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i wish there were sparkly otherkin nightclubs that serve drinks named after david bowie and everyone on the dance floor is wearing a tail and all the gods sit at the bar sipping liquid gold and the vampires slink around in the dark corners hiding from the break of dawn and the zombies languish in the VIP lounge but idk

Puki will you leave tumblr because everyone’s acting like it’s dead now :(

oh yeah its SO dead.

1000 notes this post. Now

There has been a massive increase in the amount of hate and ableism towards people with tourettes that is accepted.

It is now considered socially acceptable and seen as ok to mock, "fake claim," and insult people with tourettes. It is seen as ok to harm us, even by other disabled people.

I have had people close to me make a mockery of my disability. People who have said to my face they think tics are cute or said I looked weird. People who have mocked my tics in front of me. People who have made it clear that my struggles are a joke to them.

Tourettes is a real disability. A scary, dangerous disability to live with. Tourettes has hurt people. Tourettes has killed people.

It is not just saying inappropriate words and giggling about it afterwards. I've gotten bruises from tic attacks. I've spent nights laying in bed, with my head surrounded by pillows, unable to do anything other than accept that I'm gonna get hurt and wait for it to be over.

Tourettes is not cute. It's not fun. It's not something to mock.

It is traumatic. It is painful. It is debilitating.

Please, treat it that way.

Stop partaking in minimizing how serious this disability is. Stop allowing people to bully those with tourettes and mock the disability. Stop fake claiming or asking for "proof" that someone is suffering.

This shouldn't be seen as ok. This shouldn't be so commonly accepted.

HUGE FUCKING REMINDER

“delulu” is not funny or cute. it is an insult to actual delusional people/beasts. DO NOT say it. it is gross

“so psycho” is also NOT funny or cute. it again is a HUGE slap in the face to actual psychotic people/beasts.

a few examples of dumb terms they are disgusting and insulting. if you say them you don’t support the mental ill

Lost a friend today because he refused to listen about how harmful the concept of narcissistic abuse is, despite knowing I have NPD and that I'm a victim of the exact same kind of abuse he was (literally, he described my experience down to the letter).

He was one of my and my partner's closest friends, so today has been really rough.

Please listen to people with NPD about how this harms us. We're neurodivergent people with a largely traumagenic disorder, usually from abuse and/or neglect. We're not monsters, predisposed towards an abusive nature, or capable of a unique kind of abuse. We're just people who struggle with self-esteem because we base our ego primarily on our perception of what others think of us.

We're not saying this can never influence toxic behaviors, we're just pointing out that that's not more true of our disorder any more than any other health condition, from autism and ADHD to OCD to PTSD to addiction to eating disorders to bipolar to depression to anxiety.

We're also not trying to take language from other abuse victims. We're asking you to not be ableist (a form a structured societal abuse) towards other abuse victims. Call it what it is: emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is such a wider category than people realize, and it's important to talk about that. I hear what people are saying when they say they're wanting to describe a specific subtype of emotional abuse, so let's make words for that!

Manipulative abuse, coercive abuse, gaslighting abuse, guilt-tripping abuse, even safety abuse - that last for when people use their own mental health state and threaten self harm or suicide to get their way.

These can all be factors in emotional abuse - what's commonly described as narc abuse is what's standard for emotional abuse, involving a wide variety of tactics to exert control in the absence of physical or sexual abuse - which also can and usually are partly emotional in nature as well.

I'd love to open a conversation about terms that better describe what we went through! I'm just asking that we don't use the ones that further demonize a badly misunderstood disorder, and that people be willing to recognize that their understanding of it is based on a LOT of misinformation.

Just, please, listen to us. Be willing to be open-minded. We aren't your abusers, and we know that you deserved better and deserve a chance to heal to the fullest extent possible. We do too. Please, help make a safe space for us all to do so together.

