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✧˖° how to stop self-sabotaging your success (and finally commit to doing the work)

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hi angel, mindy here. let’s talk. because i know you want this. you want to be that student who shows up for herself/himself. you want to stop making excuses. you want to feel proud of yourself when this is all over. so why do you keep putting up roadblocks in your own way? why do you keep pulling yourself away from the very thing you know you need to do?

self-sabotage is not laziness. it’s fear, it’s perfectionism, it’s comfort, it’s this deep, quiet resistance that whispers, what if i try and fail? so you never fully try.

but guess what? we’re breaking that cycle today. right now.

✧˖° the illusion of "i’ll do it later"

procrastination is a liar with a pretty voice. it tells you that you’ll do it when you feel more ready, when you’re in a better mood, when the circumstances are just right. but the truth? later is just a hiding place.

so next time you catch yourself saying “i’ll do it tonight” or “tomorrow is better,” stop. ask yourself: what makes later better than now? if you don’t have a solid answer, it’s just fear talking.

✧˖° you’re scared of what happens when you actually succeed

self-sabotage isn’t just about the fear of failure. sometimes, it’s the fear of what happens when you actually get what you’ve been working toward.

because success? means expectations. it means proving that you can do it again. it means stepping into a version of yourself that no longer has excuses. and that can be terrifying.

but here’s the truth: the version of you that’s waiting on the other side of this work? she’s not a stranger. she’s still you, just with more proof of what you’re capable of.

✧˖° your study habits are built around guilt, not discipline

if studying always feels like punishment, if your entire academic routine is built around the feeling of “i should be doing more,” of course you’re going to resist it.

so let’s shift this. instead of studying because you have to, start studying because you deserve to succeed. because you want to feel prepared. because the version of you who walks into that exam room with confidence? deserves to exist.

make studying feel like an investment, not a punishment. romanticize it. find ways to make it an experience you don’t want to run from. pinterest is your best friend, studytok is your motivator and me (@glowettee is your mentor 😉)

✧˖° you wait for motivation instead of creating discipline

motivation is like a guest who shows up unannounced. sometimes, she arrives when you least expect it, and sometimes, she ghosts you for weeks.

discipline, though? discipline is the friend who always shows up. she’s reliable. she doesn’t wait until she “feels like it.” she just does it, because that’s who she is.

so stop waiting for motivation to hit like some kind of magical burst of energy. instead, set up routines that make studying non-negotiable. that make it feel natural. like brushing your teeth, like making your bed, like second nature.

✧˖° self-sabotage is a pattern. patterns can be broken.

if you’ve spent years avoiding hard work, of course your brain is going to resist when you suddenly decide to commit. your instincts are wired to avoid discomfort.

but the good news? self-sabotage is a learned habit. which means you can unlearn it. every time you choose to sit down and do the work, even when you don’t want to, you are rewriting your patterns. you are proving to yourself that you are not the same person who gives up.

and eventually? showing up for yourself won’t feel like a battle anymore. it will feel normal. it will feel like who you are.

✧˖° this is the moment you choose differently

look, you can close this post and keep doing what you’ve always done. you can keep waiting for some magical day when it all feels easy. or you can make a decision, right here, right now.

you can decide that you are done getting in your own way. that you are done letting fear win. that you are done delaying your own success.

because the version of you who is already succeeding? she is not far away. she is right there, waiting for you to step into her shoes.

it’s time, angel. show up.

love you all sooo much <3 i hope this post can help you understand; self-discipline > motivation

with love, mindy

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What would you say were the most important aspects to snag a good husband for yourself?

things in my control

I take good care of my looks and always make myself look nice on a daily basis. even if I'm just chilling at home, I'll do my skincare routine, brush my hair, and wear something that doesn't look sloppy

I stay in shape and keep my body nice. I'm a young lady in my twenties and looks matter. you have more options when you look good

I knew I wanted to get married so I was looking for a husband instead of any other dating arrangement. eyes on the prize, choose wisely

I carried myself in a way that said "I am a wife" and acted accordingly. the energy you put out there on the dating scene matters. I know what kind of marriage I want so I worked on becoming that wife early. it was just a matter of finding the husband that matches. stay ready so you don't have to get ready.

I know what I want, I know what the kind of men I like want, and I know how to win

I'm good at reading people and making judgements on those around me. I don't get involved in any capacity with men who are not viable options from the get go

things out of my control

location. NY/MA is ripe with options as far as well to do men are concerned. yes, living here was a choice but I'm sure it was easier for me to get someone like my husband here rather than if I lived in the middle of randomville USA. that doesn't mean it's impossible, there's just less options. but fret not. every city has rich areas. nice big houses in nice neighborhoods where the white collar men work. they need wives too!

things kinda sorta in my control

I take care of my looks, but my baseline is what it is. I am naturally pretty so even on my worst days, I'm not doing too bad

99% of my friends are married or on their way there which kept me in a circle of people where love flows and advice is worth taking. it's nice to have examples of what does and doesn't work right in front of you

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