Sensitive - Blog Posts

« You’re so sensitive »

A common argument that I hear from conservatives is that "people of the past were not so sensitive like people of today"

Mf people in 1950's America threw a tantrum because someone of a different skin color wanted to drink at the same fountain as them. Don't give me this bs about how people back then "weren't sensitive".

A Story Idea

An idea about a gay boy at Darkleys who had a crush on Lloyd, he loved him more than anything and would regularly spy on him at lunch, class or breaks but doesn't have the courage to tell him in fear of what his classmates would think. And like this boy is hella gay for our future green ninja, stuttering and blushing whenever he's around Lloyd and hiding his face shyly when Greenie asks him to borrow a pen.

One day he would pluck up the courage (after like two years of hiding his love) to tell Lloyd about his crush, so he got ready early, made Lloyd a card and his favourite candy (every 8-9 year olds dream) and prepared to tell him in private at lunch about his feelings.

However, when he takes his crush aside to tell him, this is where it goes south. He admits his feelings his heart pounding and his hopes high, while Lloyd's friends, Brad, Gene and whoever else are listening in.

Before Lloyd could say anything his friends burst out into laughter and run up to them and starts making fun of the boy who feels ashamed and looks at Lloyd feeling hopeful.

Unfortunately... Whether it's due to peer pressure, the fact that Lloyd wanted to be like his father or just generally because he was young, Lloyd joins in with his friends and sneers at him calling him homophobic names and scoffing at him saying that he'll never be loved because of what he is.

The heartbroken boy ran away from them, tears streaming down his face feeling embarrassed and beyond betrayed.

A couple years go by, Lloyd had left Darkley's claiming to follow in his father's footsteps, and the boys bullying never stopped, he was constantly harassed and made fun of for his sexuality making him want to hide away, sometimes it got violent and one time in particular he ended up with a scar going up to his cheek from his chin, he couldn't escape and was eventually put into a adoption center leaving Darkley's at 12 years old because he became orphaned.

When he heard about Lloyd becoming the green ninja, he felt hurt still, tracking every location and achievement Lloyd gets sourly, his mind feels corrupted and he turns to petty crime, it gets worse, hearing words of the Ninja's "heroism" and "kindness to all" he doesn't realize or think about how Lloyd has changed all he can think about is what happened all those years ago, as he gets older he doesn't move on it stays with him and he's definitely the Harumi-revenge-type.

It builds up to more severe crimes, but he's careful to avoid the ninja, rather being caught by the police, when he's old enough he leaves the adoption center and then starts plotting, plotting to become a villian, one that will get him noticed by the ninja and cause problems, one that will make the green ninja pay and for Ninjago to know what Lloyd is really like.

I haven't figured out everything out, like what kind of villian he would be, how it would work, but at one point there would be a reveal to Lloyd, and it would be all emotional as the boy (now man) let's out his feelings and bitterness of the day Lloyd rejected him, blaming him for the bullying. Of course deep inside, the reason the boy kept his revenge on Lloyd was because over all...he still loves him.

Lloyd won't be homophobic as the green ninja he probably realized his mistake when he grew older and he is NOT a bad person (as in the show's he's very accepting) apart from when he was younger this is just from the boys perspective, and Lloyd will be sympathetic, but his past will obviously cause problems as breaking someone's heart and homophobia does not mix well at all and is not acceptable.

What do you guys think? Idk I'm just letting out what's in my head after a similar experience

So in a Nutshell:

Lloyd gets pushed into bullying gay boi and gay boy becomes villian as revenge and to get Lloyd to pay more attention to him, and also to try and expose him, Lloyd feels guilty seeing him and stuff I haven't planned happens.

Feel free to imagine endings or events.

http://xhamster.com/xembed.php?video=765795

This link was sent to me from a woman I used to tease via Yahoo IM. :-)

Video description:

This is the amazing Farrah Faith tied up and cumming hard with our magic wand at Tied Virgins. We know you like this slut so thought you’d like a new video!

She is soooo sensitive. My favorite moment is 4:48, when he goes back from focusing on her pussy to directly vibrations on her clit, and she laughs and says “fuck you!” The cruel, friendly tone of the scene just makes this so much more fun to watch. The related videos at the bottom of the page are worth checking out, too. :-)

The secrets within

Massaging soft pretty feet is so sensual for both if done properly. I love it. So intimate

im your emotional sponge

i met a girl from Bandung, named Tami. We had a good convo (i think good here bc she could absorb my feelings)

"you are a very emphatic person. Be cautious it can be your own weakness".

