The Real Tragedy Isn’t That John And Paul Didn’t Fuck. John And Paul Were Each Other’s Security

The real tragedy isn’t that John and Paul didn’t fuck. John and Paul were each other’s security blanket soulmates for 11 years and a sexual relationship wouldn’t have saved them or solved any underlying problems they had individually. They were naughty trauma-bonded emotionally stunted immature brilliant horny little lost boys who didn’t know how to take off the animal suits and grow up without growing apart.

I think it’s *because* John took action and ripped away Paul’s security blanket after India that Paul (after acting out + a horrible nervous breakdown) was finally able to embrace adulthood at age 26, commit to Linda, and became emotionally *ready* to let John go as his security blanket. He still wanted John in the healthy adult way—as best friend and creative partner—but John said “No, I want a divorce instead.” He took their lucky break and broke it in two. Now what can be done for him? Paul emerged from his chrysalis in 1970 after months away from John to spread his wings (lol) and wished for John to get there as well.

John never got to that point because Yoko never helped him evolve, she just enabled John to remain the traumatized little boy needing her as his security blanket instead. She didn’t care about John and Paul’s friendship at all. I think John’s hurt goes far beyond Paul not having sex with him—John was SO resentful that Paul grew up and didn’t “need” him anymore, he was stuck in his ideal of Paul as his security blanket and that’s why John could NEVER let Paul go in his mind or his heart. In 1980 I think he was finally starting to realize the healthy adulthood Paul had wanted for him for the last decade and was just about to embark on his ADULT life when a crazy bastard took it all away.