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It’s such a heart warming experience as desperate goonettes relapse over and over. Such a fun loop

Does anyone else feel that way?

i get sooo many asks and DMs asking for tips on how to get better at edging so i wanted to make an actual post about how i turned myself into a total edgeslut — and how you can, too! there's really only one main 'rule' to follow while you're learning how to edge, so i promise you can do it! this info should still be applicable regardless of your particular genitalia, but i mostly reference cunts because that's what i've got.

the one rule!

my ultimate suggestion for people who are new to edging and finding it almost impossible is to STOP TRYING TO EDGE. some of you are going like that's crazy edging is all i want to do! but listen to me. listen to me. we are going to get you there.

if horniness is a scale of one to ten, with one being 'not horny at all' and ten being 'orgasming' the ideal edging situation is that you get to a nine and then stop. that's really hard to do, though! but you could probably get to a four and stop, right? pretty easily, even.

that's what you want to do. figure out that highest number on that scale you can go and still stop, and go to that number. do this a lot. i love, love, LOVE touching like this, even now that i am a pro at edging, because there's zero risk of going over and it's still a great tool to keep you horny / submissive / feeling hot as hell / whatever it is you want to get out of edging.

start at bringing yourself to a four and then stop. once you've mastered that, once that feels almost too easy, move up to a five. then a six. seven. i encourage you not to cum at all while you're doing this, but also, i'm not your dom! do what you want! the point is you're touching-without-cumming a lot (which is great practice all on it's own) and you're acclimating your body to getting horny, sometimes even REALLY horny, without actually cumming every time it happens.

doing this regularly also has the pleasant side-effect keeping you aroused more often than not. if you're constantly bringing yourself to level seven horniness and then stopping, you are almost never going to drop below level three. you are going to be turned on a LOT, which feels sooooo good. which leads to...

getting addicted*!

the thing about being always horny, about touching yourself all the time, about never cumming, is that it feels really, really good. people wouldn't do denial if it didn't! and once you've had a month or so of touching-but-not-edging and your body's adjusted to the sense of being constantly turned on and how good it feels, it gets to a point where cumming is a lot less appealing. you know it's going to take away the good, horny, happy feeling that you're getting addicted to! once you've come to really, really enjoy being constantly horny, and come to associate the idea of cumming with losing that good feeling, that makes it a lot easier to keep from going over as you creep up to higher levels like eight and nine. and even when you do go over, the fact that you'll lose the sensation that you've come to enjoy so much will just reinforce for you that it's better not to cum!

*i'm using addicted as a fun little hyperbole word here, but i do want to add the disclaimer that if your edging / horniness / etc. starts to interfere with your life like a real addiction then you gotta stop that before you hurt yourself. do not actually jeopardize your job/relationships/etc. for kink.

edging!

by this point, you'll have lots of practice at masturbating without going over and you'll be addicted to the feeling of being constantly turned on — and you'll dread the thought of losing that feeling. those things combined are the peak edging scenario. this is the point when you can start trying to edge seriously; bringing yourself to a nine on our horny scale and stopping.

you will probably still go over occasionally as you figure out your actual limits — don't be angry at yourself for this, but do refrain from trying to edge again on days you go over. the last thing you want is to reacclimate your body to coming regularly. if you try to edge in the morning but go over by mistake, just bring yourself to a level eight for the rest of the times you masturbate and try again tomorrow. eventually, you'll know your limits, be addicted to the feeling of being edged, and be really practiced at doing it!

if you're still having trouble or just want to play in new ways, then find out what turns you on but you can't orgasm from. your nipples are sensitive enough to break your brain but you can't orgasm just from that? well then get to playing with them, dummy! love penetration but can't come from it without clit stimulation? tape off your clit and get fucking! i can never cum just from humping a pillow or grinding on something, so grinding is a great way for me to edge! try to find stuff that makes you really, really horny but that you can't orgasm from and really lean into those things!

Edging is better than cumming.

Sometimes it is the little things

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Edging

At first I thought that edging was just a silly game, but now I can see the effects that it has on me.

Thanks to Tumblr I started edging on my knees, on the floor with my tongue out, all naked, drooling and humiliating myself.

This is making me more and more depraved, and I’m starting to like kinks that I used to find disgusting.

It actually makes me feel dumber, my head feels all fuzzy and there is always a part of me that is thinking about edging. I’m constantly leaking and getting wet, so wet that I can feel my wetness ruining my panties.

I think Im getting dirtier and sluttier every day, and its so fucking hot

Filled

Yes, baby.

Yes, it’s possible to learn to like anal. To love the feeling of being stretched there, being filled. To crave it.

But I don’t want that, baby.

I want you to hate it every single time.

I want you to cry while I fuck your ass, I want you to beg me not to and promise anything and everything just so I won’t do it again.

I want it to be my favorite hole anyway.

Will you do that for me, baby?

god grant me the serenity to eroticize what i cannot change

it is so rewarding to turn a very smart woman into a stupid, edge addicted girl. she truly is capable of amazing things and i have watched her achieve great heights but she readily throws that off to the side to be a mindless whore for me<3

Sadism Please

I want someone to hurt me. I like pain, yes. But it's knowing that someone *wants* to hurt me, that my pain arouses them, that they are pleased by my suffering. That's the sexiest thing.