Somehow it's true.

And also I expect a person can respond to me as much as I do to them effortlessly. Her name is Kharis, I owe her an apology. I used her to be my emotional sponge bc she fell in love with me. it never be wise to take her for granted. I was toxic to her. She's a pure soul and deserves love (hopefully she finds someone who treats her right). If we ever meet again in another life, i won't mind being her soulmate.

let's go back to the main topic. being an emotional sponge to others means you have the skill to acknowledge their feelings. im unlearning that everyone's feelings matter since in this cruel world, boundaries should exist. you should be able to distinguish whether things are tolerable.

i am completely done with accepting that being compassionate is not a sin. i have to put in "right" amount, dont I? wont blame my placements (yes, my sun - moon - risings are all water signs), this is something i can manage to.

Here a good tip for an emotional sponge like me:

"Visualize A Glass Wall

There are a number of techniques that you can use to keep other people’s energy separate. One technique includes visualizing a glass wall between yourself and the other person. The glass wall allows you to see the other person’s emotions. However, the emotions are not able to penetrate the wall. When they hit the wall, they bounce back to the other person, not to you. You can see and acknowledge the feelings, but you do not absorb them. This technique can work in large crowds as well. You can picture yourself surrounded by a glass wall as you move through the crowd. Although you may notice their energy, you do not have to take it on as it cannot get through the wall."

Please check here if you need guidance: https://keirbradycounseling.com/empath-and-absorbing-other-peoples-emotions/

Source: via pinterest.com

Source: twitter.com

Source: intimateweddings.com

Source: Quote by Heather Stillufsen via Pinterest.com

Holiday Hacks For The Highly Sensitive Person

• Embrace the art of kindness (i.e. Practicing random acts of kindness). 

• Ground yourself and practice deep breathing to center yourself on a regular basis. 

• Create a gratitude list including 5 things you are grateful for each day. 

• Simplify the holidays (i.e. Decluttering items, writing shopping or grocery lists). 

• Pamper yourself and rejuvenate. 

• Embrace your creativity by making DIY gifts such as bath or baking products. There are many resources that include a variety of DIY gifts such as YouTube or Pinterest. 

• Don’t be hard on yourself. 

• Get yourself a gift. 

• Embrace old traditions that you love or cultivate new traditions. Do which ever one works for you. 

• Take time and space to recharge at holiday events (i.e. Bathroom breaks, taking a walk outside, etc)...

• Avoid over indulgence. This may include foods, compulsive spending, alcohol, and other toxic substances.

• Exercise regularly if possible. 

• Seek out inspiration to help motivate you during the holidays. 

• Create a budget if you plan on spending money during the holidays. 

• To avoid sensory overload, it may be helpful to shop when it is less crowded. This may include mornings or before the holidays. Shopping online may also be a helpful option. 

• Get cozy and find time to relax. 

• Help create someone else’s holiday. 

• Know your triggers and have a plan that includes healthy coping strategies. 

• If you are low on cash, swapping trades with someone such as babysitting or cooking can be a great gift idea on the holidays.

• Attend support groups. There are a number of support groups such as 12 step meetings on the holidays that may provide support as well as holiday celebration. 

Wishing you all a happy holidays!

With love,

Dahlia

Photo Source: shopterrain.com

Source: Instagram.com

Hey, I just recently learned about HSP because I always had the feeling that something is kind of wrong with me and my mother always thought I was highly intelligent. Not sure about this but I identify a lot with HSP I already bought a book about the topic and feel like the tips they give there would help me a lot. But I live with my family and it's kind of impossible to start a routine that would make me feel better because they don't listen to me or believe in HSP it's really frustrating:/

Hi and thankyou for reaching out to me! I know it can be frustrating when other’s do not understand or make the effort to at least learn about the HSP trait. I believe relationships can actually be strengthened when we take the time to learn more about ourselves and others. Unfortunately, this is often not the case and you are not alone. Also, I am learning that being an HSP is not a flaw and HSPs are often creative and gifted! Being a smaller portion of the population, however, HSPs can easily be misunderstood. There are a number of therapists that know about and specialize in working with highly sensitive people. They can determine if you are an HSP and are skilled in this area. There are also many resources available on the topic. I hope I can help point you in the right direction and that you are doing well!

