Today a Hotwife in the making asked for advice on how to be successful in the lifestyle and immediately my first suggestion was to establish strong and sustainable rules. As a couple our relationship is the absolute TOP priority, which is why our rules are very important to us. With that being said I figured I’d share our rules to help any other couples or singles who are looking to establish some of their own 😊
1. Any potential playmate must be verified (video message etc) and agreed upon by both parties
2. We do not ever compromise on our standards, wants/needs or quality of playmates (quality over quantity).
3. No playing with someone that you have daily contact with (friend, colleague, gym partner etc)
4. No playing or messaging with a playmate if we aren’t in good standing (fighting, upset, sad etc) or you/us arent of sound mind (tired, drunk, high etc)
5. Don’t give too much personal information to playmates - family, friends, address, real name, workplace unless ABSOLUTELY certain they can be trusted.
6. Do not seek support of problems from playmates and/or talk about our relationship issues.
7. If a playmate starts to catch feelings or visa versa it’s over
8. The pace of daily communication with playmates should be managed by us. We should not feel obligated to respond to messages daily out of courtesy.
MEETING UP
9. Let your partner (and/or someone else) know where you are when you go meet someone or host someone alone (Location name, address etc)
10. Text them when you arrive at the meeting/playdate and when leaving the meeting/playdate (or when they leave)
11. Be aware at all times with NEW playmates. Don’t drink from opened alcohol or take anything that could compromise your thought process or awareness (i.e. getting too drunk or high)
12. No bondage, handcuffs, or restraints of any kind with NEW playmates. You need to be able to leave whenever you want.
13. No pain, degradation, humiliation or disrespectful name calling EVER!
14. Take lots of pictures and/or videos when playing solo for your partner to enjoy so they can feel like they are involved even though they aren’t there. **ONLY USE OUR PERSONAL PHONES TO TAKE THEM**
15. If a playmate is looking for an on-going relationship, they should have that relationship/friendship with the both of us. If the playmate has a problem with that then there is an increased risk that they won’t respect these rules or arrangements
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I like all of the "kinks" you explore on your blog and tend to agree with you about how they are natural and evolutionary advantageous. I would love my wife to partake in bareback with some else than me, group sex, multiple partners, threesome, and double vaginal-however, there are also evolutionary reasons why culture has developed to limit these tendencies-STDs-viruses, bacteria, & other microorganisms! An argument can be made that prudish cultural norms took hold to limit our cheating urges.
Real talk for a minute. You should be getting tested, and verifying that the partners you hook up are tested too.
Most clinics have an online portal so you really just need to go in, pee in a cup, and let them draw some blood. It’s not expensive and you can screenshot the results to prove you’re clean. Women can often just request these tests when they go in for their pap smear.
If your future fuck buddy doesn’t want to get tested then they are either dirty, broke, or lazy.
Bareback is better, but I don’t play roulette with my health.
#get tested or GTFO
This is gonna sound worst than it is but teasing out the inner hotwife in your woman will likely require a little bit of mild manipulation on your part. Remember, she has grown up in a judeo -Christian society that stigmatizes sex and neuters it of its pleasure and creativity. It’s a shame that men can walk around in public shirtless showing off washboard abs, hard pecs, and chiseled biceps, but if a woman puts on a form fitting dress and some heels she’s considered a whore. Don’t get me started. I digress.
My point with this lesson is porn will be one of the most important tools for you to use to transform your girl into a hotwife. In this lesson you will use porn ostensibly to ask her opinion about sex but covertly you will be leading her to exploring her sexual boundaries and more importantly causing her to explore them as well. You will also, and here is where the slight manipulation comes in, use porn to normalize sexual behavior that you like by suggesting everyone is doing it. For example by using gifs and clips that show anal sex, sloppy BJs, threesomes, etc., if done correctly overtime, you will not only pique her curiosity but in some cases work her into a frenzy wanting to try it. Be careful what you wish for because once she decides it’s something she really wants to experience she may do it with or without you!!
How is this done? It’s easy really. You should start to collect short clips and Gifs that demonstrate the kinds of sexual experiences that you want to open her up to. You should also collect photos of popular celebrity women, especially her favorites dressed provocatively. You will use the images you collect sporadically to not only learn what she likes and is open to do, but more importantly introduce her to new experiences and behaviors that go beyond her comfort zone. Your goal here is not to force her to do something she’s not comfortable with. Your goal here is to enlarge her comfort zone so that she is engaging in new behaviors willingly and passionately.
My ex used this technique on me. I never saw it coming and only realized it was part of a plan long after we had broken up. I had actually considered a threesome in my head because I have a hot girlfriend who told me she got drunk one night and did it with two guys. She said it was cool. I was intrigued but I didn’t tell her and I certainly would not have told my BF. It was a secret that I was too ashamed to admit or even think much about because I didn’t want to be considered a slut. However, after my boyfriend used this technique on me, not only was I admitting to him that I wanted two dicks but I was tellling him while sucking his cock and pumping a dildo in my pussy. It took time to get there but it started with him sending one gif of a hot girl getting spit roasted by two guys. He captioned with “whoa. This is hot”. He didn’t ask me to respond to it but by captioning it the way he did he removed all negative judgment by letting me know he liked it and it turned him on.
