yeah where would we be without amy
Where would we be without Amy 😭😭
Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!
alternatives without harming yourself:
holding/squeezing ice.
splashing your face with water.
getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
take a hot shower or bath.
eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)
massage where you want to self-harm.
get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.
remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)
describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).
killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.
you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;
having a family.
getting married.
to watch the sun rise.
to watch the sun set.
to save someone else’s life.
finish school.
get your dream job.
to laugh.
to smile.
to go camping.
travel to new places.
to wake up every morning to the person you love.
friends.
family.
to keep that promise you made.
to accomplish a goal.
to meet your idol.
to listen to new music.
theme parks.
video games.
chocolate.
to be able to look back and say “i made it”.
what you’re going through is temporary.
in case you need to hear this:
you are loved.
you are wanted.
you are needed.
you are beautiful.
you are handsome.
you are important.
you are not alone.
you are okay.
you are strong.
you are worth it.
you are smart.
you are not a failure.
you are useful.
you are going to be okay.
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hi i'm new to fandom and i wanted to know why the word "home" is so important to louis and harry. just because of the song?
let’s start with the song.
1) the lyrics of the song are simply loud.
the song is clearly a love song.
the first verse talks about how difficult it was for him to accept himself and how he convinced himself that he liked her when he didn’t. the pre-chorus talks about how he felt lost and empty and that person felt the same. the chorus talks about how he will always be the light and will always guide that person when they feels lost and how he will make their relationship feel like home no matter the conditions. and finally the second verse talks about how he wants to see wake up every morning next to them and think about how good it feels to sleep next to them and how he saw in that person what was missing in her.
so basically the song, in my opinion, talks about how it was his process of feeling okay with his sexuality and how he found the right person in his life.
important points of the song:
describe the relationship as home and show the great importance of that word throughout the song.
doesn’t clarify the gender of that person. the only pronouns in the song are in “told myself i kinda like her but there was something missing in her eyes” this isn’t a coincidence, he emphasizes that something is missing in her but never clarifies the pronouns of that person.
says he didn’t feel alive while he was with her. “i’ve been waiting to let go of myself and feel alive”
says his role is to guide that person. “when you’re lost, i’ll find the way and i’ll be your light”
keep in mind the last two items, i’ll come back to them later.
2) louis wrote home
the writers are: louis tomlinson, liam payne, jaime scott and julian bunetta (jaime and julian participated in the writing of most of songs for 1D since the beginning).
here’s what liam had to say about the song:
“While Liam Payne said “Home” (available on the “Perfect” EP) is the most meaningful song for him but demurred about exactly why that is, he revealed Tomlinson (…) tapped into his emotional side while writing and recording.
“Having seen different things he’s gone through and different stuff this year – and obviously I’ve written a lot of songs with him – he can really get into that sensitive mindset to write songs, which is pretty cool,” said Payne.”
so not only do we know that the song is from louis’ perspective but we know that the song is extremely important to him.
3) the context of when it was written and how it was released
the song was written in april 2015, the only time louis and harry were apart from each other for more than two weeks.
the song came out at dawn on october 21, 2015. the night before (20) in belfast, one direction cancels a concert for the first and only time and that same night they released the perfect music video.
not only it was released after the mv of perfect came out (a song where the only 1D members who participated in its writing were louis and harry and the lyrics are very larry), but it was leaked by louis after canceling a concert at a critical moment for him (and harry).
also remember that louis was single when he wrote the song and single when it was released (he broke up with eleanor in march 2015 and douis started in 2016)
4) home’s connection with other songs written by louis and harry
“i’ve been waiting to let go of myself and feel alive”
the entire song of alive.
“without you, i’ll never make it out alive” – ready to run
“cause when im not with you, im weaker” – strong (same concept different words)
“just let me set you free” – why don’t we go there
“i was stumbling looking in the dark with an empty heart”
the entire song of through the dark.
“i don’t wanna get lost in the dark of the night” – ready to run
“im half a heart without you” – half a heart
“but there was something missing in her eyes” // “i saw it in your eyes”
“there’s a lightning in your eyes i can’t deny” – ready to run
“in her eyes there’s no lies” “but you’ve got stars in your eyes” “the sky fell down but you’ve got stars, they’re in your eyes” – what a feeling
“and your eyes keep saying things, they’re saying what we do” – little white lies
“looking into your eyes, baby, you were still high” – we made it
“i get so lost inside your eyes” – adore you
“for your eyes only i’ll show you my heart” – if i could fly
“who’s this man that’s holding your hand and talking about your eyes?” – stockholm syndrome
“golden as i open my eyes” – golden
“my eyes, want you more than a melody” – sunflower vol. 6
“tired eyes are the death of me” – to be so lonely
“i’ll make this feel like home”
“walked through my door but it felt nothing like home, ‘cause you’re not home” – always you
“and i know we won’t going home for so long but i know i won’t be on my own” – right now
“whenever you are, is the place i belong” – ready to run (same concept different words)
“if i could fly i’d be coming right back home to you” – if i could fly
“you’re the shining distraction that makes me fly oh, home” – fool’s gold
“i used the light to guide me home” – stockholm syndrome
“two hearts in one home” “wherever i go you bring me home” “when i run out of road you bring me home” – sweet creature
“it’s hard for me to go home be so lonely” – to be so lonely
“two weeks and i’ll be home” “im going home” – canyon moon
“so i built you a house from a broken home” – where do broken hearts go
and they also used the theme of home (kitchen, table, door, hallway, bedroom, etc) in others songs like too young, habit, sunflower vol 6, meet me in the hallway, falling, etc.
“when you’re lost, i’ll find a way, and i’ll be your light”
“my hands, your hands tied up like two ships drifting, weightless waves try to break it i’d do anything to save it” – strong
“i’d never let you fall and break your heart” – through the dark
“wanna wake up and see your face and remember how good it was being here last night”
“sweet where you lay” “waking up beside you im a loaded gun” “i don’t wanna wash away the night before” – no control
“you know i wanna be the one who holds you when you sleep” – happily
as you can see, “home” “eyes” “alive” “dark” among others are very repeated words in the songs of both.
5) the song has a connection to one of their complementary tattoos
“when you’re lost, i’ll find the way and i’ll be your light” when that person feels lost, louis will leads them.
sounds familiar?
louis and harry got the famous ship and compass tattoos on december 19, 2012.
harry got the ship tattooed on top of his “home made” tattoo and louis’ compass has “home” written where the needles points.
how curious that both were made on the same day, they are involved with the word home and louis’ tattoo literally leads to harry’s as the song says right?
special mention to louis, who wore this t-shirt when the project home started which coincidentally is what harry has tattooed under the ship.
although since the song came out the word “home” became more known in the fandom, before the song came out they were already using it. for example:
louis slept over at harry’s house and called it home.
harry tweeted twice the lyrics of the song home by edward sharpe and the magnetic zeros.
louis tweeted the lyrics of look after you by the fray (the lyrics mentions home).
louis tweeted about the song come home by one republic.
or when louis tweeted maybe tomorrow by stereophonics
among other examples.
home is a very important concept for louis and harry, for both home isn’t a place but a person who makes you feel at home wherever you are. thanks to their jobs, they go from one place to another all the time so they don’t have the feeling of connection with a place as developed as they do with people. i love this concept because it shows the immense love they have, no matter the circumstances, you are the one who makes me feel alive and exactly where i should be.
they will never feel like they’re alone, they will always make themselves feel like home.
I love fanfiction bc I really can just finish a show, go “ok but what if those two kissed,” open ao3, and boom now they’re kissing
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