With love, 

Dahlia

Source: via pinterest.com

Source: via weheartit.com

Source: via pinterest.com

Source: crystalsNcreations via Etsy

5 Reasons Highly Sensitive People Struggle With Loneliness

June 26, 2019

For the past month, I have debated on whether or not to post about loneliness as it can involve various factors or perspectives. I would also love to elaborate on this topic in my next article post as I am exploring ways to dissolve my own feelings of loneliness.

As humans, we are wired to connect with others and I believe it is an important need to be addressed. Without healthy connections, people usually try to meet these needs in a variety of unhealthy (self destructive) ways.

Although most people experience loneliness at some point in their lives, this feeling seems to come with the territory of being a highly sensitive person (HSP) on a chronic level.

Why Do We Feel Lonely?

The following list includes five common reasons HSPs may struggle with loneliness...

1. Self Isolation

Most highly sensitive people require plenty of alone time to process things (especially introverts). Although solitude is needed to recharge and protect our sensitivity, we can easily take our alone time too far without realizing it. Too much solitude can lead to self isolation. Experiencing overwhelming emotions may also lead to isolation.

2. Feeling Misunderstood/ Invalidated

Feeling misunderstood also seems to come with the territory of being an HSP. I believe one reason is that many of us want to be true to ourselves and express ourselves authentically in a society that encourages the opposite.

As HSPs, we tend to experience our emotions intensely and process things deeply. It can be difficult to express ourselves in ways non HSPs may understand and (often is misunderstood) as a result, many HSPs may feel invalidated. The HSP may have difficulty finding people that understand or validate their feelings or ideas.

3. Fear of Rejection/ Criticism

Along with feeling misunderstood, HSPs are prone to fearing rejection. Many of us struggle with social anxiety and may feel inadequate.

I believe that many people don't realize that HSPs tend to be highly self conscious and can be hard enough on themselves. The added pressure from other's criticism can simply be too much to process for an HSP. This can lead to withdrawal and loneliness.

4. Vibes

Hsps are often intuitive empaths that can pick up the energy from the environment or other's. We can also easily pick up on social cues, expressions, intentions or the underlying motives of other's.

HSPs may also feel super uncomfortable around "fake" people and want to avoid surface level friendships in general. HSPs tend to prefer deep and meaningful connections and conversations and may avoid certain people or situations if an uncomfortable vibe or feeling arises.

5. Rumination

Highly Sensitive people are known for having abundant inner worlds and a natural talent for creativity (which is amazing)! Unfortunately, this trait can also make HSPs more prone to rumination (overthinking/feeling about situations).

Rumination can also be linked to anxiety, depression, trauma, various forms of addictions (All can be isolating experiences).

The heightened state of anxiety associated with rumination may lead to a fight or flight reaction causing an HSP to either avoid social situations or negatively react. This can lead to more feelings of isolation, invalidation, and avoidance.

You Are Not Alone!

If anyone can relate to this article, please know that you are not alone in this world and your feelings are valid! There are others (including myself) that can relate and care!

I plan on writing more about this topic and my journey to dissolving my chronic loneliness.

If you can relate to this post or need to reach out, feel free to share in the comments! Thankyou very much for your support!

With Love, 

Dahlia

Photo Source: s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it

Ethereal Rose...

Photo by: @dahliahsp

Source: himisspuff.com

Source: powerofpositivity.com

Source: via Pinterest.com

Source: PlaceboEffect.com

Source: weddingchicks.com

10 Ways for Highly Sensitive People To Create New Habits That Stick

May 6, 2019

In my last article, I mentioned the importance of consistency when it comes to practicing new behaviors to cope with emotional overwhelm. (The topic of the post).

In this post, I would like to build upon the topic by sharing some ways I have learned to integrate new behaviors or habits in such a way that improves my persistence. As I have learned over time, persistence is key!

Because I have always struggled with persistence and sticking to rigid routines and mundane tasks, I have had to strive for persistence in a number of ways. I have had to learn about the importance of implementing routines (particularly for HSPs) into a daily schedule.

Implementing daily habits and routines for HSPs can be a necessary component to achieving a sense of security and balance in an overwhelming world.

Building routines can be a great way for HSPs to seek comfort and a gain a sense of knowing what to expect in a world where unexpected things happen. It can also help HSPs maintain greater focus on personal goals/dreams when there are multiple distractions arising from multiple sources. I have learned that it can also help avoid procrastination, which can lead to regret and even more feelings overwhelm.

While routines can be an excellent tool to simplify one's life, I know many highly sensitive people can find change overwhelming. I know from experience that trying to change too many things at once can be overwhelming and be an obstacle to reaching goals. That is one reason I believe starting with small goals and gradually building up to larger goals is more beneficial.