Over time he would occasionally send threesome gifs followed by questions that sometimes had nothing to do with the sex. He might refer to her clothing, shoes or hair I.e “I could see you with that haircut” or “she kinda looks like you”. He deftly put me in the scene. His comments caused me to imagine myself in her position. He also would make a lot of positive comments about the girl like “she’s a boss” or “she has a lot of confidence to do that” Jis comments were designed to make me see the woman in a positive light. I remember him asking me once what I thought it would feel like to have all that stimulation happening to my body at the same time. That question really resonated with me. His technique got me thinking more and more about threesomes. Not just thinking about them but believing that all confident, good looking girls were doing it. I began feeling left out and the thought of my hot friend being with two guys certainlybdidnt hurt my BF’s efforts. It wasn’t long before I opened up and started commenting back on the gifs and clips. I even kept a few I really liked and used them to masturbate to.
Porn is a versatile tool and can be used to advance your goal of making a hot wife in other ways too. I may address those uses in a future post. No go out and start dragging the inner slit out of your demure girl next door.
A worth sharing post containing most of the hotwifes on tumblr, this kind couple keeps the list up to date. Thank you Kilippcpl :)
Enjoy:
http://kilippcpl.tumblr.com/post/153511874482/the-ultimate-tumblr-list-of-couples-and-females
Pure wisedon for husbands
had a threesome with my bestfriend and my girlfriend. she moaned so much more louder with his dick in her wet warm pussy. and she tells me that she fucks her better than i did
Glad you got the courage to share your girl. Now that you know he can fuck her better I hope you are taking this as an opportunity to up your game.
Watch tutorials on PornHub and eat her pussy more, start a healthy diet so your loads are bigger, and work out more so you can pound her harder.
You need to show your female that you’re competing for her at the highest level. Otherwise, what’s the point?
#prove yourself
Si se polarizara la misma fantasia un extremo seria llamado "Stag" y el otro "Cuckold".
Aqui hay una buena descripción del segundo termino. Agradezco que la publicaran.
Si respondes afirmativamente a los siguientes ejemplos entonces lo eres:
• Te gusta lamer el semen sobre tu esposa, aunque no sea tuyo
• Te excita que tu pareja te cuente sus experiencias sexuales pasadas
• Tu pene se pone duro solo de pensar en otro hombre follando a tu pareja
• Estas consiente que tu pene es más pequeño que el resto de los hombres
• Te excita a ver a otros hombres coqueteando con tu pareja; de hecho, prefieres que ella se vista como puta para obtener más atención.
• Prefieres ver una gran verga penetrando a tu pareja incluso más que tener sexo con ella
• Fantaseas con darle sexo oral a tu pareja mientras otro hombre eyacula en tu cara.
• No te importaría besar a tu pareja aunque su boca este llena de semen de otros hombres.
• Sabes que no tienes lo necesario para complacer a tu pareja, así que no te importa solo observar mientras otros se la follan.
Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.
Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.
Quien dijo? yo.
Bravo
Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?
I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.
No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.
No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.
No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.
No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.
I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.
*rant over*
Muy buena publicación, gracias.
No sé de donde nació la idea de compartir a mi esposa, pero cuando veo porno y veo a todas esas parejas amateur gozando y disfrutando, me vuelve loco la idea de verla gozando de la misma manera ( y yo tambien disfrutando su placer). Tal vez sea el morbo, no lo sé, pero algo es indiscutible, la seguridad de poder imaginar y compartir mis deseos con ella, es por la confianza tan solida que tenemos en nuestro matrimonio, además del amor y paciencia que tenemos en nuestra vida día a día. Esta base me da la seguridad de compartir con ella mis fantasías deseos. El día que le confesé estos profundos deseos, fue Super el saber que ella se encontraba tan nerviosa como yo al compartir lo suyo, pero nos unió más, y confirme mucho de lo que ya había leído al respecto en varios blogs, este mundo swinger cornudo hotwife o como quieran llamarle, no viene a arreglar nada, sólo hace más fuerte y sólido lo que ya existe.
En estos momentos nos encontramos compartiéndonos imágenes, fantasías, el cómo sería, y es riquísimo sentir esos orgasmos liberados de deseos con tu pareja.
Los dejo y agradezco su preciado tiempo. Escribiré luego.
Saludos !
This story is a little bit old. We never posted anything on the blog about this event when it first happened because we weren’t really sure how muchof our journey we wanted to chronicle but we’ve recently decided we want everything that can be on the blog to be on it. Its not quite as dirty as the last two either, but its a very important chapter to Amy and me. This was our very very first time of trying anything involving sharing and was the point when we knew it was something we definitely wanted to pursue.