NPD Resources Masterlist

The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <;3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!

for me, it was similar.

from my 'fallen angel' side, my wings were ripped from me as punishment for not being the ideal angel, to which i was banished away from heaven, almost pushed off from there. however, rather than being sent to hell, i was sentenced to a "purgatory" of sorts, which is here, this place on this earth.

from my 'god/deity' side, it was a similar story, with the only difference being that i was seen as an unworthy deity, one that's corrupt, with others not liking me

neither of these had corrupted me (maybe because i was already corrupt?), rather it only scarred me.

i still have retained parts of my divinity, though i am still stuck in this purgatory

hope this makes sense!

alright so fallen angel describes the fall from grace. Though to some individuals its taken literally - angels falling through the sky. Some art depicts broken/burnt wings

Me personally - i didnt fall. My wings (my holiness) were ripped from me as a punishment and it corrupted me, changing me from my angelic form to my demonic, and i was banished to "Hell."

how did yall experience your fall from grace? (Both pychological/spiritual/etc kins welcome to share)

i've seen so much miku content all over social media today and it's actually making me so emotional like. the way fans and producers and artists alike all reference each other..... everything that makes vocaloid special is built from community. a famous producer whose songs you grew up with is likely to have the same feelings about another artist's work. miku's birthday is as much of a celebration of the character as it's a celebration of nostalgia and the fandom's creativity, because miku wouldn't be where she is without us and we're lucky to have her-

Friends I am once again asking you to stop reblogging shit like "reblog for luck" or "reblog in 5 min or something bad will happen" etc etc it literally preys on OCD and paranoia and mine spirals when I see this shit so please stop reblogging it I'm begging you

npd otherkin culture is actually being god/deitykin due to psychological reasons linked to my npd and feeling hurt when people say "god/deitykin dni." like i'm sorry that i'm mentally ill? i don't know what you want me to do about that.

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messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

NEVER feel bad for doing jack shit. if you didn't get anything done today, that's wonderful. and I love you.

Aside from my seething and raging I will say that I fucking love narcissists. You do not deserve the way the world treats you. You do not deserve being looked down on and shat on and dehumanized and threatened merely for having a traumatic condition beyond your control. You are good and there are people who love you. And I know it hurts sometimes, but that is okay. It’s not your fault. You are not a monster. You are not an abuser. You are not evil or cruel nor are you some unstable unhinged child or whatever other ugly things others or your own brain wants to tell you. I love you, you deserve safety, and there’s always gonna be people in your corner fighting for and fighting alongside you.

big shoutout to disabled people who smell bad. disabled people who cannot shower regularly. disabled people who sweat a lot and it causes them to smell bad. disabled people who cannot apply deodorant due to mobility restrictions. disabled people who cannot do laundry regularly or at all, and end up wearing dirty clothes for a long time. disabled people who cannot clean their living space, and thus end up smelling bad themselves. disabled people who have any condition or disability that causes body odor. and any other disabled people who smell bad for reasons i didn't mention. i see you and i love you.

(this post is for all disabled people, including mental and physical disabilities)

My fellow narcissists (people who have NPD) are one of the most loyal, resilient, and straightforward people I’ve met in my life. I know that our disorder is terribly misunderstood but here’s a reminder that we don’t have to align with unfair treatment pwPDs receive within the mental health advocacy community.

It’s okay to love your narcissism, it’s okay to appreciate the positive and beneficial attributes and qualities it gives us. A lot of us are incredibly protective of our friends, more than a non-NPD individual will ever be - because our disorder makes us so. A lot of us are helpful and incredibly caring individuals because of our NPD, and those closest to us can feel this blanket of care and protection settling over them. A lot of us are self-sacrificial (shocker.) because of our NPD, passionate because of it, or have other pleasant, beneficial, good qualities of character amplified because of our NPD.

I’ll make a rough guess and say that one of the most pleasant people you’ll ever meet are probably narcissists, because it benefits us to be liked, not all of us thrive off negative attention. So, hold your sanism. And to my fellow pwNPD, I love you.

Shoutout to people who who can't spell

Shoutout to people with with bad grammar

Shoutout to people who use AAC to type but you can't tell by looking

Shoutout to people who use AAC to type and and you can tell by looking

Shoutout to people people who type different because is is more comfortable

Shoutout to people who type different because is is only way way way they can

Shoutout to people who have be made fun of for for how how how type

Shoutout to anyone and everyone one who type different +, no matter the reason why

i love you disabled people with feeding tubes

i love you disabled people with colostomy bags

i love you disabled people on TPN

i love you disabled people with carers

i love you disabled people with rare disabilities who never see themselves in posts about disabilities

i love you disabled people with high support needs

i love you intellectually and developmentally disabled people

i love you disabled people who live with incontinence, need assistance with hygiene, or have other needs that ableist people consider "gross"

i love you homeless disabled people

i love you fat disabled people

i love you disabled people who use AAC

i love you disabled people who don't see yourselves in other disability positivity posts

i love you.

