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*struts about flaunting my infant*

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reblog if you’re asexual, support asexual people or really really want a crossbow for literally no reason.

hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak

Something people don’t understand about child abuse

One of the things that I really hate is that people don’t understand that survivors act differently and respond to their traumas in different ways.

I’m a survivor of csa and so is my friend. Her trauma made her extremely hypersexual while I could literally cry if someone even touched me.

My bf is a survivor of csa, I can talk for hours about my trauma if I felt safe enough while he NEVER brings it up.

A friend of mine is a survivor of emotional abuse and so am I. Her trauma made her angry while mine made me soft and defenseless.

My bf remembers every little detail about his trauma, while I repressed most of my childhood and traumas.

There’s no special “criteria” that you should fill in order to be a “valid” survivor, and there’s no specific way you should act if you were abused.

People respond to their traumas differently and it’s okay, your abuse is STILL valid no matter how you respond to it.

Reblog if

It’s 104% okay to come to your DM and just say, “Hi, can we be friends?” And then start asking you random questions.

Am I the only one that noticed that in S2 of TUA Five literally asks Luther for help and is actually talking emotionally to him? Not once, but twice in another episode. Five doesn’t seem like the type to talk to people emotionally or ask for help, but he did and Luther.shuts.him.down. I was proud of Five for actually asking for help and Luther pulls that shit? I knew Luther was low key kinda stupid but tf was with that? Our expectations for you were low but holy fuck.

I lub them all because they’re great :’) also they also agree about mouth rocks so :3

every now and then all the remus alters front in our sanders sides discord server and it’s just absolute chaos

Human!Bill Cypher but Jordan ur not wrong human bill does give off Janus vibes

:)))))) mouth rocks for all

out of context from the sanders sides server

FANDERS, WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T SIGN THIS PETITION.

No, not even as a joke. Don’t share it with your friends as a joke either, or make a meme out of it, or anything. I don’t know what the motivation was behind creating this petition – I guess it very well could have been a younger well-meaning Fander who genuinely doesn’t understand how elections work – but regardless of what the intentions were, this is so so so awful and could have so many terrible consequences if it starts gaining traction.

Listen, we all understood why Kanye’s “presidential bid” was harmful, right? This is basically the same thing: right now, every third-party vote is a vote for Tr*mp and, no offense to my American friends, but your country cannot afford to vote Tr*mp back in. The upcoming election needs to be taken seriously now more than ever. 

The fact that this petition is being directed at the Thomas Sanders fandom is extra unsavory. It’s common knowledge that a huge chunk of this fandom is made up of younger people, and as much as I love, cherish, and respect our younger population – heck, I’m a minor myself – the fact is that we’re much more easily influenced, eager to give people the benefit of the doubt, and unfortunately, way too many of us may not know any better.

“But Spec!” I hear you cry. “If this petition is mainly being spread by the younger side of the fandom that doesn’t know any better, what harm could it do? They can’t vote anyway!”

The thing is, if you follow multiple Sanders Sides blogs, you’ll know from all the times you’ve seen the same post on your dash ten times in a row that we spread stuff like wildfire. If enough people aren’t aware of the harmful consequences and start spreading this petition around, then regardless of whether they’re seriously asking for signatures or just spreading it as a joke, one viral post would be all it takes for the mainstream internet to take notice. I cannot stress enough how disastrous that would be. 

The second that this petition catches the attention of the wider public, the US will be at risk of having a repeat version of Kanye’s presidential bid: people with a vote, a terrible sense of humour and no understanding of the consequences may write in Thomas Sanders as a joke, thus effectively wasting a vote that could be used to take Tr*mp out of office.

Oh, and if for whatever reason you’re a Fander that “doesn’t care about politics”, then first of all check your privilege at the very least you could care about Thomas?? He is a real person that could suffer very real harm not only to his brand/reputation, but also his personal safety if this petition thing gets out of hand. A similar thing happened to the author of the Diary of a Wimpy Kid series when a petition to change the US flag to the face of his fictional character began to gain traction. He was unaffiliated with the petition, but still received honest-to-goodness death threats. We cannot let this happen again.

Sorry if this post makes me sound angry, but it’s because I am. This is absolutely ridiculous. Please signal boost.

I can’t believe you posted this sgsgdjdkfjv. I love you platonically Jordan ❤️

I’m ‘the brain cell TM’ lolololol

Also @thatsthat24

f UCk i need this

Why must alloros always talk about love isn’t there anything else going on in their lives please find new conversation topics than your current romantic relationship or lack thereof

that "OKAY SO" before someone u love starts infodumping........ most blessed feeling in the world

Don’t worry Bro , Black Tumblr got you and your Sister.✊🏿

Can we find her a donor please ✊🏿🙏🏿

Just because it could be worse doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid. You feel how you feel.

