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Who Knew “Just Watching” Could Be So Much Fun?

To Those Men Who Want To Watch Or Enjoy Watching Their Wife With Someone Else:

Until recently it’s been the prevailing opinion that the desire to want your wife to be fucked by someone else makes you a weak man…a pathetic & effeminate loser who lets his wife do whatever she wants to him.

But we know now that’s not true, is it?

Thanks to pioneers like @stagnationhw , @hotwivesandgames, @allaboutthehotwifelife, @oursexyexploration, and many others—we know now that there exists throngs of other men who have the desire of wanting to share their wives, sans any humiliation*. These other men are strong, independent, masculine, & secure. 

*no judgment or shade towards men who do like humiliation

We know for them that it’s not about letting your wife walk all over you because she can and because you’re too “weak” to control her, no…

Rather it’s about giving your assent, your consent, your “permission”, your encouragement and support to her so she can embrace her inner naughty side… the “darker” or “sluttier” shades of her sexuality, so to speak.

It’s about being secure enough in yourself and who you are, in your relationship with your wife and with what the two of you share so that you can identify and embrace and explore this desire you have.

For you, it’s not about weakness. It’s about strength.

It’s not about getting walked on; it’s about not being afraid to walk on the path less trodden.

It’s not about a lack of choice; it’s about a willing decision.

You’re a Stag, a Stag Cuckold, a Hotwife Husband. You are what you choose to call yourself. 

But what’s more is that you’re more of a man than those who criticize and judge your desires and choices because of their own fears and insecurities.

I say fuck closemindedness, and fuck the outdated Puritanical constraints society tries to impose upon you and shackle down your desires.

I say embrace them, because that’s what being strong is all about!

A great advice

Thank you!

We have been married 18 yrs, and we have fantasized about hotwifing for about 8 yrs. Our sex life is great, and we always act out the hotwife idea everytime we have sex by dp and dirty talk. We have discussed about doing it for real several times, but she is too worried about something going wrong like std, moral values, etc. I have gotten very serious about wanting to do this but she wont plan it, although she is showing signs that she really wants to. I have thought of just making it happen.

No no no…. The basis of cuckolding is absolute openness and honesty. It’s not something you can start with deception and hope it ends well. If you want it and she wants it but she can’t pull the trigger then she’s just not ready. If you try to manufacture it without her knowing you open the relationship to resentment and guilt. Even if you could make it happen what happens if it doesn’t go well or she regrets it and blames you? These are things that need to be talked about before hand. You have to be on the same page about everything. That being said there are ways to coax it along. Playing the “would ya” game. “Out of all the people we know who would you fuck if you had the chance?” That kind of thing. Get her talking about it in a real life sense.

Also play the bar game where you go and watch her from afar while she flirts. She doesn’t have to fuck anyone. You could come over and “win” her away from the guy and then go fuck like bunnies. It’s a gradual thing. A frog in a gradually heating pot. Baby steps. But she has to be in agreement as to what the rules are.

But at the end of the day if she can’t do it then she can’t do it. At least you have a sexual wife that you love who is willing to fantasize with you about your deepest desires. There are tons of men who would give their left nut to have what you have.

Play the game but never be deceptive.

www.sensualhotwife.tumblr.com

Great text, an interesting evolution of terms allowing to disambiguate "cuckold" and "stag".

WHAT IS A STAG The term Stag differs from the term cuckold. According to Sage Vivant, author of the book ‘Your Erotic Personality’, Stag are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not really fit the historical term cuckold. Many such men dislike the term cuckold because society has denigrated its meaning, making it a shameful thing. This has not only been misunderstood but also rather disrespected throughout history. They were seen as weak men that in a bizarre tradition from Europe were seen to wear antlers as symbols of this supposed weakness. Thankfully in modern times we are a little more enlightened and in recent years the meaning of the word has morphed into something more empowering for both genders. The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ in reference to the partners of such men is now well established in sexual subcultures. Some men are cuckolds proper in that they seek humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own fetish, however, by far more men identify with the term ‘Stag’ . They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. For the stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated. He will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers. He is a strong type that simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend being so alluring that nobody could resist her and considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. He holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle. For this reason the proper term for the partner of most hotwives is a STAG rather than cuckold. This behavior ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing. It is just one part of a relationship and many couples only dabble occasionally. Some couples discover ‘Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon. The reasons for 'Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species but factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptive/safer sex technologies, ease of online communication and information combined with other factors have brought it out of the shadows to the edge of the mainstream. Welcome to Stag and Hotwife Games, here we attempt to use images and captions to catch the eroticism and fun of couples that have delved into this world to reclaim the cuckold horns for the proud 'STAG’

Nice advice; thank U

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

Interesting note

How come u guys don't get jealous? When I truly love and value someone I don't want to share them. And it'd offend me if my lover didn't love me enough to feel the same way.