Your daily reminder to not put "You SHOULD be reblogging this" in your posts because you're going to trigger somebody's OCD. Especially when it comes to topics such as social justice or politics. Yes, your message is important but guilting people into reblogging it is not just reblog bait, but it can harm somebody mentally.

Reminder that:

Neopronouns are entirely valid.

It doesn't matter if neopronouns are "cringe" or "weird". In the eyes of someone who dislikes a group of people, everything about them will be "weird". Why not have fun while being weird?

Neopronouns can be hard to use or understand, but they do get easier with time.

Neopronouns being confusing or new does not mean someone can insist on referring to others with the wrong pronouns. (Of course, don't get hung up on calling someone the wrong pronouns by accident, but especially don't hateful.)

Neopronouns are not limited to anything at all. They aren't exclusive to nonbinary people, they aren't only for people who present a certain way, they aren't for people who also use xenogenders. They're not closed. They can be used by whomever.

Neopronouns can be anything. Nouns, consonants, vowels, entirely new words, symbols, emojis - they're what you make them.

Neopronouns are constantly evolving. Their entire existence is based around being new. You can use neopronouns for yourself, learn about the history behind neopronouns, practice using neopronouns, create neopronouns - everything is free to do forever. Be cool and have fun.

avoiding ocd unsafe posts on tumblr

so i've been experimenting a while with filtering phrases, and here is a list i've come up with that i use to get posts that trigger my ocd / have compulsive language off my dash! this ends up taking out about 95% of these posts. i'm sharing it here so anyone who also wants to blacklist this stuff can as well.

it is helpful to me as someone with ocd to blacklist these phrases and makes tumblr much more accessible, so i hope it can also help others with ocd and similar mental illnesses (or people who just find this stuff aggravating)

phrases to blacklist that are usually used in compulsive statements related to tumblr actions:

asking for reblog

follows>likes

follows > likes

hit that reblog

ignore for

i know you see this

keep reblogging

must reblog

obligated to reblog

obligated to vote

people can reblog

people reblog

please rb

please reblog

please share

rb after voting

rb for

rb if u vote

rb if you vote

rbs > likes

rbs>likes

rb this

reblog after voting

reblog bait (people use this one as a trigger tag, so this one is better under filtered tags instead of filtered post content)

reblog for (this one tends to catch a lot of non-compulsive posts, but leaving it out allows a lot of compulsive posts onto the dash, so it's a tossup if you want to include it)

reblog for exposure

reblog if u vote

reblog if you vote

reblog it every time

reblogs > likes

reblogs>likes

reblog this

remember to reblog

required by law to

sample size

you will reblog

just filtering the word "reblog" will also work as a catchall for most of these, but will also catch a lot of non-compulsive posts, so this list is meant to minimize that effect.

how to blacklist post content

on desktop/web: settings > account > filtered post content (should be right under filtered tags), at this url

on mobile/app: settings > account settings > content you see > filtered post content (again will be right under filtered tags)

how you can make tumblr more accessible for people with ocd and similar mental illnesses

tag posts with compulsive statements as "#reblog bait"

avoid using compulsive statements in posts - according to polls, this makes people less likely to reblog anyway! (poll 1) (poll 2)

if you are able to, avoiding sharing posts with aggressively compulsive statements would help. for example, those "reblog for good luck ignore and you'll never have good luck again" type posts, or things with "rules". i saw a lighthearted tournament with "From now on, if you see a matchup post - even accidentally - you are immediately morally obligated to vote one way or the other. Refusing to vote is strictly forbidden" in the pinned post. this is an example of an ocd unsafe statement. (op of that poll is not malicious though and is currently collecting opinions on whether to remove the statement or just warn for it).

avoid implying that reblogging, following, voting, etc or not doing so carries a moral value.

while reblogging a post may be very small stakes in itself, things like this can trigger compulsions that spiral into more than just reblogging a post. this is why this stuff is important even if it's small-stakes by itself.

you are under no obligation to share this.