It is important to know that creating new habits can take time and patience. The time it takes to build new habits can depend on the person, the habit, commitment to the habit, and other lifestyle factors. Many people believe it takes approximately one month to create a habit. Others believe it takes more or less time to reach their goals.

It has taken me various amounts of time and effort to create some of my current habits/routines, but I would like to share with you some helpful ways I have gradually created new routines/habits into my schedule. So far, it has helped improve the quality of my life and is helping me reach my goals at a more comfortable pace!

10 Ways to Build New Habits/Routines

1. Determine What You Truly Value and Intend to Create for Your Life

Knowing exactly what you want to achieve and prioritize can help give you a sense of where to start and simplify your goals. Writing down your intentions/goals can help you get more clear about your goals. It may include both long term and short term goals.

2. Start With Small Achievable Goals

This may include starting with one or two simple goals that are realistic and easy to achieve. These goals can be modified over time accordingly. The more the habits are practiced, the more likely it is to continue building upon the smaller goals. i.e. walking 10 minutes a day and gradually increasing the habit over time.

3. Combining a New Habit With Existing Habits

I find that tying new habits/routines to an existing routine is one of the best ways to not only get motivated, but can help with persistance. It is also a real time saver! For example, I started doing 10 jumping jacks after I brush my teeth each day. Over time I not only increased the amount of jumping jacks, but the amount I brush my teeth as well.

4. Using the Cue/Behavior/ Reward Technique

Everyone is different and may prefer different variations of this technique but the concept is the same. There are many sources online that further explain this concept. An example of this concept would be when I could barely get out of bed (let alone) take weekly classes, I chose to buy my favorite coffee drink (reward). The behavior or routine was getting out of bed and going to school. The cue was my alarm going off and the school day being on the schedule. Thankfully, I can attend class regularly without having to buy coffee every time but it did make a difference! Seeking out motivation and inspiration also helps facilitate the practice of a new habit. i.e. music, inspiring speeches etc...

5. Connections and Accountability

As I mentioned in my previous article, being accountable can help increase the chance of completing a task or goal. One way to be accountable is joining a community of people with similar objectives or goals. This can be helpful with motivation and create connections with others. i.e. Joining a fitness community online or in person.

6. Reminders

Having reminders such as visuals, auditory, written, or verbal reminders can be great ways to stay on track. i.e. leaving sticky notes around or using timers to complete tasks and stay on track.

7. Letting Go of Perfectionism

This includes not comparing yourself to others, letting go of "black and white" thinking, and expecting instant results. It's about knowing you may not do it all perfectly but you also don't give up on achieving your goals. I also find that having patience with yourself and the process and accepting that it is not going to be perfect can help with persistency.

8. Track your Progress and Celebrate the Milestones

Tracking your progress can help you see how far you've come to reach your goal. Rewarding yourself for your progress can help reinforce the new routine or habit you want to obtain. Some people use habit trackers or draw chains to keep track of progress. I also find that writing or talking about the progress can be another useful way to keep track of goals.

9.Environment

Similar to a growing plant, the right conditions to grow a new habit can impact the growth process of habit development. It's easier to focus on a goal or task in a comfortable environment. Also, being in a new environment provides new cues to start a new habit. It is about what works for you!

10. Replace a Negative Habit With a New Positive Habit

Much of our behavior is truly based on habits. This includes both positive and negative habits. I believe most people have at least one habit they know is not benefiting them and wish they could quit repeating it. Getting rid of negative habits can be difficult because the mind connects it with some kind of reward. The process of changing the behavior may also include setbacks, time, and may not occur in a linear fashion. There are also triggers or cues in the mind's connections that can trigger the behavior or habit. An example of replacing the negative habit is knowing your triggers or cues for the negative habit and replacing it with a new behavior. i.e. Drinking flavored sparkling water when having the urge to drink soda or alcohol. In this way, new connections can be made and the new habit can be developed over time.

Although most HSPs can be easily overwhelmed when faced with change , incorporating a degree of new healthy routines or replacing negative habits with positive ones can be beneficial. The tips in this article are ten of the ways I have worked toward developing new habits. Hopefully it will help someone achieve their goals and dreams! Feel free to let me know in the comments what works for you!

With Love,

Dahlia

Picture Source: Quotes and Notes via Pinterest.com

Source: Facebook via Pinterest.com

Source: Sacred Selflove.com