The Choices We Make

Very well said

I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perceptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it’s important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it’s important to me to have that kind of synchrony.

Advice your mother should’ve given you.

Stick by your word and stand firm with your boundaries. Don’t allow people to poke, probe, and push your limits, boundaries, and no zones after you told them not to. Don’t be fooled, all people need is one warning to get the memo that something is off limits, but no one will respect a person who is all talk and no action. Put action behind your words, no one will take your words seriously if you don’t, empty threats get you nowhere. People only continue trying you when they know/think they can get away with it. Say it with me, first times a warning, second times a done deal. Don’t disrespect yourself by going against your boundaries and personal code. 

“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

How to write a great resume that makes you stand out

The ultimate guide on finding an internship, part 1

This is a 6 part series that shares what I’ve learned in the way of finding my own internship placement. Today, we’ll be looking exactly what you have to write to make yourself stand out from other applicants.

1. Make your resume relevant to your employer. If you want to stand out, this is the secret. You want to show your future employer that you are the candidate it needs to fulfil its needs and wishes. Every company has a different goal and mission so they will ask different things from you. However, This is the number 1 mistake I’ve seen my classmates make. They only write 1 general resume and send it to a bunch of companies. BITCH 👏 STOP 👏 RIGHT 👏 THERE 👏 No two companies are the same, they each deal with different problems and have a different approach and business model. So it is damn right stupid to send the same thing to all of them. If you do that, you’re just digging your own grave. Save yourself. Love yourself. Don’t go through all those rejection letters when you could have pretty damn well avoided them. I’m sorry if I come as blunt but PLEASE listen!!! Take your time and research profoundly the companies you would like to work for. Read their website, stalk them on all social media and specifically LinkedIn. Try to get a hold of their culture and values. This is so important, I will devote the second part solely to this. So follow me if you don’t want to miss it.

2. Learn about the market. Doing research first can give you a headstart, even if you don’t have relevant experience. When I say learn about the market, I mean studying the area of expertise you want to focus and learn as much as you can. In my case, I study entrepreneurship and retail management, a very broad subject. However, I knew I wanted to focus on digital marketing so what I did was research what exactly falls under it, what employers are looking for, what software they use, what branch of it interested me the most, if there’s demand for it (very important!) and expected salary.

Tip: the more demand, better the pay. So try going into a niche.

3. Try getting some experience beforehand. If you can find a part-time job that is related to what you wanna do, then take it! As a student, you can’t really expect to be paid a lot, but what counts is the experience you are getting because this show you really are interested in learning about the trade. Personally, I started this blog almost a year ago. I also took some courses on Google Academy and surprisingly it gave me some opportunities and I got a gig as a social media assistant for some restaurants. When I went to the interview, the manager was really surprised by the fact I willingly took some courses to learn to work with Google Analytics and absolutely loved the fact I blog. So it doesn’t have to be something grand, as long as it shows you are motivated and willing to learn.

4. Write only the relevant information and a catch. Every resume follows basically kind of the same structure. You have your contact info, work experience, educational background and skills. You’ve done your research on what the company wants and needs so please don’t write everything you’ve ever done and experience on the resume. Even if you feel tempted to, do not do it. Write only what is truly relevant that you think can also benefit the company. As students, chances are that we don’t have relevant work experience. If this is the case, highlight your skills and coursework that you have done at your university. If you have worked on projects that are linked to other organizations besides your university and it is relevant for where you’re applying, write it down. And you should consider writing a summary statement. A summary statement is a sort of pitch and is a perfect method of summarizing why you are a good candidate for the position and what you have to offer for the company. You can find more information about writing one here.

To wrap it up, if you really want to stand out, you have to make it personalize your resume for each organization you are sending it to. Which is why you have to do your research on the job market beforehand so you know exactly what companies are looking for and if it is a right fit for you. Don’t be afraid and start getting some experience too. Whether it is by applying for a part-time job, following some courses or your own projects that are also related to what you want to do. And lastly, write the relevant information. Don’t write everything you’ve ever done as it can make your resume rather long and incoherent. Try making it short and to the point instead so they can quickly asses if you are a good fit. Don’t forget to write a statement summary to pitch yourself up.

In the second part, I’ll be talking about what I looked for in companies, how I determined if I could be a good fit for it, build criteria and help you see what companies are looking for candidates.

Based off of this post by @ffspunk

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Han Kang, from The Vegetarian

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

“how to read more” “how to read faster” “how to read daily” STOP STOP stop STOP this is not a competition. read slowly, read when you’re in the right state of mind, really savour it, read for pleasure, read for yourself. don’t read for performance, stats or to compare yourself to others

Relationships are not a game. Quit the “well they didn’t answer my text for two hours yesterday so now I’m gonna wait two hours to answers theirs.” Quit the “I’m not gonna tell them that I’m upset cause if they really care they’ll notice and if they don’t notice they don’t really care.” Quit the “I’m not gonna text first cause it’s their turn.” Quit all of that. If you want to talk to them, talk to them. If you want to see them, ask them if they want to hang out. If you care about them, let them know. If you have something to say, say it. Stop playing all those silly mind games. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.