And that’s okay.

so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering

ah, perry the platypus! i see you fell into my trap… the strangling arms of cissexism! you may be wondering what the purpose of this machine i have pointed at the sky is. you see perry the platypus, when i was born in gimmelshtump the doctor assigned me a gender… and my family went with it! and so did i, perry the platypus! i am a cisgender male! but i decided to use my privilege as a cis man for good and came up with this new invention. behold, perry the platypus, the degenderinator! thanks to this wonder of science, no one in the tri-state area will have an assigned gender anymore, allowing trans people to live as their true gender! trans rights, perry the platypus! trans rights!!!

Moment of silence for all the kids with overly strict parents

no I don’t take criticism

Gotta Be LGBT+

This is a list of just some of the LGBT+ content out there. Anything on this list was contains LGBT+ characters or was made by LGBT+ creators. All entries on this list were sent in by followers and have not been confirmed by the mod. (Entries with ‘rep not given’ next to them mean that the suggestion did not include what kind of representation is in the content)

Books/Comics

They Both Die At The End - Adam Silvera (mlm)

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe - Benjamin Alire-Saénz (mlm)

Symptoms of Being Human (genderfluid)

Lily and Dunkin - Donna Gephart (trans/trans woman)

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo - Taylor Jenkins Reid (wlw/bi)

The Gentleman’s Guide To Vice and Virtue - Mackenzie Lee (mlm/gay/bi)

Been Here All Along - Sandy Hall (gay/bi)

History Is All You Left Me - Adam Silvera (mlm/gay)

Blue Is The Warmest Color - Julie Maroh (wlw/bi/lesbian)

Mask of Shadows - Linsey Miller (bi/genderfluid)

Once and Future - Cori McCarthy (wlw/mlm/gay/bi/nonbinary)

Simon vs the Homosapiens Agenda - Beck Albertalli (mlm/gay)

Leah on the Offbeat - Becky Albertalli (wlw/bi)

Grasshopper Jungle - Andrew Smith (questioning/mlm)

The Rest of Us Just Live Here - Patrick Ness (mlm/gay)

Flying Tips For Flightless Birds - Kelly McCaughrain (mlm/gay)

I’ll Give You The Sun - Jandy Nelson (mlm)

Point Pleasant - Jen Archer Wood (mlm) 

True Lives of the Fabulous Killjoys - Gerard Way (mlm/wlw)

The Wayfarers Series - Becky Chambers (wlw/aro/trans man/nonbinary/genderfluid)

Vesuvius Club - Mark Gatiss (bi)

The Song of Achilles - Madeline Miller (mlm)

Radio Silence - Alice Oseman (bi/mlm/demi/gay/pan/wlw/lesbian)

Of Fire and Stars - Audrey Coulthurst (wlw/lesbian)

Magnus Chase Series - Rick Riordan (genderfluid)

Heroes of Olympus - Rick Riordan (gay)

This Is Kind of An Epic Love Story - Kheyrn Callender (mlm/wlw)

Gracefully Grayson - Ami Polonsky (trans woman)

If I Was Your Girl - Meredith Russon (trans woman)

Call Me By Your Name - Andre Aciman (mlm)

Red, White, and Royal Blue - Casey McQuinston (mlm)

I Wish You All The Best - Mason Deaver (nonbinary)

Dreadnaught + Sovereign - April Daniels (wlw/trans woman)

The Art of Being Normal - Lisa Williamson (trans)

The Gone Series - Michael Grant (mlm/wlw)

One Of Us Is Lying - Karen McManus (mlm)

Six Of Crows - Leigh Bardugo (mlm)

Crooked Kingdom - Leigh Bardugo (rep not given)

The Last Sun - Author Not Provided (rep not given)

Romeo and/or Juliet - Ryan North (rep not given)

American Gods - Neil Gaiman (mlm/gay/bi) 

The Mage Wars Series - Mercedes Lackey (gay)

Scott Pilgrim vs The World - Bryan Lee O’Malley (mlm/gay/wlw)

Boyfriends With Girlfriends - Alex Sánchez (mlm/wlw/bi/gay)

Will Grayson, Will Grayson - David Levithan & John Green (mlm)

This Is Where It Ends -Marieke Nijkamp (lesbian/wlw)