Unfortunately that’s a hard question to answer. If you’re not a swinger it’s hard to explain how it feels. We were the same. People would tell us that it brought you closer together and made you love each other more. That was incomprehensible to us how watching someone else with your partner could possibly be a good thing. But we eventually found ourselves in that situation and they were right! Our bond got stronger! Our sex was better! It was a turn on watching each other give and receive pleasure! It’s progressed to a stage now that we swap partners and sleep with them in separate rooms for the night. Then we swap stories the next day and have amazing sex!

How to transform her into a hot wife.

Practice Tip #1

Get her to sign up for a Tinder account.

Going from average girlfriend or wife to hotwife requires a certain change in mindset. You have to get her to see her sexuality as something good, powerful and fun. It is often disastrous to bluntly ask a girlfriend or wife to cuck you because that could be jarring and confusing. Instead approach the lifestyle obliquely. Build her self confidence. Tinder offers a great opportunity and platform to make flirting fun and easy. Tell her you want to have some fun on Tinder by creating an “alternate ego” for her on Tinder. Buy her some sexy outfits and spend a Saturday at some interesting places taking photos for her profile. Once the account is set up the two of you can spend time scrolling through guys she finds attractive (just for fun) of course. This activity alone will stimulate your cuck clit and lead to hours of stroking

It won’t be long before she and other guys start matching and “chatting”. Take it slow. Make it a game. Use these results in your sex and masturbation fantasies together. When this stage loses its titillation she’ll be ready to take another step like meet one of the guys for a date. You can watch these dates from across the bar. After each date, meet her at home and pound her wet pussy as she tells you about her date.

As her confidence builds and she is secure that these fantasies are strengthening your love and sex life , she’ll be ready to take one of these dates home and suck his cock while you watch surreptitiously. Soon she’ll be wearing anklets and riding random hot cocks for you whenever you want her to (Practice tip #2 coming soon)😘

Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

Great post.

If you may ever ask if there is an undelying reason for hotwifing.

Why do I find slutty women so attractive?

This was from an email that was submitted here.

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I was wondering if you met anyone like me. I am in my 20′s and single and only attracted to hotwives or promiscusous “bad girls.” I have no intention of settling down but I definitely don’t want a monogamous girl when I do. 

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Dear anon,

Have I met other guys who only like promiscuous women? 

Yes.

It’s actually pretty common. I’ll post my sources below.

Males will often produce more testosterone when competing for a non-monogamous female than they would with traditionally monogamous females.

In fact, non-monogamous women are often more desired due to the pheromones they emit. The “slut pheromone” phenomena is not a myth.

Semen produces chemicals that will hunt out and kill other semen. 

And since semen can stay alive for up to 10 days, there is a good chance that semen from multiple males are all battling inside one female.

Just knowing your seed is in a death battle with other males is enough to trigger this chemical release in your body.

Conclusion. Wanting to compete for promiscuous women is normal. It actually boosts your testosterone levels significantly and evolved to produce the best offspring possible. 

You’ll never see animals “slut shaming” 

They are either fighting for that ass, or actually getting it.

Sources

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sperm_competition

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022519310000317

https://www.zmescience.com/medicine/genetic/promiscuous-female-mice-sexy-offspring-432432/

http://journals.plos.org/plosgenetics/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgen.0010035

Genial aportación; mil gracias.

