bpd question, what exactly is splitting? i hear abt it a lot and i think i might have bpd but i can’t figure out what it is lmao
Splitting is an extreme change in thinking, and this can go both positive and negative (or black and white)
Splitting white is when you idealize and idolize someone, thinking they're the best person ever and nobody can ever compare to them, that they have no flaws, and that they'd never hurt you in any way, intentionally or unintentionally. That they always love you. They make you feel the happiest you've ever been.
Splitting black is the opposite of that. Devaluing someone, thinking that they're the worst person ever or that they've always hurt you. That they're so flawed beyond repair. That they never really loved you. Wanting to insult them and being so angry at them. Or being so distraught and depressed at the thought of them, feeling betrayed almost. Just a complete contrast to the highs you'd get from them.
You may notice it's similar to black and white thinking, but b&w thinking is in a general context, while splitting is specific to a person or group of people.
Hope that helps some!
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i have impulsive bpd but i only get impulses to cut and dye my hair i would never do anything to hurt anyone because i'm a good boy 😇
shoutout to weird kids. shoutout to the guy who’s worn a cape to school every day since 6th grade. shoutout to the freshman who brings a stuffed animal to school & uses exclusively it/its pronouns. shoutout to the ppl who dye their hair a different color every month. shoutout to the girl in my econ class who wears the same hoodie every day. shoutout to weird kids. i love you.
wouldn’t it be cool if i could just ask “hey do you still like me” without literally wanting to eat my own organs out of shame
bpd culture is being kind of okay for a period of time and wondering if you even have bpd and then having an extremely bad episode
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BPD culture is never being able to tell who is the toxic one in any of your relationships because it is always assumed you are the bad one.
ive found that partially treated mental illness can sometimes look to uninvolved onlookers like faked mental illness.
bpd culture is your fp being the least responsive person ever and it slowly killing you
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i have tourettes where I say sudden funny things but never any slurs because I am good boy 😇 I have OCD but not the one that makes me really concerned about piss and shit but the movie one that makes me line things up properly nice and neat because I am a good boy 😇 I have bipolar but not the one that makes me act embarrassingly in public because I am on the highest point of a downward curving emotional pendulum swing, but the one that makes me creative af via safely utilizing my tendency towards extreme emotions in my art (because I am a good boy 😇) I have autism but it's the one like from the movies where I'm good at math or being a detective, and not the one that makes other people hate me so bad they want to kill me because I am annoying to them. because I am a good boy 😇 I have schizophrenia too but I also don't, because somehow in the cultural lexicon no one who has schizophrenia is a good boy and there is rarely a stylistic bullshit depiction of the condition, but I'm still a good boy 😇 society knows this. society knows this.