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hear me out.
sometimes when i hear ppl around me complain about how much they want a bf/gf/partner in general i often want to ask, "why exactly?"
because a lot of the time, at the core, people want a s/o to address some other thing in their life they want fulfilled. like it's more of just wanting companionship, someone to connect to, wishing to feel less lonely etc
i feel like this is worth thinking about bc often people will get into a relationship thinking it will solve this core issue they have, and when it doesn't it catches them off guard. like ur s/o is there to improve your overall quality of life, not solve your life problems for u--that's smth u need to work on urself. yes it will suck. but it will be worth it bc ull be a more well-rounded person!
i used to kinda wish i had a relationship myself, but as i met more ppl and made more friends that feeling went away and i realised i was really content with just my platonic relationships. bc at the root i really just wanted people i could truly connect to, people i could chat up whenever. and i got that when i built a good network of friends.
you don't need a romantic relationship to be happy. it's better to try to address these needs first instead of throwing it all upon the hypothetical partner to solve.
i think about this whenever i have that "i want a relationship" feeling again.