El antro

Soy una mujer casada y con dos hijos Mi marido Es un hombre muy trabajador y tiene su propria empresa donde en el trabajo el Es muy profesional y creo que eso le stressa. En la Casa Es muy buen padre y le encanta sexo. Nuestra vida sexual Es buena pero tenemos limitaciones pues con niños no Es fácil. Tengo un buen cuerpo y me gusta sentirme bien con la ropa que pongo, mi esposo siempre que vamos a salir, me pide que me vista con ropas apretadas o bien cortas. Siempre me pidio que vistiera sexy para salir y habla que mi culo y piernas hace parar a la pinga cualquiera. Hace meses dejamos los ninos con una ninera y fuimos a tomar unas copas y me puse bien caliente por el clima y el tambien donde me dijo que tenias muchas fantasias comigo que una de ellas era que alguien nos mirara haciendo el amor. no soy muy fantasiosa pero eso me excito, tampoco siento la confianza de hablar de eso pues era algo nuevo entre nosotros otro día cuando que hacíamos el amor el me dijo cosas en el oido que al inicio me molestaba, el me decía que quisiera metérmela en cuatro mientras mamo la verga a otro. me pareció raro en ese momento pero con el tiempo hable con varias otras mujeres y percibí que eso era bien normal claro nunca he comentado a ellas sobre mi marido y sus fantasias pero he escuchado que a ellas sus maridos son asi y que les encanta, desafortunada aquellas que tienen maridos celosos a punto de no dejarte vestir sexy. Un dia fuimos en una disco y me vesti como mi marido me pide solamente por complacerlo, me puse un vestido bien corto, tacones y un maquillage bien lindo que cuando me vio no lo creia. Al llegar en la disco percebi la mirada de varios hombres y me digo que eso le excito, Mi marido y yo tomabamos drinks yo le calientaba la verga al ritmo de la musica, bailando bien sexy. Habia mas parejas bailando como nosotros, yo le dije que me gustaba la disco y allí habia personas bonitas, al pasar del tiempo nos emborrachamos y mi marido me dice en el oído y te reto a quedarte sola bailando por un tiempo mientras yo voy al baño y a comprar unas bebidas, y me confesó que le encantaria verme provocar la erecion de un desconocido en la disco con mis nalgas y yo le dije que no jugaras con fuego pues estoy bien caliente. El volvio a insistir que eso lo excitaría mucho. Me dejo solo y yo me quede bailando sola como soltera en la disco y 15 minutos se pasaron y nada de mi marido , cuando miro estaba el tomando su drink mirandome sola y me hace una senal con una sonrisa picosa como que preguntándome donde esta el show? Entonces decidi seguir el juego y 5 minutes despues percibo un hombre bien parecido bailando como que acercando a mi y me empezaron a sudar las manos y pensé que hago? Mi adrenalina subio al cielo pero bailando lo deje acercar y pase la nalga sobre su verga gruesa y bien parada y mire a mi esposo que me miraba atónico donde me dejo bailando con el desconocido y debo decir que realmente eso fue super rico y yo estaba asustada por no saber la reaccion de mi marido pero a la vez super mojada por la situacion. Luego deje el hombre ahí, le agradecí al amigo al final de la canción, el me detuvo y me dijo soy Roberto eres una chica muy sexy me gustaría conocerte más, eres muy linda fui a donde mi esposo estaba y beso y volvimos a bailar toda calenturienta yo nunca había sentido tal aventura y al oído me dijo mi esposo que estaba muy excitado con lo que vio, yo le sentía la verga más rígida que nunca, al pasar tiempo mi esposo todo excitado ya estaba muy borracho pues tomo de más estaba muy borracho para manejar camino a la casa así que me lleve el carro, y en el camino sobre la carretera estaba el amigo con quien había bailado estaba parado a la orilla de la carretera su carro se había averiado, y como mi esposo estaba tan borracho ya se había dormido, decidí acercarme al amigo Roberto y ofrecí llevarlo, gustosamente subió, íbamos los tres en el carro y mi esposo dormidito yo toda nerviosa sin saber si había hecho bien o mal solo esperaba que no se despertara mi esposo, voltie por el retrovisor y Roberto se sobaba la verga , a lo que dije que dejara de hacer eso o que no se me iba antojar, después de un rato seguimos en camino hasta llegar a su destino el cual le pedí que se bajara él se bajó y al despedirse me dio un tremendo beso que no me di cuenta y tomo la llaves del carro y me comento que no me las iba a iba a dar a menos que le diera otro beso, me baje un poco temerosa a pedírselas ya que mi esposo podía despertarse en cualquier momento, accedí a darle el beso, solo que ahora fue un tremendo beso de esos que te dan ganas de coger y yo con mi vestidito zapatillas toda cachonda, deje que me manoseara todita ya estaba toda excitada y fuera de control y a lo que yo pensaba era que mi esposo así lo hubiera querido, Roberto me volteo me bajo mi tanga y comenzó a penetrarme con una enorme herramienta que pegue un grito a lo que voltie a ver a mi esposo entre el carro y ya estaba despierto con su verga de fuera y masturbándose, me puse más caliente porque ya no había limitaciones pero si pena a lo que fuimos detrás del carro donde me hizo suya completita, Roberto parecía que no había cogido en meses me cogía bien rico incluso me cargo a dos manos detrás del carro y seguir penetrándome bien rico se la mame completa y también me la mamo incluso hasta mi anito me chupaba así bien rico, me quiso dar por mi ano pero estaba muy cerrada y me dolió mucho a lo que insistió mucho y sin querer ya estaba dentro era un joven todo loco con todo el poder y con un fuerte empujón me dio toda su leche por mi ano con dolor y placer grite, al terminar me dijo que le encanto conocerme más y que ojala se repitiera y me dio una nalgada de despedida y se metió a su casa yo toda adolorida y con toda la leche aun dentro busque mis zapatillas me acomode el vestido y por cierto no encontré mi tanga, me subi al carro, y no traia interiores y el todo emocionado y con la verga de fuera hasta que llegamos a la casa hicimos sexo y el me perguntaba se a mi me gusto lo que hice y yo le hablaba que me encanto sentir la pinga del desconocido en mi interior. Luego en el otro dia pense que mi marido me iba cobrar lo que hize pero al contrario toda vez cuando tenemos sexo dice que quiere repetir lo de la vez pasada y eso me vuelve loca. Ya le hablo de fantasias y Siempre planeamos algo morboso donde el me pueda exibir para otros hombres. Descobri que a el le encanta y excita y a mi igual pues yo soy la estrella en todas las fantasias, ya me he desinhibido y varias hemos hecho cosas como ir a un hotel y pedir una pizza y yo atender la puerta solo de toalla donde el entregador me mire y ya llegue a dejar caer la toalla, mi marido Mira de un rincon donde no lo ven. Eso paso a ser algo mio y de el , un secreto solo de nosotros dos lejos de la sociedad. Amo mi marido pues percebi que amar no es de celos pero si confianza, decidi que vamos a un resort swinger a mirar y entender pues tengo un marido amigo y hago toda las picardillas por el y el por mi. Bueno espero que yo alla ayudado parejas en la misma situacion y les digo a las mujeres no pierdan tiempo en su morbo, si tienen un marido como el mio, lo disfrutes pues somos muy afortunadas pues estos no estan buscando mujeres por ahi pues nosotras somos sus fantasías