Tell me that I make cute noises when you hit me.

Tell me that my tears make turn you on.

Tell me that I'm so pretty when I'm afraid.

Sometimes, pin me down or tie me up so that I can't escape the torture.

Sometimes command me to take it using my own discipline to stay still.

Give me the opportunity to prove my devotion by suffering for you.

I promise, I'll be a good girl.

you know it’s funny, i’ve done a lot of humiliating things. i’ve submitted to strangers online. i’ve tortured myself for the amusements of others. i’ve pissed myself. i’ve made myself dumber and more desperate on purpose.

but the most humiliating thing that i can do is what i’m doing right now — admit that as much as i wish i was more, that i was better than this, i’m not. i can’t keep away no matter how hard i try. i will always have this craving to be humiliated and degraded. the thought of being used and abused will always make me ache and drip, even if it disgusts my rational mind.

i’m a dumb desperate slut with a broken mind. and i love it.

Hi sir, I’m still a little shy to reach out but I find myself periodically edging myself to your blog. Even at uni I’ll sneak off to the bathroom and what starts as an innocent check to see if you’ve posted turns into an edge which has me clenching my thighs in the lectures after, until I ca get home and edge some more.

It’s even worse now that I’ve bought myself one of those remote toys, which buzz at just the lowest setting to keep me on edge for hours, it’s so frustrating.

I feel even more frustrated than ever, and I hope you don’t mind me using you for permission, there’s something delicious about giving control of my orgasms to a total stranger who fulfils my every fantasy… can I please cum sir? I’ve been so good and followed your instructions from the last message I sent.

-R💕

Such a good toy! It seems like edging yourself feels so right. Bask in the feeling. Let the chemicals produced by your body from rubbing and edging flood your brain… building new synapses & neural pathways. Are you sure you want to cum?

I’m face-down ass-up on the floor in front of him, like I have been for the last hour while he watches TV. He takes a last mouthful of his beer and casually pushes the bottle inside me, working it as far into my cunt as it will go and laughing at how stupid I look. I moan and start to rock my hips and he stops. ‘Jesus, you’re actually enjoying this? You’re so fucking pathetic.’ He pulls it out and holds my pussy open, empty, desperate. He spits in it, slaps my clit, then stands and leaves the room. I hear him getting another beer. It’s going to be a long night.

I enjoy your conundrum...

You so often feel gross after cumming.. you tell yourself that you won’t rub your cunt to that sick depraved porn or fantasies anymore..

You come back every time anyway because you can’t resist. Wet and desperate is who you are. It is how you should be.

Good girls denied do the cutest most degrading things.

Does an older gentleman making you put on nipple clamps with little bells on them while you rub and edge yourself silly for his amusement sound hot to you?

“Humiliating isn’t it. Being told to lay there and hump the air while I watch. You’re doing all the right movements to feel the pleasure of someone fucking you. Making all the right noises, all the right faces. But, you don’t feel any pleasure. Your mind knows it should be feeling the wonderful sensations of a cock pumping in and out of you, but your body is being starved of it. Keep going. Keep imagining how good that feels in your head. Loose yourself in that fantasy of pleasure. Keep humping the air until your leggings are soaked through and then walk around the rest of the day knowing that your pussy is so starved of pleasure, so denied. That you don’t even need stimulation to get all worked up.”

(based on a real conversation I had with someone where they made me hump the air relentlessly)

Sadism Please

I want someone to hurt me. I like pain, yes. But it's knowing that someone *wants* to hurt me, that my pain arouses them, that they are pleased by my suffering. That's the sexiest thing.

Tell me that I make cute noises when you hit me.

Tell me that my tears make turn you on.

Tell me that I'm so pretty when I'm afraid.

Sometimes, pin me down or tie me up so that I can't escape the torture.

Sometimes command me to take it using my own discipline to stay still.

Give me the opportunity to prove my devotion by suffering for you.

I promise, I'll be a good girl.

it is so rewarding to turn a very smart woman into a stupid, edge addicted girl. she truly is capable of amazing things and i have watched her achieve great heights but she readily throws that off to the side to be a mindless whore for me<3

god grant me the serenity to eroticize what i cannot change

How to edge like a dumb slxt 🖤

. Get naked. Sluts need to be exposed and easily accessible while edging, so if someone finds you, they can fill your holes right away.

. Keep your legs spread, expose your holes. Reason is the same as above.

. Learn to edge in different positions. On your back, on your stomach humping your hand or a pillow, on your knees with your ass in the air, standing up. It doesn't matter if you're comfortable, you just need to edge.

. In different places too!! Don't just edge in your bed. Edge in the living room, the kitchen, even on the balcony! Also it's very good for sluts to edge on the floor.

. You can use toys, but you should also be able to edge with just your fingers. The goal is to be able to reach an eldge no matter where you are, no matter what time it is, only by rubbing your wet cunt for a brief while.

