A Brief History Of The Palestinian People And The Jewish Religion According To Widespread Leftist Views

A petition Exclude Known Sexual Offenders from Participating in the Olympic Games

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Penguins. I have over 10 stuffies and a few shirts

Thank you for the screencap and all the others. They are useful for reference

Does "narcissist abuse" exist?

Well, I'll try to think of this as unbiased as possible.

Narcissist and Abuser are not synonymous. Many narcissists make an effort to not harm others and have never been or are currently not abusers.

NPD is a disorder with different presentations and sufferers have differents traits and severities: some narcissists are aggressive and external; some are more internal; some may be concerned with being a good person; some may overcompensate for their narcissism; some may take out the issues of their disorder on others; some may have trouble self-reflecting and hurt others; some may never hurt anyone; some may know how to deal with their traits while others may not.

NPD is a disorder that impacts both the sufferer and the people around them. It is important to talk about the sufferer, but also to acknowledge that it affects others as well. Especially if someone is untreated and unaware of their disorder.

It can cause someone to hurt others if it is left unchecked, if they were taught to hurt others, if they are unaware of their behavior, if they lack self-control, or if they simply have no desire to be a good person.

An abuser with NPD's reasons and ways of abusing someone may be different, just as an abuser with autism's would...and an abuser with depression, an abuser with bipolar, an abuser with schizophrenia, or an abuser who is not mentally ill at all.

I have heard a story about a woman with schizophrenia who was convinced her children were possessed by the devil and tried to attack them. Does this mean everyone with schizophrenia is dangerous? No. Absolutely not. Did her disorder affect the way she treated others in a negative way? Yes, because it presented in this way, and she was completely unaware and untreated. She is a victim in the fact she was dealing with these delusions and this fear, just as her children were victims for having to deal with the way she acted. Again: someone being schizophrenic does not mean they will hurt you. If someone who is schizophrenic tries to hurt you, that isn't representative of everyone with schizophrenia. (Many people with schizophrenia do not try to harm people at all.)

I also heard about the difficulties of a child living with bipolar mother who treated her disorder with alcohol, causing her to accidentally harm her child in many ways. Obviously, her disorder and addiction are relevant in talking about the experience, but we all know people with bipolar disorder are not abusers just because they are bipolar; and addicts are not abusers just because they are addicts.

Abuse can be done on accident, especially if someone was raised around it or thinking it was okay, or if they have a disorder affecting how they see things. In some cases, explaining and trying to help people realize their behavior can work. In others, it won't; some people don't want to listen or get better. If thats the case, thats on them. But no matter what, abuse is a choice. It can be done without awareness; but it is still a choice.

Anyone can be an abuser, and the equation of one disorder with abuse is not only dehumanizing to the people with this disorder, but can actually hurt victims of abusers who aren't narcissists, or victims who are narcissists.

My point is that it can be relevant to say your abuser had NPD. But someone being an abuser doesn't mean they are a narcissist, and the NPD isn't what needs highlighted...its the abuse. Yes, you can say your abuser had NPD, I don't think it's wrong to make a space to discuss this with people who had a similar experience either.

Many people in my family are narcissists/narcissistic, and quite a few of them hurt people or have been abusive. So I won't deny that a lot of narcissists (especially ones who externalize their narcissism and who are completely untreated, also when they refuse to admit they have a problem) treat others badly. I also know some of them don't actually have bad intentions and that others do have (in a way) bad intentions. Some were raised to think it was okay. I also know of narcissists who internalize it, who are aware of their narcissism, who do their best to not hurt others, who are victims themselves.

NPD should be talked about from the perspective of people with NPD, but this doesn't mean people who dealt with abusive people with NPD can't talk about it. As I said, I had no problem with an article about an abusive mother who had bipolar disorder; it was relevant.

A lot of "narcissistic abuse" described is just abuse. A list of abusive behaviors doesn't need to say narcissist at the top. It is completely irrelevant. Say it if it is relevant.

