celebrating my 5 year top surgery anniversary today, so I wanted to draw something that reflects the bliss of feeling your chest for the first time. happy pride 🏳️⚧️⚧️💙🩷🤍
But first they must catch you 🏳️⚧️ Prints
Thank youuuuuuuu I really did enjoy this
Since most of my blog talks about me and my experiences, but also defends and guides those around me and in my communities, I figured the base looking kinda like me, with some more symbolism on defending and stuff would encapsulate my blog pretty nicely!
@thegayfoxboy Your turn!
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If anyone else wants to join dont hesitate to reblog!!
whoa i feel like i can actually look at myself when i do more masculine makeup. like i don’t just feel immediately depressed and dissociate/experience my vision going blurry and can’t look myself in the eye. also boxers are so comfy and i love love love my new short red/burgundy hair. and my new ear piercings. like i’m just taking so many steps to feel more affirmed in my gender experience and comfortable in my own skin on my own terms, and it’s so so nice. now that i’ve started, i don’t want to stop.
not sure if i’m trans masc or a trans man or non-binary, or if i’m genderfluid like i initially thought, but man i feel so much more calm and at ease and like gently alive. like such a chill vibe and so grounded i love it so much omg
i think i might change my blog yet again lol.
I can't believe "trans men face oppression for their gender identity" is a controversial take now in the year of our Lord 2024 but here we are ig
Trans Tips #11!
Try to get some sort of Gender Affriming Gear if it's safe for you to!
I've always wanted things like binders and boxers, but but I was gender fluid and making entirely too many excuses for why I "didn't need it"
GET IT
I have been out for about 3 months now as a full trans guy, but I've presented masculinely for the last few years
As of this year (2025) my fiance has been gifting me more trans affirming items. They got me FNAF boxers that just feel great, and a packer (boxers with a bulge) and we are looking into safe binders together to pick out the best ones for me
The point is that I LOVE all of this! I love my packer, I love sitting/standing in ways that show it off, and I love the weight and feel of it! Sure I felt silly at first because it's a little silly looking but I've gotten so much more confident with it! Even if you can't wear a packer, boxers were my first step and they also felt amazing! Something about them is just so gender affirming!
Right now I just wear sports bras but it still works to somewhat flatten my chest. And I love that!
The point is to stop making excuses, obviously if your living in an unsafe environment is understand if you can't but if you can! Then it's just a game changer!
You don't need to be "more masc" or more fucking anything to wear what makes you more comfortable!
I love my packer, I love my sports bra, I love my boxers, I love my cargo pants, I love my body and my skin and what I'm willing to do to feel comfortable in it day-to-day is spend a couple dollars here and there to get gender affirming gear!
What are you willing to do to feel comfortable in your skin today?
reblog this if you believe trans men are real men like this if you dont
Estrogen saved my life I think
Trans tips #7!
It's okay to experiment with your Gender and Sexuality!
It's okay to go through the full cycle to find what works best for you!
And now! A comprehensive list of all of my sexuality and gender changes from the start of my journey to now, to be used as an example:
Straight! Cis Woman! I had a boyfriend who cornered me at a school dance to ask me out! I didn't like him, but i had no spine so...we dated for a year without kissing or holding hands or anything...
Pan! Cis Woman! I met queer friends who introduced me to the concept of Gender and Sexuality! I still consider Pansexuality as absence of Gender in the criteria for dating...also broke up with that boyfriend
Bi! Cis Woman! I also considered Bisexuality to be some consideration of Gender in the criteria of dating
Lesbian! Cis Woman! I made alot of jokes about slowly excluding men or masc presenting people from the dating pool
Gay! Cis Woman? I started thinking about Gender Expression a bit more, Gay was a safe umbrella term for me to explore under
*this is when I met my fiance...we started dating the same night we met...(insert uhaul joke here)*
Gay! Non binary Woman? Started messing with they/them Pronouns, at the time it was something like She/They
Gay! Non binary! This was a short time frame where I felt an absence of femininity within myself, anything fem!presenting made me uncomfortable (makeup, clothing, ect)
Gay! Gender Fluid! I actually came out like this to my younger sibling first because I knew they could be trusted. Also made jokes about stealing everyone's Gender because alot of my friends started coming out at some form of NB...also I had bursts of hyper femininity followed by long bouts of masculinity...until I stopped feeling feminine for a year and was in full denial that it would come back (every time I looked at my feminine clothing in my closet I felt sick, this is when I knew what was coming)
Queer! Gender Fluid! Queer fit me better considering i was He/They/She/It dating a They/She (Side note I don't really go by it, I just live in the Bible belt where morons call me "it" to make me feel bad, if I include it at least they're still gendering me correctly)
Queer! Transgender! Me currently :) I've given all of my feminine clothing to my cousin in law, and with my fiances support I've been coming out to my family.
I know I am in a safe place to do so now that I have my own place with people I trust! I will make another post on coming out next! NOT THE POINT
POINT IS GENDER AND SEXUALITY CAN CHANGE AND YOU CAN EXPERIMENT UNTIL YOU FIND OUT WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU!!!
Also don't rush into decisions! Each of these transitions took months to a year before I figured it was right! This whole process took 7 years and I only just came out as Trans at the beginning of the new year 2025!
But take your time to get a feel for these things, it can take time to adjust and feel your feelings about certain things! You got this and I'm proud of you!
men in queer spaces do not have to be feminine in order to be seen as "acceptable" or a part of the space.
Little update:
I have a new PFP, it's the closest approximation I can get to what I look like in real life (only exception being the beard, but i want it so canonically I have it)
So there you have it! If my moots have been wondering what I look like, now you know!
*Expanded image under the cut*
Li He/They/It Absolutely Unapologetically Dedicated to the most Beautiful Woman to have ever Existed
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