Anyway, avid fans may remember around June Amelia and I disappeared for a few days. We went up to Edinburgh (Scotland for foreign followers) for a few days to celebrate our engagement. While we were there we had a guy from kik offer to meet up with us for drinks at some point during the holiday. Amy wasn’t too sure about this (bear in mind it was literally only a few months previously that I had told her about my fantasies) but I was up for it. After a bit of discussion we decided it was a good opportunity to meet someone new and we were under no obligation to actually do anything with him so we agreed to meet.
We met the guy in a pub and had a few drinks. Amelia was wearing a gorgeous corsetted top that showed off her big tits and neither me or the guy we met were able to keep our eyes off her cleavage! We all hit it off really well and had several drinks together. In fact we got on so well with him that, while he was off getting another drink, Amelia and I were disccusing what we should do with him. We really appreciated him making the effort to come meet with us and wanted to give him something to remember, so we decided Amelia would give him a goodbye kiss. I know that doesn’t sound ground breaking, but keep in mind, this would be the first guy Amy had kissed (that wasn’t me) for seven years and the first time I would see her with another man in any form.
Unfortunately he had to get the train home so we had to cut the party a little shorter than we would have liked. We walked him to the train station and said our goodbyes. Amy gave him a hug and, as he went to move away, pulled him in for what was, in my opinion, the perfect kiss. It was sudden enough that there was no way he could have expected it but lasted long enough for him to know it wasn’t an accident. Then we went out serperate ways. The walk back to our hotel was agonising for me. Just seeing her kiss the guy made me incredibly horny. I was full of energy and unable to stand still. I’m not sure I slept much that night because of the adrenaline!
The next day we decided we had enjoyed ourselves so much the night before that we asked him whether he wanted to meet up again that night as well. He agreed and we made plans to buy alcohol and bring it back to the hotel room this time. We made it clear to him that it wouldn’t go as far as sex but we left the possibility of other things happening open. We met at the same pub as the night before and had a drink there before heading back to the hotel.
Remember, this is the first time we had ever done anything like this, so we were both a little nervous. We knew we wanted something to happen but were a little lost as to how to initiate it so we came up with a bit of a plan. I would go to the bathroom leaving the two of them alone, wait a few minutes, then by the time I came out hopefully stuff would be happening.
The evening went on and we continued having a good time and a laugh. Finally, about an hour before the guy had to go get his train, I got a text from Amy saying simply, ‘Go to the bathroom’. I followed her instruction and waited for a few minutes full of nervous excitement. This was something I had wanted for a long time and it was surreal to me being so close to it. I listened at the door intently, desperately trying to hear what was happening. I could hear them talking but couldn’t make out what was being said. Eventually I had to just leave the bathroom, otherwise I’d have looked a little weird, so I pushed open the door to be greeted to the sight of Amelia making out with him!
She was sat on the edge of the bed, him in a chair next to it and she was proper making out with him. I had to stand in the doorway for a few minutes to take it all in. After a while he moved onto the bed next to her. He had a hand on one of her boobs while she sat on his lap but she grabbed his hand and moved it down between her legs so he could rub her through her tights!
“I saw that, Amelia, you fucking slut,” I said to her with a smile.
“You love it. And so does he,” she replied with cheeky smile before going back to making out with him. Well she definitely wasn’t wrong! I remember this bit vividly. It made me lightheaded and super horny watching her move another guys hand to her pussy!
They were so preoccupied Amy didn’t noticed me move behind her and undo her bra. She slipped it off and let him play with her tits a bit before straddling him on the bed. I got comfy on a chair nearby and watched as she undid his pants and played with his cock while his hands explored her entire body. She spent a bit of time licking his balls (which were really big and nice! Amy said she loved how big and full they were) and started sucking on his cock while he held her hair.
We all wanted to stay like that but we were quickly running out of time so the two of them had to tear themselves away from each other. There was enough time for us to finish our drinks and for Amelia to show us a sexy outfit she had brought up with her before we had to walk him to the station.
This one!
We left our room and they made out more in the lift. Then we walked to the station and they made out more on the platform. Once again we were both incredibly horny but we were forced to say our goodbyes and part ways. The guy said one of the guards watched him and Amy make out, then me walk away with my hand on her ass and gave us a funny look. Hahahahaha!
We still keep in contact with our friend and were very lucky to have found such a nice guy for our first time. I can’t imagine where we would be right now if the meeting had gone badly. It could have put us off the whole thing!
So, that was our very very first first time doing anything with another guy. And look where its led us! Amy and I are closer than I ever thought possible and we’re hurtling towards my ultimate fantasies coming true!
I just hope we’re able to meet our Scottish friend again so I can thank him for his kindness by letting him fuck the hell out of Amy! ;) - D