billboard with a trans flag on it and text that reads, "fat trans people are so fuckin epic".

The second gif is a trans flag waving in the wind with text on it that reads, "i fucking love fat trans people 💕".

The last gif is an opening heart locket. On the left side is the trans flag and on the right side is text that reads, "fat trans people my beloved".

The text banner reads, "(heart) fat trans people my beloved, (heart)" The text has a horizontal light pink to dark pink gradient and has a magenta outline. End ID.]

having ADHD to they/them pipeline. idk im running out of post ideas

1 REBLOG = 1 RAT becomes TRANSGENDER

How traditional pitchforks were made.

It took 6 years starting from orienting branches

Creative & DIY

calling myself babe when I'm talking to myself. in a pitying but loving way. like babe you gotta get up. babe why are you doing this. babe you're giving me nothing here

oh your pronouns are he/they?

well that’s mathematically incorrect becuase you can still simplify the fraction since both sides have “he”

making your pronouns technically 1/ty

"Greetings to the Universe in 55 Different Languages", a poem compiled out of messages from the Voyager spacecraft

a little kiss

send me an ask

reblog this post to light the diya of the person you reblogged it from <3