. Hump things!! And not only pillows, but also tables, chairs or the toilet seat. Humping things is good for you because it makes you look really desperate and pathetic.

. Because looking desperate and pathetic is VERY important. Remember that you edge to become a good toy and entertain others, so always put on a show. Open your mouth, stick your tongue out and drool. Go cross-eyed or roll your eyes back. Make pretty, needy noises to show everyone that you're eager to be used. Practice in front of a mirror or record yourself to make sure that you look and sound properly braindead.

. You should babble like a dumb whore while you edge, too. Tell the world what you are and what you need, don't be shy. It doesn't matter if it sounds ridiculous and embarrassing, that's the point.

. Look at and listen to fun things, like spirals and mantras and porn. That's the only education you need.

. Edge often. Edging for hours on end is fun, but it's even more important to edge regularly. Even if you're busy, every few hours your hand should wander between your legs and rub a few quick edges out, that way you'll be wet and needy all the time. Of course, when you have the day off, the best thing is to edge in the morning and stop only to rest, eat and drink and do other fun stuff! (Like offering your holes to people, for example.)

. Never ever cum

Filled

Yes, baby.

Yes, it’s possible to learn to like anal. To love the feeling of being stretched there, being filled. To crave it.

But I don’t want that, baby.

I want you to hate it every single time.

I want you to cry while I fuck your ass, I want you to beg me not to and promise anything and everything just so I won’t do it again.

I want it to be my favorite hole anyway.

Will you do that for me, baby?

Hi sir, I’m still a little shy to reach out but I find myself periodically edging myself to your blog. Even at uni I’ll sneak off to the bathroom and what starts as an innocent check to see if you’ve posted turns into an edge which has me clenching my thighs in the lectures after, until I ca get home and edge some more.

It’s even worse now that I’ve bought myself one of those remote toys, which buzz at just the lowest setting to keep me on edge for hours, it’s so frustrating.

I feel even more frustrated than ever, and I hope you don’t mind me using you for permission, there’s something delicious about giving control of my orgasms to a total stranger who fulfils my every fantasy… can I please cum sir? I’ve been so good and followed your instructions from the last message I sent.

-R💕

Such a good toy! It seems like edging yourself feels so right. Bask in the feeling. Let the chemicals produced by your body from rubbing and edging flood your brain… building new synapses & neural pathways. Are you sure you want to cum?

before my bf comes home from work i

- edge to make sure im in the right state of mind to be a good fucktoy

- put a plug in my asshole so it’s ready if he wants to use it

- make the bed and clean the kitchen so he doesn’t have to

- shower, do my make up pretty, and pick out a tiny outfit

- edge again until he’s home

tada! how to make your man happy

The best kind of sluts spend hours rubbing to the most disgusting disturbing things you can think of then casually talks to friends and family like nothing happened right afterwards.

I love the mindfuck

“Beg me not to let you cum, slut”

“Tell me you don’t want to cum”

“Tell me what you are?” “A good girl” “And what don’t good girls do?” “Good girls don’t cum, Sir”

“Beg me to not let you have any relief. Convince me that an orgasm is the last thing you want” 

“Tell me all the reasons why you don’t want to cum, whore”

Nothing gets me horny and desperate to cum than having to edge relentlessly and say that I don’t want to

Good girls edge over the nastiest and grossest porn they can find. It doesn’t matter how bad they’re gonna fry their brains. They just need to keep rubbing over and over until their brains leak out of their ears.

Hi sir - I’ve been edging for the past few weeks and reading your posts but I have no one to use me… do I keep edging until the right man comes along?

Basically… I’m asking for permission to cum because I’ve been edging for weeks and it’s all I can think about, even now my clit is throbbing and pussy is clenching around nothing just thinking about cumming. I’ve had no release and it’s all I can think about.

Please let me know what I can do, I’m desperate for some sort of guidance or instruction :((

-R💕

Good toy for reaching out!

Isn’t it delicious maintaining this state of heightened sexual tension? Shaping your daydreams.. permeating your mind… making your life more fun… creating intrigue… being complicit in your own bliss.

Rub more, edge more, goon more until you have permission. Let the feelings driven by your desire wash over your brain and savor it.

The short answer is yes. Keep edging until you have permission from a man. Some enjoy making posts and having their orgasms somewhat controlled by followers, which can be fun. Or it could be a rl or an online partner. As long as it’s someone you enjoy interacting with and trust to maintain your boundaries and help guide you in just the right ways that drive your desire. If you would like me to give guidance and perhaps permission, feel free to reach out directly as opposed to anon and we can see if it is a good fit.

Enjoy yourself, have fun, be safe and good luck!

walking around the house trying to do normal things with my clit clamped 😭 it hurts and hearing the bell jingle anytime I move is so embarrassingffff

I'm having difficulty denying myself for more than a few days, but I know good girls should edge. Do you have any advice or tasks?

It's great you are interested in exploring a heightened experience that typically may only be achieved with some denial.. You deserve a lot of credit for reaching out... So thats good! There are a few ways to help but it seems like the easiest is to have a partner who can help you.. Someone you trust that can give some guidance. It's a big difference having the accountability.

Feel free to reach out & good luck!