happy pride month to all the

-asexuals

-aromantics

-aroaces

-aromantic allosexuals

-asexual alloromantics

-aroace flux

-people who don’t fit the traditional aspec definitions but still identify as aroace

-poc aspec people

-young aspec people

-old aspec people

-romance/sex favourable aspecs

-romance/sex repulsed aspecs

-romance/sex indifferent aspecs

-romance/sex ambivalent aspecs

-romance/sex averse aspecs

-neurodivergent aspec people

-neurotypical aspec people

-disabled aspec people

-chronically ill aspec people

-aspec people with contradictory identities

-aspec people who do not fit any of these categories listed

-you are all valid 🏳️‍🌈

the thing about working on childcare these days is that I'm blown away by how open minded and genuinely curious these kids are. there are multiple openly queer kids, who are aware of the intricacy of the queer community and the multi-faceted nature of queer identity.

none of that was around 10 or 20 years ago. queerness wasn't even necessarily taboo during my childhood experiences, it just,,, wasn't taught or talked about, even from one child to another. I just didn't know it was a thing. but these little kids know about intersectionality!!!

and then when I was in high school, kids used 'gay' as an insult, but these kids at my job don't even blink differently when I told them the little queer flag pin on my messenger bag was the aroace flag. some of them ask what it means, because perhaps they've only heard of gay lesbian and trans. (and they've heard of gay lesbian and trans!!!!) I explain my flag and what it means, and it makes sense to them. that would have been alien for me as a ten year old.

some of these little lesbian girls and aroace and bisexual boys, the pan, poly, demigirl and nonbinary little ten year olds are the best friends that little me needed.

it's refreshing and heartwarming to see that the young ones of today are the kind of people this world needs.

PROTECT QUEER KIDS!!!! EMPOWER QUEER KIDS!!!!

reblog to tell your local narcissist that they’re the best ever

GUYS GUYS GUYS WE'RE GONNA HAVE AN AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY!!! IT'S BEING CREATED NOW !! IM SO EXCITED AHHHHH

if non-hispanics reblogged it would help a ton!

so, i've been noticing lately that english speakers that don't support neopronouns have been saying stuff like "neopronouns are for americans, no one else uses neopronouns in other languages! they're confusing to non-natives!" and it honestly upsets me SO MUCH, because that's simply not true! neopronouns exist all around the world, and i'm here to speak for hispanic neopronoun users as an argentine myself.

spanish has neopronouns, hispanics use neopronouns! it's not debatable!

spanish does not have an equivalent to they/them, "someone dropped their wallet, if i find them i'll give it back to them" would be "a alguien se le cayó su billetera, si lo encuentro se la devolveré" (someone dropped his wallet, if i find him i'll give it back to him).

so, since there's many non-binary people that felt like they needed a gender-neutral pronoun for themselves, elle/le was invented as opposed to él/lo.

as you may know, a neopronoun is a pronoun that is not official to a language (although some neopronouns may become official), and since elle/le is not official to spanish, it's a neopronoun to us.

and no, this isn't our only neopronoun.

we have others such as elli/li, ellu/lu, il/li, etc. that do not have a translation to english, kinda like how xe/xem, ze/zir, ae/aer, etc. do not have a translation to spanish.

and yes, these are actually used, and not only online: i've had many friends in my country that used these pronouns among nounself pronouns (a friend that used él/ella/elli/quack, another one that used elle/ella, etc.)

so, i've made an il/li/-i pronoun flag!

il/li are pronouns derived from italian, and they're one of the most common neopronouns around here!

[ID: On the left, there's flag with 5 stripes all of the same size, the colors of these stripes from top to bottom are: mint green, turquoise, white, light purple, and brown. The image on the right is the same flag with the color-meanings of each stripe, and from top to bottom, these are the meanings: Mint green - italian origins of the pronouns, Turquoise - disabled and neurodivergent users, White - neopronouns around the world, Light purple - trans hispanics, and Brown - people of color hispanics. End ID]

this is the flag with its meanings, any hispanic / spanish-speaker that IDs with these pronouns is free to use it!

If you don't judge people for saying "sorry ahdh brain" in public, then don't judge people for saying "sorry schizophrenia brain" in public

If you correct people when they misuse the term "ocd" then you need to correct people when they misuse the terms "psychotic", "delusional", "hallucinating" and "schizophrenic"

If you don't stare, laugh at or fear a stranger in public flapping their hands, then you need to do the same for a stranger in public talking to someone who isn't actually there.