Muy buena desambiguación de terminos.

Gracias por compartirla.

Tengo una curiosidad... ¿por que siempre q hablan de un cornudo nos tratan como si fuéramos todos maricas o si tenemos él pene pequeño o solo q no podemos hacer gemir a nuestras mujeres?yo tengo un buen pene, hago disfrutar a mi mujer pero me excita verla coger o que me cuente que a cogido sólo eso y ya

Esta es una Excelente pregunta, que genera confusión constantemente a muchos cornudos.. Lo primero a resaltar es que mi blog es de temática COCKOLD..

El termino CUCKOLD es una palabra en ingles que su traducción literal es cornudo, hace referencia un hombre (macho beta) que no es agraciado sexualmente (pene pequeño, eyaculador precoz, sumiso, muchas veces bisexual, etc) que disfruta de ver a su pareja teniendo sexo con otros hombres mas fuertes y mejor dotados (machos alpha) por que sabe que el no puede satisfacerla sexualmente y saber que su mujer es deseada por estos machos alphas es algo que le excita, muchas veces el macho beta acepta con gusto ser sumiso del macho alpha por que disfruta de esta humillación.

Existe otro termino el STAG este palabra en ingles literalmente significa “ciervo” pero hace referencia a alguien que también es un cornudo. la diferencia es que se refiere a un hombre bien dotado, dominante y capaz de satisfacer plenamente a su mujer osea es un macho alpha que disfruta compartir su mujer  con otros machos alphas por que esto significa que su mujer es deseada por todos . Esto le genera satisfacción, morbo y excitación, pero por ser un macho alpha con carácter dominante muchas veces no hay interacción sexual con el amante ni humillación pues no disfrutan de esto ultimo.

En español tanto la palabra CUCKOLD como STAG la traducción correcta para ambas seria “cornudo” por eso es complicado de diferenciar y genera confusion, pero yo seria un cornudo cuckold pues me identifico con la primera descripción y tu serias un cornudo stag pues encajas con la segunda.

Existen blog totalmente STAG, puedes buscarlos y te aseguro que te sentirás mas identificados con ellos, Saludos y espero haber resuelto tu duda.