Carry On - Rainbow Rowell (mlm)

Stranger Than Fanfiction - Author Not Provided (mlm/trans man/gay)

The Reader Trilogy (The Reader, The Speaker, The Storyteller) - Traci Chee (mlm/wlw/nonbinary)

Podcasts

Welcome to Night Vale (mlm/gay/wlw/nonbinary)

Dreamboy (mlm/gay)

Alice Isn’t Dead (wlw/lesbian)

The Penumbra Podcast (mlm/bi/genderfluid/nonbinary)

My Favorite Podcast (trans men)

Within the Wires (wlw)

The Adventure Zone (mlm/wlw/trans/gnc/nonbinary)

Limetown (wlw/lesbian)

Getting Curious With Jonathan Van Ness (nblm/nonbinary)

Friends at the Table (mlm/wlw/nonbinary)

LezHangOut (wlw)

Bright Sessions (mlm/demi/ace)

Queer As Fact (historical lgbt)

History Is Gay (historical lgbt)

Always Here (historical lgbt)

And That’s Why We Drink (nonbinary)

Magnus Archives (mlm/ace)

Two Princes (mlm/gay/bi)

Girl-ish (trans women)

TV Shows/Movies/ETC

One Day At A Time (Remake) (wlw/lesbian/nonbinary)

Love, Simon (mlm/gay)

A Single Man (mlm/gay)

Brokeback Mountain (mlm/gay)

In The Flesh (mlm/gay)

Weekend (mlm)

RWBY (wlw)

Jessica Jones (wlw/lesbian)

Critical Role (mlm/gay/bi/wlw/lesbian/nonbinary/genderfluid)

Pose (trans women/gay)

Schitt’s Creek (pan)

White Collar (wlw)

Lucifer (bi)

Umbrella Academy (mlm)

Call Me By Your Name (mlm)

Brooklynn 9-9 (mlm/gay/bi)

Steven Universe (nonbinary)

Sailor Moon (wlw)

Buffy the Vampire Slayer (wlw)

Sense8 (mlm/gay/wlw/lesbian/trans woman)

Doom Patrol (?/rep not given)

Good Omens (nonbinary)

Gentleman Jack (wlw)

American Gods (mlm/gay/bi/two-spirit)

Orange Is The New Black (wlw/trans)

Blue Is The Warmest Color (wlw)

Shameless (mlm/trans)

Euphoria (wlw/trans woman)

Modern Family (mlm/gay)

Daisy Brown ARG (wlw/lesbian)

Deadpool (pan)

Deadpool 2 (pan/wlw)

Alex Strangelove (mlm/gay)

Musicals

The Prom (wlw/lesbian)

Be More Chill (mlm/bi)

Fun Home (wlw)

Spring Awakening (mlm)

A New Brain (mlm)

Falsettos (mlm/wlw)

Rent (mlm/wlw)

Firebringer (wlw/bi)

A Very Potter Musical (mlm/gay)

The Guy Who Didn’t Like Musicals (wlw)

Bare: A Pop Opera (mlm)

Everybody’s Talking About Jaime (mlm/gay)

Yank! The Musical (mlm)

Octet (wlw)

Ghost Quartet (wlw)

Spies Are Forever (mlm/gay)

Video Games

Fallout: New Vegas (mlm/gay/wlw/lesbian)

When The Night Comes (mlm/nonbinary)

The Arcana (nonbinary)

Dream Daddy (mlm/gay/bi/pan/trans)

Dragon Age (mlm/wlw/gay/lesbian/trans)

Smile For Me (wlw)

Undertale (trans/nonbinary/wlw/mlm)

Monster Prom (nonbinary)

Cookie Run (nonbinary/mlm/wlw/bi/pan)

The Missing (wlw/trans woman)

Fable 2 & 3 (wlw/mlm)

Borderlands 2 (mlm/wlw/bi/gay/lesbian)

Gone Home (wlw)

Prey (rep not given)

Dishonored 2 (rep not given)

Deus Ex Mankind Divided System Rift (rep not given)

Assassins Creed Series (mlm/wlw/gay/lesbian/trans)

The Last of Us (wlw/lesbian) 

Mass Effect Series (mlm/wlw/gay/lesbian)

Life Is Strange (wlw)

Overwatch (mlm/gay/wlw/lesbian)

Animal Crossing (pan)

Night In The Woods (pan/mlm/trans woman)

The Elder Scrolls (trans/wlw/lesbian)