If you give a trigger warning to sensitive topics then you need to give a trigger warning to unreality and false information as a prank.

If you want to normalize medication like antidepressants you also need to normalize medications like antipsychotics.

If you don't like people without your disorder joking about it online and report it as harassment, then you need to do the same for the tons of nonschizophrenics making "schizoposting" memes to make fun of us.

Just please include schizo-spec and psychotic acceptance into your mental illness/neurodiversity acceptance. We are part of your community whether you like it or not. We are constantly stigmatized, misrepresented and made fun of. We do what we can to help you, please return the favor.

Mental illness/neurodiversity acceptance is an ongoing action. We will get nowhere in the long run if we split the community into the "in" group and the "out" group. We could all accomplish so much if we worked together. But you need to include the "weird" people that don't fit into your aesthetic and don't fit the social norms.

Us psychotics and schizo-specs have been struggling for years and have been the only people fighting for ourselves while the people we plead to barely see us as human. If you are nonpsychotic and nonschizo-spec, you can help us more than you realize. Please include us and stick up for us the same way we have been including and sticking up for you.

i love just being a wonderful little beast. nothing more joyous than being a little guy

This blog is a safe space for therians/otherkin

Reblog if your blog is a therian/otherkin safe space

xenogender visibility day is coming up

Hello everyone, i just wanted to say that xenogender visibility day is soon, it has been celebrated on May 15th since 2021! Please reblog, share and like this so more people can know about it :D

(also happy lesbian visibility week to those who celebrate it!)

shoutout to aspec folks!

shoutout to asexuals

shoutout to aromantics

shoutout to aplatonics

shoutout to asensuals

shoutout to analterous folks

shoutout to anaesthetics

shoutout to demisexuals

shoutout to demiromantics

shoutout to demiplatonics

shoutout to demisensuals

shoutout to demialterous folks

shoutout to demiaesthetics

shoutout to gray-aces

shoutout to gray-aros

shoutout to gray-any-other-attraction

shoutout to aceflux folks

shoutout to aroflux folks

shoutout to any-other-attraction-flux folks

shoutout to aroaces

shoutout to aroacespecs

shoutout to aegosexuals

shoutout to aegoromantics

shoutout to aego-any-other-attraction

shoutout to cupiosexuals

shoutout to cupioromantics

shoutout to cupio-any-other-attraction

shoutout to acespikes

shoutout to arospikes

shoutout to any-other-attraction-spikes

shoutout to reciprosexuals

shoutout to reciproromantics

shoutout to reciproaroaces

shoutout to recipro-any-other-attraction

shoutout to alloaces

shoutout to alloaros

shoutout to omniaspecs

shoutout to eclectio aroaces

shoutout to sex-favorable aces

shoutout to sex-indifferent aces

shoutout to sex-repulsed aces

shoutout to aces who enjoy sex as an activity

shoutout to aces who enjoy erotic media

shoutout to romance-favorable aros

shoutout to romance-indifferent aros

shoutout to romance-repulsed aros

shoutout to aros who enjoy romantic media

shoutout to aros whose favorite type of media is romance

shoutout to autosexuals

shoutout to autoromantics

shoutout to auto-any-other-attraction

shoutout to autospecs

shoutout to bellussexuals

shoutout to bellusromantics

shoutout to bellus-any-other-attraction

shoutout to quoisexuals

shoutout to quoiromantics

shoutout to quoi-any-other-attraction

shoutout to fraysexuals

shoutout to frayromantics

shoutout to fray-any-other-attraction

shoutout to apothisexuals

shoutout to apothiromantics

shoutout to apothi-any-other-attraction

shoutout to orchidsexuals

shoutout to orchidromantics

shoutout to orchid-any-other-attraction

shoutout to loveless folks

shoutout to lovequeer folks

shoutout to acespec folks who don't specifically label themselves

shoutout to arospec folks who don't specifically label themselves

shoutout to acespecs who experience sexual attraction

shoutout to arospecs who experience romantic attraction

shoutout to acespecs who experience romantic attraction

shoutout to arospecs who experience sexual attraction

all of y'all are valid as hell