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Trans tips #4!

Reframing how you talk to/about yourself!

I talk to myself alot! Okay maybe not TO myself but I have a weird habit of narrating everything I am doing in my head to myself.

One thing I have to make a conscious effort to do is to use my preferred name in my head. Often I'll have my narration going on and I'll have to interrupt it to use my preferred name

Same goes for my Pronouns!

Example from today: "(Deadname) turned the ignition off, grabbing her keys and taking a deep breath before opening the door- no, wait, LI grabbed his keys, and reached for the handle of his door, ready to go to work..."

It's okay to make mistakes, and to have hiccups, it doesn't make you any less Trans!

Maybe I should stop taking to myself but I digress!!!

The other thing i do is i reword how I refer to myself, my body, my clothes, ect.

I started referring to my bras, which I use as binders, as harnesses. Idk why but this makes me feel much better about myself.

I don't own boxers as of right now as an obligatory Broke Collage Student BUT I stopped calling my undies Panties and call them Undies. I hated the word panties anyway so whatever! I also wear alot of loose horror t-shirts and cargo pants with docs (in case you wanna know how I dress for some reason!) So no renaming there!

Onto my body, right now I sit at a C cup, so no flat chest here, but I still call it my chest and my pecks, and I try to avoid saying Tits, Boobs, ect. They are my pecks and bitches be jealous of my big soft pecs!

Reframing how you refer to yourself can help a little bit with dysphoria! Remember that you got this and do what works for you, this is just what works for me!

Trans tips #8!

Modified (forced) voice training!

Get strep throat

Start to lose your voice

Realize you have to pitch your voice down to speak clearly and not in a whisper

That's it that's the whole post!

"i am agab" ❌

"i was agab" ✅

"agab" (assigned gender at birth) describes a past event where you were merely assigned a label by a doctor

not biological sex,

and not an identity label.

Thank youuuuuuuu I really did enjoy this

Since most of my blog talks about me and my experiences, but also defends and guides those around me and in my communities, I figured the base looking kinda like me, with some more symbolism on defending and stuff would encapsulate my blog pretty nicely!

@thegayfoxboy Your turn!

Design what your blog would look like if it was a person!

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If anyone else wants to join dont hesitate to reblog!!

trans men and transmascs do not deserve to be misgendered for any reason. don't let people do that you to. it's still transphobia no matter how much someone hates men. stop thinking about filming catty tiktoks and instagram reels and writing rude, exclusionist and violent text posts about how it's okay to misgender trans men to farm likes, engagement and comments on social media.

don't care if this rhetoric is popular right now. that doesn't make it right.

The amount of "men DNI" "I hate men bc theyre inherently violent/evil/manipulative/etc" "why would you ever want to me a man lol" "men suck" "I could NEVER be friends with a man" "imagine dating a dude. ew" "testosterone is basically poison" and other related anti-masculinity rhetoric I see in "leftist" spaces, especially queer spaces, is genuinely disturbing.

I think a lot of it follows the mindset of "women aren't worth less than men, its actually the other way around" like. yall are just reinventing gender essentialism in a more "progressive" way and its doing a lot of fucking harm to trans communities especially. Respect for one gender doesn't mean disrespect for another. It isn't a fucking pie.

and these same people are always the same ones with "transandrophobia truthers dni, it doesnt exist" in their bios

genuinely have had numerous people tell me that as a trans man i'm "a men's rights activist invading trans spaces".

so many people legitimately do not see trans men as trans.

i need people to understand that so many people for some reason have the idea that trans = feminine or woman. it's a real issue.

how are trans men invading trans spaces? this is where we live. and of course we're gonna advocate for our own rights. why wouldn't we? we don't exist to self flagellate because the idea of transsexual and transgender manhood and masculinity frightens you. i'm a trans man. i'm trans. i'm not invading my own community.

Trans and queer people make this world more beautiful. We experience new things, and create new worlds every single day. Never forget that. We have a right to our lives, our joy, and our freedom. We make the world better every day with our sheer existences, and no matter what, we will always be here.

Star-Ranger's Transgendered Galaxy, 2000

Trans tips #9!

Dont be embarrassed of yourself!

Somewhat story time, but it has a lesson, I promise!

I'm no longer sick! And I went out to dinner with some friends, my fiancé, and my younger sibling (NB) Whom knows about my transness

Well, we were at a Mexican restaurant when the manager walked up and was making conversation with the table. Eventually, he asked how we all knew eachother.

Now, some information about me, I still have long, blue hair that I am finally growing out after years of cutting it, and I'm pre-t. For the most part, not passing at all.

But my sibling introduced me as their brother

I felt super embarrassed

The manager asked "Brother? Who's your brother?"

Sibling points at me again, very casually, "yeah, so, my brother, his fiancé, (their) friends, ect..."

Manager starts pointing around the table, asking again "who is your brother?"

Sibling points to me again and very dismissively calls me their brother again

Now, overall, very proud of my sibling for sticking to their guns and not backing down

But in that moment I was so beyond embarrassed!

At the end I just wanted to tell them so let it go and let the manager call me their sister or something, anything to end the conversation, get me out of this mess, stop everyone from staring at me, I want a molcajete and a margarita at this point, thank you, yeah I'll pay let's just wrap this up please sibling shut UP

I was so annoyed with them

But, that was a few days ago, and I've since calmed down and I've been thinking about it all

I was the first in my family to ever come out. I've expressed my gender and sexuality differently for the last couple of years, and when my sibling came out as Nonbianary, I got them their first flag, and I walked them through coming out, and I showed them their options and their resources

And they received backlash

Because people (especially our family) weren't used to the idea of Nonbianary

My sibling considered de-transitioning

Going back to "normal"

Hiding in the closet

But I told them No! If someone doesn't refer to you by your chosen name, don't respond! I won't! I don't know who [deadname] is! I only know the name You told me! Fuck anyone who says otherwise!

Do you think I'm able to date and be engaged to the most wonderful and beautiful person in all of existence by hiding in the closet when people are mean to me? FUCK NO!

Stand up, say it with your chest, own it, and you'll be so much happier! So much more free!

They're just doing what I thought them to do

Dont be ashamed of who you are, and when you are ashamed, I won't be ashamed of you.

I can't hide in the closet, I am Valid

I may not pass, I am Valid

I may not be able to medically transition, I am Valid

I may like my hair longer, I am Valid

My voice isn't as deep as I want it to be, I am Valid

I am Valid, and You are Too

As long as you are safe to do so, don't be ashamed or afraid to come out;

And when you are, have someone else who can speak up for you!