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TLDR; Your abuser being a narcissist can be relevant, and you can talk about it, narcissists can be abusers and their disorder can play a part in it. But not all narcissists are abusers, and "narcissist" is equated with abuser. This is why people do not like the term "narcissistic abuse." It, in a way, equates narcissism with abuse. "Narcissistic abuse" is as real as "autistic abuse" or "bipolar abuse."

Don't use narcissist as a word for abuser. Say it if it's relevant.

I have no problem with a subreddit, therapy group, or community for people who dealt with abusive narcissists, but I want people to not perpetuate a stigma.

I sympathize with those who were abused, but narcissism isn't abuse; abuse is abuse. Narcissism can play a part, but that is not what the abuse is, and that is not THE cause of the abuse.

Abuse is abuse, and anyone can abuse.

Some thoughts I wrote for Valentine's days about relationship anarchy and how no one really knows what romantic love means (alt text below)

As an asexual person who doesn't really understand the concept of romantic love I have discovered that aloalo people have no idea of what having romantic feelings is o feels like. I have learnt a lot more about what love means in the aro community and the polyam and relationship anarchy community.

And I thought it would be cool to show some of that stuff I have learnt that should be obvious but people usually forget, (which I understand, life doesn't come with a rules book).

1. Love isn't a limited resource. You can have romantic feelings for more than one people and it's okay and normal! The same way you can have more than one best friend and love them all as much. Romantic love doesn't have to be restricted.

2. Your love for your partner is not better or superior than the love you have for other people. Amatonormativity makes us all think than we all desire a relationship on top of everything else. Which is stupid. All kinds of relationships can be as much fulfilling and everyone is different. Your love for a partner, a qpr, a friend, your family, your community, all are equally important in their own ways.

3. Some people don't want or need to have a romantic relationship, or a sexual relationship, or any kind of couple-like relationship to feel happy with their lifes and that's great! Aromantic people are amazing and it's hard to navigate a world so much focused on romance.

4. The attraction split model was created by the asexual community as a way to help define their orientation more specifically. And though it may not be useful to everyone I personally think it's very useful to learn and do some introspection about how many types of attraction we can feel. Humans are not machines and not everything can or needs to be defined, but giving words to our emotions is fundamental to understand how we work.

5. Despite what I said in the last slide, it's imposible to reduce everything to closed boxes, and that's a good thing too, you don't need to restrict your feelings to fit into normative standards. Don't let anyone tell you how you should or shouldn't love.

To conclude: Just love your friends. Take care of everyone you care about, built a community, don't let anyone tell who you should and shouldn't love and how to do so and be nice to others.

Tell your friends how much you appreciate them, buy them chocolates, give your mother flowers, kiss your partners goodnight, fight against amatonormativity, listen to our aromantic siblings.

And enjoy this day, thank you if you have read all this bible until this end <3

Ambulance Bill Passed Due

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Donate to ambulance bill, organized by Varda Cassar

I received a final notice for an ambulance bill which I can't afford, I didn't receive the previous letter… Varda Cassar needs your support

I hate to log back in to Tumblr just to beg for help, but I have 14 days to cough up $1200 for an ambulance bill.

I would really appreciate if you reblogged this for reach. Thank you 💓💓💓

FDD

Gaza Health Ministry Cannot Provide Names for More Than 10,000 It Says Have Died

The Gaza Ministry of Health cannot provide names of more than 10,000 of the 34,000 individuals it says have died during the war between Isra

Make of this what you will.

BROKE OPEN THE HTTYD2 DVD FOR RESEARCH. MY LIFE CONTINUES TO BE IN SHAMBLES

Anyway the pushed back helmet is an under-appreciated hiccup look

ref from screenshot!

Finally!! The words in this were based off of Hiccup’s narration in the first book of the How to Train Your Dragon series by Cressida Cowell. I’ve been working on this for a few months now (on and off) and finally just finished it for the Dragons 2 release. Happy flying for those who are going to see it!!! :)

I had to oddly compress everything because of Tumblr formatting x__X make sure you click the 3 mini pictures after the first/second panel!!!