Based Off Of This Post By @ffspunk

Our minds are naturally really good at envisioning worst case scenarios and worrying about problems before they’ve ever happened. And since it comes from your own head, of course it’ll feel like truth. But the actual probability of something going exactly the way you think it will is very low. Next time you keep yourself awake with nightmares conjured up by your fear, try to think of it like this, “I cannot predict the future, much less in the state I’m in right now,” and trust that the reality of things will be much more indifferent (and maybe even much kinder) to you than you are to yourself.

obviously love isn’t easy, but there’s something to be said about finding the person that makes it feel that way. conversation is effortless, and silence is not uncomfortable. seeing them brings you a sense of peace you didn’t realize you were missing. conflict is not the end of the world because you know it can be resolved. trust is a given and you don’t have to wonder how they feel about you. it may not always be easy, but you know without a doubt that it’s worth it. it’s truly a beautiful thing.

Relationships are not a game. Quit the “well they didn’t answer my text for two hours yesterday so now I’m gonna wait two hours to answers theirs.” Quit the “I’m not gonna tell them that I’m upset cause if they really care they’ll notice and if they don’t notice they don’t really care.” Quit the “I’m not gonna text first cause it’s their turn.” Quit all of that. If you want to talk to them, talk to them. If you want to see them, ask them if they want to hang out. If you care about them, let them know. If you have something to say, say it. Stop playing all those silly mind games. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.

Give up trying to be the good girl. Create a reputation of being the girl whose respected. Allow this desire to guide and be reflected in your actions.

things that seem small can be really brave:

getting up in the morning

asking for help

stopping when you know you’ve pushed yourself too hard

admitting when you were in the wrong

forgiving yourself

making an effort even when you don’t have the motivation

reaching out to others when you feel alone

+ much more

It's okay to not be satisfied with things, usually that's even when better ideas emerge. Life is a constant cycle of revisiting and reimagining and redoing. You don't have to like or accept everything just because it's been done.

I will act as your wings if you fall and continue to carry you until you can carry yourself.

- Extract from the book i’ll never write

“I don’t want to be happy. I want to have you by my side. To have you by my sadness and my depression. To have you. Your love. Your care. That is much much precious than happiness. I am a nothing and a no one. But I am everything in your hands. So hold me.”

— Mohammed Zarir, from a letter to T.M. (2020)

I always feel that and it's true

Advice your mother should’ve given you.

Stick by your word and stand firm with your boundaries. Don’t allow people to poke, probe, and push your limits, boundaries, and no zones after you told them not to. Don’t be fooled, all people need is one warning to get the memo that something is off limits, but no one will respect a person who is all talk and no action. Put action behind your words, no one will take your words seriously if you don’t, empty threats get you nowhere. People only continue trying you when they know/think they can get away with it. Say it with me, first times a warning, second times a done deal. Don’t disrespect yourself by going against your boundaries and personal code.