Obviously this list is far from complete so feel free to add to it or let me know of anything else and I’ll edit the post to add it as long as you include the category it belongs to! Be sure to include what representation it has though otherwise I can’t add it!

wh……….

reblog to let him know that you love him

Meirl

trying to prove a point to the boys at school

reblog this if you believe trans men are real men like this if you dont

the way that straight men talk about their attraction to women’s bodies is so dull and colourless compared to the ways I’ve seen queer women talk about women’s bodies

like we out here talking bout

razor sharp jawlines like the kind you could fuckin cut yourself on hoo baby

those biceps like gimme that dumb jock energy, that “I can carry you from the doorway to the bed in one go easy” energy christ

muscular bACKS HOLY SHIT OOOO LORDY LORD

hands. just have you ever heard a gay woman talk about hands? like fuckin hell I’ve seen people go nuts over Katie McGrath’s wrists that’s the level we’re at here

hair!!!! long, short, loose, styled!!!!! that specific moment when someone goes to tie their hair back into like a messy bun or a half pony and they hold the elastic band in their mouth and pull their hair back in their hands THATS A WLW KINK RIGHT THERE

eeeeeeeyes. The first three girls I got with all had gorgeous eyes and all commented on my eyes like this is a whole thing it’s our sneaky way of forcing eye contact is to just be like “woah your eyes are gorgeous what colour even are they” and BOOM we have contact this is a-happening

abs sjsjdbfhekakdufurbnsnadjfifnns

I once saw a girl with a six pack and couldn’t form a sentence for the next minute

etc etc (don’t even get me started on forearms aaaaa)

whereas whenever I talk to straight dudes about women they like it’s always like hahahahaha her tits are banging amirite and I’m like

guys

liberate yourselves

let yourselves talk about a gal’s popping collarbone once in a while like Christ there are so many gorgeous things to focus on in women get creative go fuckin nuts women are absolutely incredible angels I am so gay

Revolutionary parenting hack:

If your child is in the middle of some activity and clearly enjoying it (and wasn't supposed to be doing something else instead), DO NOT interrupt them and have them do chores that will "only take 5 minutes or so!"

You haven't asked them to do anything before they got out the Legos, started reading a chapter of their book or painting the complicated picture, or began playing their video game.

As a result of being repeatedly interrupted, they will learn that their presence in public space of the household=availability to do chores, so they will make themselves scarce so you can't find them and order them around. They will also become suspicious of your efforts to engage with them as they play, as they've learned that these pleasantries are a prelude to "Take out the trash", or "move your boots and vacuum the entryway, there's dirt everywhere ".

"But I need my children to help me around the house!", I hear you cry. I understand. Children should not be treated like royalty and left to their own devices 24/7.

An alternative is to give the kids a clearly delineated chore chart and stick to it, resisting the urge to add anything to it. There are some chores that are easier and quicker with two people, though. A (in my opinion) even better option is to divide the child's day into "on-duty" and "off-duty " time. When they're on-duty, you can interrupt them as before, but you have *consulted with your child beforehand * and they understand that during this time they can relax, but they must be ready to jump in and lend a hand.

That way they won't start trying to level up in their video game or break out the clay and make stuff. When they are off-duty, you leave them alone and their only responsibilities are to clean up whatever mess they make at the end of this time.

Also, if they are tearing around the house or whining about being bored, don't make them do chores so they will "have something to do"; this could make the child conflate extra chores with punishment for whining and make them reluctant to help out when you randomly tell them to at other times because they might think they're being punished but they have NO IDEA WHAT THEY DID. And IMO children should see chores as things everyone has to do no matter what, not punishments.

I may seem unqualified to offer parenting advice as I have no kids, but I was talking with my dad today and he said: "I wish you didn't hide from us in your room so much, but every time your mom walked by she'd give you a chore to do, so I can't blame you for that." A kid who hides in their room to play has an entirely different relationship to the family than the child who sprawls on the livingroom floor and excitedly describes the city they are building out of Legos.

And today, in times of Covid I play a complicated game of hide-and-seek with my mother as I try to do my online coding homework and apply for jobs. I am now attempting to turn my bedroom into my own tiny office because if I work in our home office, she'll find me and go "I can't attach this file to my email," and so on.

Children *have* to obey their parents when they are young. But true respect and honoring collective responsibilities is stronger than forced obedience. If you demonstrate to your children that you respect them and their time, they will reciprocate.

yeah libraries are cool but have you ever found a library with a secret doorway disguised as a bookshelf that leads to a smaller, hidden library filled with ancient books full of mysteries and forgotten knowledge? me neither and i'm sad about it