I Will Act As Your Wings If You Fall And Continue To Carry You Until You Can Carry Yourself.

I don’t care how problematic someone’s opinion is. They could spew the most racist, sexist trash in the world, but that person will never be worse to me than the cancel culture mob. Why? Because having an opinion isn’t an action. It can be ignored. It can be changed as the person grows. It is reversible.

You know what isn’t reversible? Murdering someone’s reputation. Ruining a life. Making death threats. Burying someone in shame with the FULL INTENTION of NEVER allowing them to become a better person, all so you can feel righteous for having “beaten the bad guy.”

Stop ruining lives. We need to learn how to express disagreement maturely. Cancel culture isn’t some ghostly all-powerful entity; it is individuals making the choice to add their screams to the mob. If you have participated, then YOU are culpable in this crime against human decency. And I know you are better than that.

We have court systems and juries to accuse people if they have committed a crime, if they have actively broken a law. Freedom of speech means having an opinion is not a crime, no matter how distasteful we find it. Hurting someone with words isn’t right, but it still is not a crime. And we should be thankful, otherwise everyone who has added their screams of hate and outrage on social media would be in prison.

Please. Let’s relearn how to love each other. Let’s relearn how to have grace with each other, educate each other, be good examples to each other so others will WANT to follow our example. No one has EVER genuinely changed their opinion because someone was degrading them as a person, and forcing everyone to follow popular opinion out of fear of public backlash isn’t freedom. It is tyranny. And it’s just going to lead to more hate.

Thank you for your time.

“Just because you’re used to it, doesn’t mean it’s okay”

— Unknown

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

Men need to normalize having friendships with women without a sexual or romantic foundation. Some women are just really cool people to know, regardless of your attraction to them.

don’t be embarrassed that little joys take up a lot of space in your heart. sometimes they’re the most important things there are in your life, and deserve your attention

“Don’t lie to an over thinker. It never ends well. Such people have trained their brains to look for holes in a story. If shit doesn’t make sense, they think about it over and over until it makes sense. I’m that person.”

— Unknown

reminder that anger isn't a bad emotion!! in fact, no emotions are inherently bad. your anger is usually trying to protect you. it's a part of you that wants you to be treated right. of course you should always consider your actions, and you may feel angry at someone that hasn't actually done anything wrong in which case you shouldn't lash out at them, but you're still allowed to feel angry. listen to your anger, sit with it, hear it out. maybe it's not always reasonable but that's not it's job. you're allowed to be angry.

🧠 Words can inspire, thoughts can provoke, but only action truly brings you closer to your dreams. 🧠

Something doesn’t have to be important to you to be important. Just like you have things you value that other people don’t, or loved ones you care about that others have never even met, respect the fact that peoples priorities might lie elsewhere and that they find things important that you might not understand or see the point of. You become a better friend, family member, partner, roommate when you give people the space to be who they are and try to compromise whenever necessary.

“You don’t want to wake the dragon, do you?” // Don’t make me angry…

“The frightened child who sheltered in my manse died on the Dothraki sea…” // That frightened little girl died in Ann Arbor, MI; in Washington, DC; in Oxford, England.

“I must be strong. I must have fire in my eyes when I face them, not tears.” // Don’t let them see, don’t let them know how much they hurt you. Stop wasting your emotional energy on people who don’t care about you. Attorneys don’t cry, they get revenge.

“Why do the gods make kings and queens, if not to protect the ones who can’t protect themselves?” // Why did I become an attorney, if not to fight to make the world better for those who can’t?

“If I look back I am lost.” // Why I am I still waiting for apologies I know I’ll never get?

“She is the queen we chose.” // All I’ve ever wanted in my life is to be someone’s first choice. For once in my life, not to be an afterthought. To be the best friend, not just a friend. The one who’s always there, no matter what, swallowing her pride and her hurt, finally invited instead of just included. The one who’s always checking in on others, finally having someone check in on her. The one who’s always telling people she loves them, finally being told she’s loved too.