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hey i was wondering something and i wanted to know your opinion on it

Why is it problematic to say i hate men but not white people or straight people

(i'm a trans south east asian man btw)

I'd say on, like, a casual exasperated level, its not problematic to say "I hate [x]." It gets problematic when your venting about a group becomes your sole lens of viewing + interacting with that group.

Like, its entirely alright to be frustrated with behaviors common to cishet white men and express that in a vent by saying you hate them. But... its like how people make the correct point that they shouldn't be expected or obligated to give all their energy to coddling people with power over them, but translate that into "i never have to care about a member of this group at all" which directly conflicts with just. being in a community? Like women should not be expected to be caretakers for men, but people in a community need to take care of each other. When the only way you engage with a group of people is by expressing hatred and asserting how much you aren't obligated to care about them, its easier than people think to find yourself dehumanizing them.

Which does not mean "you are just as bad as a racist/misogynist" or "you are oppressing them"; you are An Individual whose biases are not necessarily backed up by powerful systemic powers. But, for one, its very easy for those biases to be used by systemic forces: with men, misandry is very easily used to justify all kinds of violence towards marginalized men & people perceived as men. You also have situations where people will say the Holocaust "wasn't as bad" as, say, US slavery, because it was "white on white violence," or saying the Armenian genocide also wasn't that big of a deal because "it was done to Christians and Christians are always killing people" (two real things I have seen been said). And, again: if you are going to care about community and restorative/transformative justice and all that, you need to be able to give a shit about all kinds of people who you live with. You need to be able to see them as whole beings you are capable of connecting with on some level. You don't personally need to date or befriend men, but you do need to be able to give a shit about men in your community.

Its fine to feel annoyance and anger and use "hatred" to express that. But the problem occurs when people take "its okay to be angry with your oppressors and not spend all your energy coddling them" and make that the end-all be-all of their relationship with people of whatever group; revolutions can't accomplish compassionate goals when they are run on hatred. Very hooksian concept but "love" (as in "a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust", not in a strictly emotional sense but as an action) is a skill that is as vital as understanding class dynamics and protest tactics. Maybe you don't need to love everyone, but try to have the capacity to love anyone; the ability to physically care for someone you don't emotionally like is, I think, a vital step towards truly challenging and bringing down the kyriarchy.

Basically its about recognizing when your venting stops being an outlet and starts being a way for unproductive feelings to shape how you view other people.

ALL OF YOU TAUGHT IT TO ME, SO I KNOW IT MUST BE TRUE!

absolutely stole this idea here is the original comic by silkentine!!

“no one will notice if you stop posting/talking/texting/etc” is the mind killer. it is the evil. it is the little childhood version of myself who feels so insignificant and unwanted but she IS wanted. I am wanted and loved and noticed even if I can’t see it right now

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Johnny DEMANDS that I let him talk about lemon sharks but this would be too long of a post so uh?? Be on the lookout for a huge textpost about lemon sharks I guess lol

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did you know in season 5 of gotham ed spends so much time searching for oswald due to a false memory that lead him to believe oswald did something to damage his brain but when he finds him and confronts him oswald tells him that he would never do something like that and that if they are ever at odds again he will know he is his enemy which is so much more than oswald could say for anyone else as he is like so constantly backstabbing lying and betraying people but for ed he swears to be honest and he pushes the barrel of ed’s gun right to his heart and ed realizes that when he though oswald said “i’m going to fix you, ed” he was saying it with LOVE and ed looks at him and swears to him that if that day comes he will stare him in the eye as he stabs him in the heart and oswald SMILES which is so insane and also he named his DOG EDWARD and then they spend the rest of the technically-apocalypse planning to build a submarine and run away together but when oswald decides to stay back and fight for gotham ed begs him to stay and says “following your heart has never worked out for you” TALKING ABOUT HIS OWN FUCKING SELF and oswald looks at him and tells him he should spend more time listening to THIS (poking his heart) instead of THIS (pointing to his head) and then do you know what ed fucking does he SHOWS UP AT THE LAST MINUTE TO COME AND FIGHT WITH OSWALD and it is FOR OSWALD because oswald gives a big speech about gotham being his home and ed is like yeah me too what he said whatever and during the battle someone throws a grenade at them and oswald screams “eddie” and without a second thought covers ed to protect him and LOSES AN EYE and afterwards ed is apologizing profusely for not doing anything (“i saw the grenade and i froze”) which he has never done to oswald or anyone really oswald cuts him off and just says “it was the least i could do” which is insane and when he asks ed if its bad and shows it to him ed says no but he gags and it cant be because he was grossed out because he was literally a forensic guy and a serial killer its because he cant see oswald hurt like that and after everything after the battle theyre fuming in a little room about how “that BITCH stole our submarine” and all their treasures and ed says he felt NOTHING for the people of gotham as he was fighting WHICH FUCKING CONFIRMS that he came back for OSWALD and oswald alone he doesn’t care about gotham but he wouldn’t leave oswald and he has some big speech about never taking the knee to anyone in gotham again and oswald says theyd be stronger together and ed is like perhaps and oswalds like oh this bitch is playing games and ed’s like let’s shake on it and oswalds like are you fucking kidding me we’re HUGGING you idiot but he takes a knife out of his boot surreptitiously and ed takes a knife out of his pocket surreptitiously and they hug and they hold the knives to eachothers backs but oswald tears up and he doesn’t do it of course he doesn’t he couldn’t kill him and assumes ed will stab him but he doesnt either he SMILES and when oswald moves to pull away ED HOLDS HIM TIGHTER AND DOESNT LET HIM because theyre in fucking LOVE. hello

do you understand. do you understand.

regarding the genocide song contest:

various past eurovision contestants are campaigning for the removal of israel and some national finalists are now choosing to boycott. olly alexander, who will rep the uk, condemned the palestinian genocide and was subsequently attacked by israeli media (in a blatant rule violation the ebu did nothing about)

slovenian broadcaster rtvslo is purportedly trying to negotiate the removal of israel

1000 artists from host country sweden are preparing to send an open letter to the ebu to ban israel; the swedish left wing has also called for israel to be removed immediately

iceland is officially threatening to boycott eurovision pending the removal of israel

word on the street is that if iceland does compete, it will send palestinian artist bashar murad who is openly anti-israel and has collabed with previous icelandic reps hatari, aka the guys who did this back in 2019

iceland is now leading in the odds whereas israel has been steadily dropping, suggesting that the bookies are aware israel is becoming increasingly unpopular

lastly, in a move so ridiculous i'm beginning to suspect eurovision is a figment of our collective imagination, israel is seemingly gearing up to enter eden golan, a moscow-based russian singer. while russia is still banned for terrorism.

if you're european: please contact your participating broadcaster and demand for the removal of israel, or try to contact your nation's selected artist to put pressure on the broadcaster. if you're swedish, please try contacting svt or authorities with security concerns regarding the inclusion of israel. if israel does enter eden golan, complain about her selection and ties to russia. and absolutely DO NOT vote on, watch or promote this show if israel does end up competing.

sufins 4rever.... you can imagine what fin might be talking about ...

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