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When I was in ninth grade I wanted to challenge what I saw as a very stupid dress code policy (not being allowed to wear spikes regardless of the size or sharpness of the spikes). My dad said to me, “What is your objective?”

He said it over and over. I contemplated that. I wanted to change an unfair dress code. What did I stand to gain? What did I stand to lose? If what I really wanted was to change the dress code, what would be my most effective potential approach? (He also gave me Discourses on the Fall of Rome by Titus Livius, Machiavelli’s magnum opus. Of course he’d already given me The Prince, Five Rings, and The Art of War.)

I ultimately printed out that phrase, coated it in Mod Podge, and clipped it to my bathroom mirror so I would look at it and think about it every day.

What is your objective?

Forget about how you feel. Ask yourself, what do you want to see happen? And then ask, how can you make it happen? Who needs to agree with you? Who has the power to implement this change? What are the points where you have leverage over them? If you use that leverage now, will you impair your ability to use it in the future? Getting what you want is about effectiveness. It is not about being an alpha or a sigma or whatever other bullshit the men’s right whiners are on about now. You won’t find any MRA talking points in Musashi, because they are not relevant.

I had no clear leverage on the dress code issue. My parents were not on the PTA; neither were any of my friend’s parents who liked me. The teachers did not care about this. Ultimately I just wore what I wanted, my patent leather collar from Hot Topic with large but flattened spikes, and I had guessed correctly—the teachers also did not care enough to discipline me.

I often see people on tumblr, mostly the very young, flail around in discourse. They don’t have an objective. They don’t know what they want to achieve, and they have never thought about strategizing and interpersonal effectiveness. No one can get everything they want by being an asshole. You must be able to work with other people, and that includes smiling when you hate them.

Read Machiavelli. Start with The Prince, but then move on to Discourses. Read Musashi’s Five Rings. Read The Art of War. They’re classics for a reason. They can’t cover all situations, but they can do more for how you think about strategizing than anything you’re getting in middle school and high school curricula.

Don’t vote third party unless you can tell me not only what your objective is but also why this action stands a meaningful chance of accomplishing it. Otherwise, back up and approach your strategy from a new angle. I don’t care how angry you are with Biden right now. He knows about it, and he is both trying to do something and not doing enough. I care about what will happen to millions of people if we have another Trump presidency. Look up Ross Perot, and learn from our past. Find your objective. If it is to stop the genocide in Palestine now, call your elected representatives now. They don’t care about emails; they care about phone calls, because they live in the past. I know this because I shadowed a lobbyist, because knowing how power works is critical to using it.

How do you think I have gotten two clinics to start including gender care in their planning?

Start small. Chip away. Keep working. Find your leverage; figure out how and when to effectively use it. Choose your battles, so that you can concentrate on the battle at hand instead of wasting your resources in many directions. Learn from the accumulated wisdom of people who spent their lives learning by doing, by making mistakes, by watching the mistakes of their enemies.

Don’t be a dickhead. Be smarter than I was at 14. Ask yourself: what is your objective?

i highly recommend for women and girls to be intellectually curious and difficult to shame

Narrator voice: The irony of this whole situation is not lost on her, she is utterly confused but also wants to burst out laughing

Narrator voice: her brain is doing cartwheels, not the exciting type the wtf is going on type

Narrator voice: she doesn't understand if being called small is a compliment or a threat....

Narrator voice: her brain is malfunctioning....what is this feeling? is she getting....flustered? Omfg abort mission nooooo.......(narrator panicking sounds)

Narrator voice: aww they are cute.......wait is that villain? Wtf is she trying to do here, ruin the moment between the lovebirds? (narrator angrily flips table)

Narrator voice: as much as I want to just deck the villain, I'm an entity that exists outside of their world so I can't do anything (narrator sighs)

1. Horror! (Movies, games, Args, analog, books, all of it!)

2. Season 4 and all stars season 7 of drag race because Jinx monsoon was one of my hyper fixations. (Haven't watched any of the other seasons LoL)

3. The anime genre I call 'group of girls doing stuff' because of its queer f/f undertones. (Zombieland saga, Sabagebu, Asobi asobase...etc)

4. Musicals! (StarKid productions, 6 wives cause I was obsessed with the song 'don't lose your head'...)

5. Debunking ghosts, flat earth stupidity. (So basically pseudoscience...)

There's so much more...but that's the five I could think of at the top of my head! But this post has inspired me to make a whole list in my commonplace book...

I saw this meme going around on twitter and I think it'll be perfect for this account.

List 5 topics you can talk on for an hour without preparing any material.

This is why it’s so important for parents to support their trans kids.

I don't wanna be girl or a boy. Just a blob floating through space........

reblog if you wear glasses. too many mutuals don't know they have glasses wearers in their midsts

new year’s resolutions:

bite at the hand that feeds me

slap at the face that eats me