Being A System Is So Weird Like My Mummy And Daddy Didn't Like Me So Now I'm Sans The Skeleton

anti-endos worshipping the DSM and citing it as proof that plurality has to be caused by trauma / disordered: Rahhhh you're a liar because this book only used in america has it!!!!!

the helpful ICD, which apparently recognised non-disordered plurality in one of the iterations (not sure which one) and used across the entire world:

SORRY i am just now seeing this but YEAH i actually think i know what ur talking about. im pretty sure there is an ICD document / article about dissociation that mentions non-traumagenic plurality somewheree in it? but dont quote me on this because i saw it like... last year LOL

also the DSM never even says that plurality has to be disordered either? it just says that DID/OSDD-1 are not caused by spiritual or cultural practices, which honestly if anything validates non-disordered plurality? because like that means it acknowledges that identity alterations CAN be caused by things other than DID/OSDD-1

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✶ ﹒ intro.

eight. 19 years old.

any pronouns. genderless.

mixed indigenous. disabled.

DID system. OEA survivor.

ASPD. NPD. schizospec.

blog will contain triggering content including posts relating to / showing weapons, posts about mental illness, posts about trauma, and more.

i plan to get started making NPT and BAH posts! might also coin xenogenders eventually, you can send requests in if you want, i may decline if i feel uncomfortable for whatever reason.

below is my tagging system and NPT + BAH request rules!

✶ ﹒ requests.

i will do any themes requested unless i find them too difficult for whatever reason, or feel uncomfortable with the theme.

my npts will include names, pronouns, and genders. i can add titles if requested but i am not too good at them! i can also include system names if requested.

all bah posts will come with some basic information, and any additional information can be requested with add-ons!

a basic bah will include names, pronouns, age, role, gender, orientation, and species. it will also include a personality overview, as well as any noteworthy traits or features, and a general aesthetic or style description.

add-ons include faceclaim, typing quirk, sign offs, image aesthetic / moodboard, music taste, source, kins, and anything else requested! please specify if you would like any of these included in your ask.

bah template will look something like this...

names:

pronouns:

age:

role:

genders:

orientation:

species:

personality overview:

notable traits:

general aesthetic:

add ons:

✶ ﹒ tagging.

system tag — ✶ ﹒ sys.

trauma tag — ✶ ﹒ trauma.

aesthetic tag — ✶ ﹒ aesthetic.

vent / rant tag — ✶ ﹒ vent.

music tag — ✶ ﹒ music.

media tag — ✶ ﹒ media.

disability tag — ✶ ﹒ disability.

mental illness tag — ✶ ﹒ mental.

coining tag — ✶ ﹒ coining.

bah tag — ✶ ﹒ bah.

npt tag — ✶ ﹒ npt.

witchy tag — ✶ ﹒ witchy.

misc tag — ✶ ﹒ misc.

reblog tag — ✶ ﹒ reblog.

asks tag — ✶ ﹒ asks.

👉👈 hi... you guys seem cool...!! :3 ive been wanting to approach y'all but didnt know how AJDJFJ also, i saw that you have a witch tag? :0 (i consider myself spiritual and do some witchy practices but i dont really call myself a witch)

- nova

OHH THANK U!! also yes! i am an eclectic pagan :3 also a witch!! we also love making friends so if u want to be friends feel free to DM us anytime!!

Here’s my metaphor for systemhood that I tell my singlet friends.

Imagine you’re playing a first person video game. You have the controller, you control your character. It’s a normal first person game. You are an alter, the character is the body. This is fronting.

Other people live with you. Sometimes, they come into the room and sit and watch while you play. They sometimes try to guide you, give you advice on what to do next. They don’t always agree, and they can argue with each other. Other times they scream at you that you’re doing everything wrong and you suck at this game. This is co-consciousness.

Imagine how distracting it would be for people around you to tell you what to do, or to scream at each other or at you, even if they have good intentions. It wouldn’t be easy to focus on your game, would it?

Then sometimes, something happens in the game that prompts you to hand off the controller to someone else so they can play and you get a break. This is (some types of) switching. This can be good.

Other times, someone rips the controller out of your hand or fights you for it. This is (other types of) switching. And sometimes, six other players hook up their controllers, but there’s only one character to play as. So all of you have your controllers, but you’re all trying to play the same character. This is cofronting.

Imagine how difficult that would be. Imagine how hard it would be to try and play a game while someone is trying to take the controller from you, or while six other people are trying to play too.

There are also times that nobody is playing, or you can’t decide who should play. What’s happening to the character in the game? What are they doing if no one is playing? This is dissociation. The character is doing nothing. They’re stuck.

This is the best metaphor I have come up with for being a system. It’s something a lot of people get because they’ve played games before.

i love you if you've gone through physical trauma. i love you if you've gone through mental trauma. i love you if you've gone through psychological trauma. i love you if you've gone through sexual trauma. i love you if you've gone through religious trauma. i love you if you've gone through emotional trauma. i love you if you've gone through any sort of trauma.

your trauma does not define you as a person — you are much more than that. you are lovable. you are valuable.

dear professor i cant seem to lock in. its so over

omg lol i wws just explaining the same thing to my partner, that it’s hypocritical how they understand didosdd is more than just alter disorder and then turn around and claim alter = didosdd? every time i argue with antiendos it devolves into the most basic argument

“endos are faking having didosdd! theyre invading our spaces!”

“okay but the majority of endos dont claim to have didosdd, that’s like the entire point of the label”

“but by claiming to have alters you’re just roleplaying didosdd!”

“but you agree that didosdd is more than just alter disorder, right? if you can have hallucinations or depression by itself, as a symptom of a disorder or even as a struggle alone, who’s to say you cannot have alters by themself? that’s even barring the hundreds of other ways people claim to have headmates, which are not things that you have authority on if it is real or not since you don’t live in their brain”

“…YOU’RE FAKING!”

“i am diagnosed with did, i just do more critical thinking than you do”

“YOU’RE STILL FAKING FOR BEING PROENDO LFMEBFKWJFNWKJSJAK”

like it’s tiring seeing all of these people listen to whatever lie gets told to them and then base their entire personalities off hating some group or other just because the internet told them to. and anything less than hatred is somehow unacceptable as well

YEAH exactly!! like... its kind of just gatekeeping the term "system" at this point, because the DSM-5 actually acknowledges cultural practices that cause identity alteration in the diagnostic criteria of DID. there is a specific note saying it isnt a cultural practice lol

Bro doesn’t even know I’m a we